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vanillacourage
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DS1 born June 2008 | m/c at 9w March 2011 | DS2 born April 2012
SAH is making me want to rip my eyeballs out.
vanillacourage
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Got laid off a few weeks ago and this is my first week home with DS out of daycare (and it doesn't even really count since we're going on vacation for a week without him on Thursday).
I don't know if it was just a terrible time in his development to happen to decide to SAH, but his separation anxiety is OUT of CONTROL. He does the silent scream if I set him down to go pee, or get a bite to eat, or check my email for any scrap of a job lead. If I hold him, or sit rightnexttohim he's fine, but that's obviously somewhat limiting. I feel like a panda at the zoo.
Any tips? Surely this too will pass, right?
DS1 born June 2008 | m/c at 9w March 2011 | DS2 born April 2012
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Re: SAH is making me want to rip my eyeballs out.
SP does that too, only to me. If I set him down to go pee, he'll whinewhinewhinewhinewhine, but if DH does it, he'll crab for 30 seconds and get over it.
I've got no solutions. It is what it is at the moment.
aokiedokie
DD is doing this too. Even if she's happily playing on the floor next to me and I move away she freaks out. If I'm holding her and put her down it's silent scream time for us too!
I am working so I do get a break from it, but I can imagine it would be exhausting if I was SAH! Can you wear him in a carrier at all?
I was on vacation last week with DD and I pretty much just had to hold her or stay close to her a lot!
If they even see my back, they both start up with the whining. Any sign I might be walking away from them and that sets up the waterworks.
It's hard since I can't carry them up/down the stairs at the same time, so, in the AM, someone is left upstairs while I get one downstairs. That person screams bloody murder like they were just abandoned them in the middle of the woods.
It's getting pretty old. Right now....they're ignoring me and playing. But, if I want to pee, get something to drink, or make a phone call, all hell breaks loose.
I know how you feel. That's why I grumble when people talk about how great it is to SAH (although in some respects it is pretty great). I am at home part-time, but I also need to do work while I'm at home. I've found that doing anything aside from hanging with the kiddo is pretty much impossible right now (unless she's napping). I think you just have to give into it and it feels better.
Oh, and I put the safety gate in the bathroom doorway. This helps with Lily because she has fun standing there watching me pee and isn't trying to climb all over me while I do my business.
DD is a big fan of the silent scream. For DD when she gets really upset she'll let out a cry first and then it builds up so much that she looks like she's crying (red face, mouth open) but no sound comes out. It will go on for a little bit and then finally turn into the loudest cry she makes. Silent cry is when we know DD is extremely upset!
See, this is why I know I could never be at SAH mom. By the end of my work day I can't wait to pick DS up and I love my evenings and weekends with him, but if I was home with him all day every day I would lose my mind!
Sorry I can't help with the separation anxiety. I'm going through the same thing with DS. Good luck with the job search.