Can't allow myself to be happy....

ruffle&rust · April 2009

After two m/c im terrified. I feel guilty for not allowing myself to be happy. Please tell me this is normal.

MrsSandro · April 2009

Let me post my favorite Mantra's for you. Especially the one about jinxing a pregnancy. It's okay to allow yourself to be happy.

* "Today I am pregnant and I love my baby."
* "I am pregnant until someone tells me otherwise."
* "My past does not dictate my future. A previous m/c does not mean I will have another m/c."--"Just because something sad is happening to another poster, does not mean it will happen to you. We all know m/c and complications are not contagious!
* "Hope does not make bad things happen" You cannot ?jinx? your pregnancy by creating a ticker, getting excited, or telling someone. Live in the positive!
* And this is the hardest one: "There is nothing I can do to prevent a m/c from happening. Worrying yourself sick doesn't prevent a m/c. And if (gods forbid) it were to happen again, I know I will survive."

j.h.mommy · April 2009

I am right there with ya. Thanks for that MrsSandro, it made me relax a bit

Becky262 · April 2009

Hugs!

The Success after a Loss board might be really helpful too

sgrl · April 2009

((HUGS)) it's tough, I know. The only thing that helped me is saying a prayer every time I started to worry. Good luck to you.

ruffle&rust · April 2009

Thank you, Thank you, Thank you! This brought tears to my eyes. I will keep this close to my heart.

BabyG_ · April 2009

MrsSandro:
* "Today I am pregnant and I love my baby."
* "I am pregnant until someone tells me otherwise."
* "My past does not dictate my future. A previous m/c does not mean I will have another m/c."--"Just because something sad is happening to another poster, does not mean it will happen to you. We all know m/c and complications are not contagious!
* "Hope does not make bad things happen" You cannot ?jinx? your pregnancy by creating a ticker, getting excited, or telling someone. Live in the positive!
* And this is the hardest one: "There is nothing I can do to prevent a m/c from happening. Worrying yourself sick doesn't prevent a m/c. And if (gods forbid) it were to happen again, I know I will survive."

MrsSandro, this is beautiful. I appreciate that you have posted this and I have printed it out to keep with me always. I think this will serve to reassure and comfort many women.