Can I be a bitter betty today?

beachgal0114 · April 2009

I went to my cardiologist's office yesterday for a yearly check-up. We started talking about TTC and IVF since bcp/hormones make my blood pressure go up. She said "You know, I think one of the key things in TTC is to not stress. If you're relaxed it's going to happen much more easily." Um, okay, thanks doc. I'm sure relaxing will cure the fact that I only have half an ovary. She was also very skeptical about the length of time we'd been trying. Like I need any more reason to doubt myself!

Then I got home and DH and I had a big conversation about IVF, adoption, our fears, how I'm having a hard time right now, etc. Not an hour later we're watching TV and DH sees that Baby Mama is on. He insists on watching it because it's "soo funny." I was like "Did we not just have a conversation about how hard it is for me to see pg women right now?" And esp. a movie with that plotline. He changed it, but then kept trying to switch back "for the funny parts." I finally just left the room.

Here's hoping today is better.

ashlyrose · April 2009

I will join you today too! Sometimes men just don't understand the emotions that woman have. I told my H that our first EDD is coming up on 4-14 & that I can't believe that we could have had a child right now. He says "well why are you dwelling on that, get over it" Really! Emotions in men & woman are different plan & simple. I'm tired of being sick & feeling uncomfortable & in the bathroom all time due to darn metformin. I wish this all could be over with

jlcrane78 · April 2009

You can totally be a bitter betty today! I'd beat my husband down if he tried to make me watch something that he knew would upset me. I'm glad you just left the room. I love my DH to pieces, but the things that bother me don't seem to affect him in the same way. He wants a child, but he doesn't ache for a child. I think that's the best way to explain it.

Just remember that your cardiologist is your cardiologist and not your fertility doctor. They are supposed to know hearts - not how to make a baby. It's hard but try to shrug it off as best you can and definitely don't let it create doubt for you. You need to take the steps in the time that is right for you. No other person should determine your TTC path except for you and your DH.

*hugs to you* I hope today goes better for you!

jehnm · April 2009

I'm sorry you were frustrated. I would not have been happy to watch that movie at all! As the pp said, your cardiologist really doesn't know much about fertility and getting you pregnant. Heck, when I started down this road, I realized that my GYN didn't know much about actually getting people pregnant! Concentrate on what you are working on with RE. I am constantly reminding myself that people pay this guy every day to get them pregnant so I need to trust him a little!!

But feel free to vent all you need to!!

beachgal0114 · April 2009

Thanks everyone. Sometimes it just really helps to vent to people who know what I'm talking about!

Dragonfly1226 · April 2009

I'm so sorry! NO doctor should give the "just relax" speech. And bad move on dh's part. Even the best men can be so stupid sometimes!

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