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2nd Trimester
KitKat307
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Employer vent (kinda long)
KitKat307
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So at work today my employer accuses me of sharing confidential information about another employee and proceeds to tell me how disappointed he is. He wouldn't even let me say a word and by the way, his accusations are false. After about 10 minutes of nothing but false accusations and basically berating me in the office I couldn't help it and started crying. I hate crying in front of my employer b/c he is insensitive and chalks it up to hormones. He told me the alleged conversation took place at a movie night at my house ( not work-related but some of my coworkers were there b/c they are also my friends). Then, get this, he asks me if I'm sure I didn't say anything and if I was DRINKING! All I could think to myself was are you f-ing kidding me? So I looked him dead in the eye and said, no I"m pregnant of course I wasn't drinking.
This is the last straw with him. I won't have a job when I come back from maternity leave I have already been told, though not in so many words. I really just can't take this harassment anymore~ I told him he was causing undue stress to myself and my baby and that it was not good for my health. He basically told me that if I wasn't happy and didn't feel that this is the best place for me to work then I could leave!
Vent over...thanks for "listening"
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Re: Employer vent (kinda long)
What a complete ***!!! I'm sorry that you have to deal with this. It sounds like he is trying to get rid of you before your leave. Are they paying maternity leave for you? Maybe he doesn't want to and is hoping you will quit.
That sucks though, I'm sorry.
Wow. what an unbelievable jerk. I'm so sorry you have to deal with him!!!
Where did you get that pink/grey shirt in your siggy pic? It's so cute!
I actually bought it at JcPenney!
If he has already practically told you that there wont be a job for you after you return from Maternity Leave, and he is telling you that you aren't a good fit. And he is also accusing you of stuff you didn't do. It sounds to me like he is trying to push you out the door and finding a way to justify the termination. I am in HR, employers/managers do this all the time. I bet you anything he is documenting it and putting it in your file too.
If I were you I would document your side incase this blows out of proportion and you need to defend yourself.
But in all honesty, from what you are saying, I wouldn't want to work for the jerk anyway.
No, I don't get paid maternity leave. He has a major issue with pregnant people! Another girl at work is pregnant and he's doing the same thing to her! I can't believe he had the nerve to ask if I had been drinking! I seriously wanted to rip his head off at that point!
No, I don't get paid maternity leave. He has a major issue with pregnant people! Another girl at work is pregnant and he's doing the same thing to her! I can't believe he had the nerve to ask if I had been drinking! I seriously wanted to rip his head off at that point!
He just sounds worse and worse. At least you and the other girl can vent together about him but it's still a really crappy situation. I don't know the legality of the situation but it doesn't sound right to me at all!
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I work in HR too, and I totally agreed with rebeccaontherocks. Document every conversation. It will be especially important in the event that they try and give you a warning or performance improvement plan. That happened with a girl I worked with--they put her on a performance improvement plan while she was pregnant and then termed her within 2 months of when she got back from leave. I also was recently told in my mid-year evaluation that basically I need to decide which is more important, my family or my career. (Obviously my family comes first.) Employers think they can take advantage of anyone in this market--it's sad.
Maybe do some research on the Pregnancy Discrimination Act to see if you think your employer may be violating the law.
If you are that unhappy, as it sounds like you are (I wouldn't want to work for someone like your boss, either!), start working with a recruiter before you have your baby so that you can start interviewing while you're still out on leave. That's what I'm going to do!
Good luck
Don't let him get away with it. I know you feel sensative, but don't let him chase you out the door until you are ready to go. The economy sucks and the job market is tight. If you like your job besides him, you really should stick up for yourself. He is setting you up like pp said. You should write him an email or letter saying that although he accused you of doing XYZ, he is not correct and that you resent him of accusing you of XYZ. I would throw in there that it offends you that he asked you if you were drinking bc what you do in your free time is none of his business, but you happen to be preggos any way. Like pp said document and be clear that you disagree.
If you don't need the money or the job, you could just let it go, but he sounds like a bully and this is against the code of ethics at most jobs.
GL
Wow.
What a d-bag.
We are a smaller company so we don't have HR. He is HR! Great, huh! I was talking to my dad about it and he thinks I should call the Wage and Labor Board!