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made the announcement

Lil'MisaLil'Misa
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So we finally told our family and close friends about expecting our first. Our parents were beyond excited!  However, after telling some friends I really know who I need to keep as "close" friends after making the announcement.

When I got my BFP I wasn't excited to tell my friend who was my MOH. We have drifted apart over the last two years. When I told her all she said was, "That is wonderful news."  Nothing else. Other friends had a million questions and kept saying how excited they are and all she said was, that is wonderful news.  Very disappointing but not surprising.  I think I knew she would react that way, that is why I wasn't excited to even share the news with her.

On the bright side we are glad to have it off our chests and sharing it with those around us.  It is starting to feel more and more real. Big Smile

 

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  • Heather1979Heather1979 member
    Get back to me on this in a year, but I imagine it's similar to getting married- you learn a lot about the people around you in both situations.
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  • jdiaz79jdiaz79
    Congrats on telling your family/friends! It is so much more fun when everyone knows! Sorry your MOH reacted like that, but some people don't really react to news the way we would :)
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  • StVincentGradStVincentGrad
    imageLil'Misa:

    So we finally told our family and close friends about expecting our first. Our parents were beyond excited!  However, after telling some friends I really know who I need to keep as "close" friends after making the announcement.

    When I got my BFP I wasn't excited to tell my friend who was my MOH. We have drifted apart over the last two years. When I told her all she said was, "That is wonderful news."  Nothing else. Other friends had a million questions and kept saying how excited they are and all she said was, that is wonderful news.  Very disappointing but not surprising.  I think I knew she would react that way, that is why I wasn't excited to even share the news with her.

    On the bright side we are glad to have it off our chests and sharing it with those around us.  It is starting to feel more and more real. Big Smile

     

     

    I don't understand what the problem is. She told you that this "is wonderful news." 

    Get over yourself.

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  • high_hopeshigh_hopes member

    Wow. Sorry that the last post above mine was incredibly rude. No

    I'm excited for you that you told everyone!!!! Isn't it a nice feeling to have it out there!? Smile

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    Wow. Sorry that the last post above mine was incredibly rude. No

    I'm excited for you that you told everyone!!!! Isn't it a nice feeling to have it out there!? Smile

    p.s. She isn't even KU....so she doesn't know how it feels. Hmm

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  • sawyer2sawyer2 member
    wow you are kinda ungreatful,  she said it was wonderful news, maybe something has happened to her maybe a m/c or something else to get all jumping up and down for joy.
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  • lindsay.loulindsay.lou member
    I think "that is wonderful news" is actually a great response. What exactly is wrong with it? Is your main issue the fact that she didn't ask you a million questions about it?
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  • Lil'MisaLil'Misa

    Sorry if you thought I was full of myself. I was just disappointed because I was excited to share my news and she wasn't excited to hear it. It is upsetting because she was my best friend. She is the type of person to ask a million questions and jump up and down for joy and she didn't. I got more of a positive reaction when I put an offer on a house.  It just seems a little weird to me. 

    Yes, I realize what she said is appropriate and nice just not what I would expect from such a close friend.

    And no she has never been pregnant or had a miscarriage. 


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  • LindsE143LindsE143
    I think it's similar to when you're planning a wedding - some people just tend to be more of a hurdle than a help. ?You're pregnant and wanting to share with loved ones the great news!?My feelings would probably be hurt too if my BF reacted like that, so I don't think you're "full of yourself" at all. ?BTW - isn't it so funny how rude some people can be when they have the mask of the all-mighty Internet?? ?;)
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  • mandy1383mandy1383

    You DO learn a lot about people during pregnancy! ?My BF of 20 years is no longer even a friend because of the way she acted and the things she said to DH and I after I announced my pregnancy with DS and even about a year after I had him.

    ?Your MOH did say the appropriate thing and though it may not have felt from the heart her actions over the next few months will speak the loudest. ?So just give her time and see what happens. ?

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  • bandwifebandwife
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    Wow. Sorry that the last post above mine was incredibly rude. No

    I'm excited for you that you told everyone!!!! Isn't it a nice feeling to have it out there!? Smile

    Agreed. Your MOH should be thrilled for you and asking loads of questions. My MOH (also my sister) couldn't stop screaming when I told her and is dying for it to be public news so she can talk more about it. She also happily filled in at my first midwife appt when my DH's flight was delayed.

    "That is wonderful" and then nothing is a clear indication she is not excited for you. Try and shake it and surround yourself with the friends that are excited.

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  • draperdraper
    It think it is completely normal for you to want a "more than just appropriate" reaction from one of your BEST friends. Although people are different and respond to situations differently based on their own experiences, it is easy to feel disappointed when someone can't relate to your joy, pain, etc. I would have been really hurt if my MOH wasn't overjoyed for me. And I mean - overjoyed! Maybe that makes me self-involved, but I can't help the way I feel. If being proud of being pregnant makes a woman egotistical...then I'm okay with that, too. ANYWAY, I agree with the person who wrote that her actions over the next few months will matter the most. Congrats on spreading the word to your loved ones. :)
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  • Lil'MisaLil'Misa
    Ladies, thanks for your supportive responses. It will be interesting to see how she acts over the next year or so.  Actions do speak louder than words.
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  • hols78hols78 member
    Just a thought- you may have said this but I don't recall having read it... Is she married or trying to have kids of her own? After three years of trying and having 7 of my closest friends have babies during that time, sometimes the best you can say is "that's wonderful". I know it is not what you want to hear when it is your wonderful news but if she is struggling to have her own kids- trust me, that took all her heart and soul to say.
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