"all babies develop at their own rate"

Re: "all babies develop at their own rate"

• userdeleted member

  April 2009

  What sparks this? I mean, it's true that every baby is different. I know my SIL is always asking when DS is going to start crawling because some kid she babysits for supposedly started crawling at 6 months old. I keep telling her there is a wide range of normal but I don't think she gets it.
  

  

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• J+O

  April 2009

  Why?

  
  

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• nbjenni

  April 2009

  I have to use it a lot. My girls are polar opposites in everything they do. One rolls over like a tumbleweed, while the other can sit by herself. One talks constantly, the other still coos.

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• emiliemadison member

  April 2009

  Unless your talking about some major developmental delays, then it's entirely appropriate and accurate to say that babies develop at their own rate. Is this even in question?

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• J+O

  April 2009

  Are you upset about the responses to your previous posts about imitation? ?If so, my DS is the same age and is not "imitating." ?He was three weeks early and although he's huge and probably the size of most 1 year olds, mentally he's about three weeks behind really. ?He was a late smiler, giggler, etc. ?Don't be upset by it... and stop worrying!

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• susanmosley member

  April 2009

  Not worried about anything and certainly not upset.

  I just think that it is SO COMPLETELY understood that all babies are different and everyone develops differently.  I think saying that as a response to a question is like throwing in, "the sky is blue."  Just really not necessary.  And I think people use it as some pacifying justification when it is not needed.   

  Again, really not upset or bothered.  I just read that all of the time and think it is just a silly comment.  It means nothing...because it is so true it doesn't need to be said in every thread (okay, that is an exaggeration, but it is in a lot of threads)

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• userdeleted member

  April 2009

  susanmosley:

  Not worried about anything and certainly not upset.

  I just think that it is SO COMPLETELY understood that all babies are different and everyone develops differently.  I think saying that as a response to a question is like throwing in, "the sky is blue."  Just really not necessary.  And I think people use it as some pacifying justification when it is not needed.   

  Again, really not upset or bothered.  I just read that all of the time and think it is just a silly comment.  It means nothing...because it is so true it doesn't need to be said in every thread (okay, that is an exaggeration, but it is in a lot of threads)

  Well, first I would say that while most probably intellectually know that all babies develop differently, a lot of people still really don't "get it." Which is why there are many, many posts by people who are freaked out that their child isn't doing xyz yet. Even if they do "get it," sometimes they just post because they want the reassurance that their child is, in fact, normal. 

  I guess I don't know what else you want people to say. Sometimes the answer to the question is "every child develops at their own rate." You might find that annoying, but it's a fact. 
  

  

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• cc605

  April 2009

  I just think it's a bone to throw out there so a mom doens't worry about the rate of development in her child. It just a little reminder to those who post OMG MY BABY ISN"T ROLLING and are having a freak attack (not to say you are I didn't read the OP)

  

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• susanmosley member

  April 2009

  There is no OP to read.  This vent stands alone.

  J+O referred to a previous post of mine, sparked by my curiosity, not a concern.  I currently have no concerns regarding the development of my DD (knock on wood).

  I have been going back days reading various posts and just keep coming across this response, to which I think, either answer the question (did you DC ... or at what age did your DC .... or should I be worried?) or don't reply. 

  Apparently, I am in the minority...again! 

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• star173 member

  April 2009

  susanmosley:

  There is no OP to read.  This vent stands alone.

  J+O referred to a previous post of mine, sparked by my curiosity, not a concern.  I currently have no concerns regarding the development of my DD (knock on wood).

  I have been going back days reading various posts and just keep coming across this response, to which I think, either answer the question (did you DC ... or at what age did your DC .... or should I be worried?) or don't reply. 

  Apparently, I am in the minority...again! 

  If you are talking about when someone says, "When did your child do this?" and someone replies, "every baby is different" and nothing more, I agree. That's silly. But the fact is, every baby is different, so to tack it on to a response to maybe give the mother some peace of mind- well, that's certainly okay to me.

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