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Moms of older multiples - Honesty, please
Will it always be a cycle of three steps forward and two steps back??
The first 5 months were SO hard, then I felt like we hit a great stride for about 4 months. I felt like I could actually do this mommy of twins thing. Now with separation anxiety, nap problems, I feel like we have gone backwards. I again feel so lacking as a mommy these days. Half the time I have no clue what to do next. I am not sure if I will make it through the day!
Will is always be like this? A hard, easy, hard, easy pattern?
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Re: Moms of older multiples - Honesty, please
I'm not quite where you are yet, but I wish you the best of luck!! I'm sure it does get easier!!
I'm butting in to ask where you purchased the bath rings the girls are in in your siggy pic? Thank you!!!
I would have to say yes and no. When my guys turned 1 they were walking and playing together and that was great. Now they are RUNNING in 2 different directions which is exhausting. I'm also having issues with tantrums now.
I actually think this is how parenting goes. Once you think you have a handle on things the kids change where they are developmentally and you have to adjust again. I think it's supposed to keep us on our toes!
I do think the different stages are hard in different ways though. When they are infants it's difficult b/c they can't communicate their needs so we have to guess. Then they get mobile and keeping up with them and keeping them out of harms way is exhausting. Then they develop language skills and are able to say no and tell you how they feel about things. Now my boys are able to play with each other which is cute but it also means they are able to fight with each other - both verbally and physically!
It may sound corny but I heard Darius Rucker's (of Hootie and the Blowfish) song, "It Won't Be This Way for Long" the other day and just cried and cried. This has become my mantra. Any time I find myself wishing a phase away I try to remind myself that one day I will look back and be sad that it's over.
Hang in there. I'm sure you are a great MoM!
My twins are 5! My baby is 3!
DS#2 - Allergic to Cashew, Pistachio, Kiwi
DS#3 - Allergic to Milk, Egg, Peanut, Tree Nuts and Sesame
My twins aren't older, yet. But I have to agree with a pp, I think it's just parenting in general that gets easier and harder..it all comes in spurts. My daughter has gone through some REALLY rough patches, and then she'll come out of it, and go into something else ;-) and with twins, I'd image it's just like everything else, double as hard.
You're a great MoM, don't be so hard on yourself! And once they start communicating more, it gets SO much easier. My daughter, while having her moments with terrible 2's, is SO MUCH fun!! I never thought we'd get here, but we did, and I'm truly LOVING it! I know it seems far away, but it will come sooner then you know...hang in there.
it's not just a twin thing- even with a singleton it goes that way... just when you think you have them figured out - they change things up on you thanks to teethings, getting sick, learning to walk, etc....
I think around 18mos it got a little easier b/c DS could do more on his own and understand us a lot better- and also communicate to us more.
My trio are five now and it is finally getting easier. I do not want to scare you but I am going to be honest.
The frist year was a physical drain on me, not getting sleep them being sick, there were new challenges around every corner. Just when I thought I saw a light at the end of the tunnel someone turned it off.
second year, was easeir physicaly than the first but this is when the mental part started to change, as well as the worries. They were getting around more and driving me crazy.
Age three came talking and talking back. Three was my worst age. I hated it.
Four was not that bad, but again it was mentaly draining at times.
so far five is great.
yes the easy hard easy hard pattern continues throughout.
We've definitely had our highs and lows. With my girls at 26 months, I can still say that those first few months were by far the hardest. I might think differently if Charlotte wasn't such a difficult child with colic, AR, and a number of health issues.
Things got much easier and down right pleasant from 6-12 months. But then things got really hard for a bit between 12-16/17 months. The girls fought a lot during this time (I think it was due to limited communication skills) and they had all this ability to get around and get into things - but didn't have the full understanding of their limits. Since 18 months things have become easier and easier for me. Two years plus has been our best time by far. The girls are so much fun and so much easier to deal with on so many levels.