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DANGER! Facebook (no danger for you, just for me)

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So there's this guy. He and I were 'dating' when I was 16, but I moved out of state and things broke down. no more boyfriend. Fast forward a few years. We got back in touch and had a tiny thing the fall before I started dating DH. I went to see him twice while he was in the military and had a blast. Things didn't work out because of the long distance thing and a few other minor little issues. We still had feelings, but it wasn't going to work out. Haven't talked to him since. He doesn't know I'm married or have a baby on the way because there really was no need to tell him. We weren't in touch.

Now I just got a friend invitation from him on Facebook. I know what to do--hit ignore--but I'm curious about what's been going on in his life now. I know there aren't any feelings any more because I'm deeply in love with my husband. Nothing could make me stray. Still curious, though.

But I also know that if I told him I was married and expecting, he would say congratulations and that all he ever wanted was for me to be happy. Then he'd probably never talk to me again.

Must.Do.The.Right.Thing.

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Re: DANGER! Facebook (no danger for you, just for me)

  • sxu0007sxu0007
    Just click accept!! LOL
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  • mavilabridemavilabride member

    I'm really immature.  I would have accepted, checked out his profile, then de-friend.

    LOL That can be my Monday Morning Confession.  I friend people so that I can be nosy and then defriend.

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  • sweetheartfacesweetheartface
    oh, I would absolutely accept his friend request...no harm in that!  Actually a similar thing happened with me, and I did accept, and I think he was just as curious as I was about what was going on in our lives....neither one of us has said anything to eachother, I think we both just wanted to look!
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  • 2bejunebride062bejunebride06 member
    I would accept an ex-boyfriend's friend request - I'm always curious to see what people have been up to.  I don't really see any harm in it really.  If it did get wierd I would de-friend immediately, but other than that I would probably just leave them as a friend. 
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  • KsisKsis
    If you can HONESTLY say that it would not cause any temptations, then accept the invite.  If you can't honestly say that...forget it...
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