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engaged678
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Did anyone else dislike BFing?
engaged678
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... on the topic of BFing...
Flame me if you must but I really didn't like BFing like I thought I would. I BF'd DS for 4.5 months but quit due to mastitis, tanking supply and the stress that comes with it. I had one boob that quit completely so I was left to feed DS on one side alone and, needless to say, I couldn't keep up. I was disappointed because I had to start supplementing after trying Fenugreek... but now I look back and see that it somewhat ruled my life for those 4 months. I always heard that BFing is way easier but I don't think it was. It had it's definite convenient parts but I'm still not totally convinced.
I'd do it again in a heartbeat if we were to have another baby because of all of the good things it provides but I don't miss it.
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Re: Did anyone else dislike BFing?
I'll just say this. When it was good it was good. When it was bad it was VERY bad. There was no in between for me. I was either crying of joy for him latching on or crying out of frustration as to why he wouldn't latch. BF was a roller-coaster of emotion for me.
I'm still gonna give it all I got with child #2.
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I feel much the same way. I bf'd until 6 months when I started having some health issues, my supply tanked, and we decided taking meds for the health issue was more important than bf'ing.
I really wish I had been able to bf for longer. And if I'm ever blessed enough to have another child I'll go whole hog to bf again and for at least a year.
But I didn't like bf'ing at all. I didn't really feel the "bonding" that so many people talk about and I felt like I either had mastisis, bleeding nipples, or supply issues the whole damn time which made The State of My Boobs take up a way larger percentage of my thoughts and time than I felt happy with.
I miss DD getting breastmilk. I don't miss breastfeeding.
I dislike parts of it, like still feeling like my body is not my own. So basically I dislike some of it due to selfish reasons.
And I really disliked it at first because she had lots of problems latching on. But its really easy now and I really enjoy the bonding time with her. And I think there are advantages and situations where its easier, like in the middle of the night when I'm half asleep. I can pop a boob out instead of fixing a bottle. But also, a disadvantage is that DH can't help. (Which I think he secretly LOVES).
I do feel like it rules my life though. I can't even make lunch plans without figuring out when she ate last and where I could feed her at the restaurant, etc.
To sum up, I could go either way.
I hated it the first month and if I'd had all the issues that you had, I would have kept on hating it! Nothing wrong with that.
I will say that for me, once BFing got easy, it got very easy and I do enjoy it now for the most part.
I didn't love it with DD1--I could have walked away at any point and not been sad. I somehow managed to make it to 13.5 mos though.
With DD2, maybe it is perspective, maybe something is different (she did start nursing like a CHAMP from minute 1 and DD1 took a lot longer to catch on), but I like it this time and it is a lot more convenient.
She's quicker--we're talking 10-15 minutes MAX from early on, whereas DD1 took 30-60 minutes--and since her older sister sometimes dictates our schedule (like not being able to plan things around DD2's eating schedule), I love it that I have to leave the house with only a burp rag...no bottles or formula. And as long as we have enough diapers, we can stay out longer than we had planned.
I don't think everyone experiences the "running-through-the-meadows" beauty of BFing. I certainly don't think anyone should feel bad if they don't!
This was my situation. I pumped for 8 months and it was so hard on me. I think that it took away from my DS's early months. I don't think I could EP again for mental health.
ditto exactly. I never liked BFing and didnt really see/feel the bond. DD is a very frustrating nurser (she will scratch and pinch and is just difficult). I hate pumping at work. But I keep bfing and pumping. However Im excited to be done in 5.5 weeks!
This. Now it's easy, but the beginning was hell.
for me too. Although, I had a cold late last week and my supply really tuck a hit. I hope this isn't the end.