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2nd Trimester
Hubby made me take down my belly pic
He is paranoid about the internet, and people compiling info and data on people- he is constantly warning me about facebook (there I see his point) but to respect his paranoid opinion, I had to take my belly pic down:( 
I'm so annoyed!!!
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Re: Hubby made me take down my belly pic
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like pp said you can always crop yourhead out of the shot.
you still look great though
Ditto
Your husband is right. Crop your face out if you need to compramise. I would be more worried about the info you put out on thebump.com IMO.
My friend's hubby is a DT. and she is always asked if her and her husband are still together because she doesn't post any pictures of him or even puts down who she is married to on FB. That is because he doesn't allow her to for privacy reasons and his line of work. Anything you do on the interwebs can be tracked. Trust me, all you need is *one* very dedicated stalker.
Thanks again guys...
Saltandpepa- my husband feels exactly as you do, and it helps to here it from an unbiased person!
WTF is compramise? Either way, your husband is a pyscho and so are you for listening to him. Are you that important that you need to be worried about people stalking you on thebump? Because now I'm thinking about doing it. BTW, I've been stalked by my sister no less and she's in jail now. Get over yourselves.
As for FB, my husband is one of the biggest advertisers on that site and one of the biggest manipulators of users' data. I'll tell you right now: they don't give a crap about individuals and the most harmful thing they do is "targeted marketing." So, if you say that you're engaged, you're going to get a bunch of ads for Wedding Photographers and junk like that. Of course, you can always omit that information. FB is very respectful of users' information, which is frustrating to DH but should ease your pretty lil' head.
OP -- I think your husband is absolutely right. There have been several people over the years who I have seen leave the Knot/Nest/Bump because they've been stalked by someone after putting too much personal information on here.
And, for what it's worth, you don't have to be someone "really important" in order to be stalked. Someone could just take offense at one of your posts and decide to make your life miserable.
Name one instance where someone pressed charges because of stalking. There are a lot of hormonal women on here who take one conflicting remark and scream "stalker." I have never once seen or heard of anyone actually pressing charges.
Nobody can make your life miserable unless you let them. Stop playing victim and move on.
This topic I can speak about!
I work in the technology field. I currently I work a Corp. Information Security department (one of the most sophisticated in the country). I also have a technical security certification, my CISSP (if anyone cares).
It is extremely easy to extract data - most of the time from multiple sources - in order to to damage to your reputation and identity. Just becuase you make your Facebook page private to friends only DOES NOT COMPLETELY PROTECT YOU FROM intelligent cyberstalkers, identity thieves and the like. I don't mean to scare anyone, but it is unfortunately the reality.
So your husband is right to be paranoid. However, as far as a belly pic is concerned, I do agree with the other ladies that you could crop your head out if you wanted to and still post the belly. I can't see any harm in a "just" belly pic.
I agree that there are plenty of intelligent hackers, etc. that can cause harm, however, they're more apt to do it via email viruses and trojans versus spiders, crawlers, spyware, etc. Again, these are all broad-based threats and attacks.
Since we're throwing out credentials, I graduated from one of the top three Computer Science schools in the country and I'm getting a PhD from the number one school. Stanford turns out a high number of hackers and I know a good deal of them. The reality is that hackers are less interested in targeting you for personal reasons. If they do it, they're going to do it whether you have your pic on thebump or not.
Congrats on your PhD! You are absolutely right - most attacks are broad-based and not personal. And yes, again, you are right - hackers are going to do with with or without a pic on the bump.
However, I was pointing out that what some may consider "paranoia" isn't so paranoid and if a criminal (especially a "social engineer" - that's another whole conversation LOL) wants to target an individual (say, someone with a vendetta for some insane reason), it is possible. To be clear, one belly pic on the bump won't do it -- it does takes a number of factors.
But it seemed like a good time to caution all of us to be careful. That's all.
We're on the same page. I just prefer people to be informed versus running around regurgitating what they hear on the media or through friends (or husbands). It's like if her husband told her not to take the baby/child out because there are stalkers, murderers and rapists. Sure, there are; but you can't not ever go outside again and you can't live your life in fear. That's not to say that we can't get a friendly reminder every so often that there are sick people in this world. The point is two-fold:
1. Don't harp on it.
2. Live your life.
The third is be an individual aside from DH but I won't even get into that.