Would DH ever be a SAHD?

Lucky428 · April 2009

DH and I were having a talk and I asked him if he would ever be a SAHD if I had a high-powered lucrative career (I'm a teacher so that's not the case!) and he said flat-out no. His friend's wife is pressuring him to be a SAHD and he really doesn't want to. DH said no matter how much money we had, he would do some sort of work. I'm fairly certain he feels this way because he puts so much self worth into his career accomplishments.

I completely agree. It would be very weird for me. I grew up in a very traditional home - my dad worked and my mom was the traditional soccer mom. Basically just working until we can afford for me to stay home. Some women look at me like I'm crazy and oppressed because my dream career is SAHM.

I think it's great for men to be a SAHD, I'm just curious if there are other men who would like to do it.

lil_rhody · April 2009

I think my husband would do if things were right. I could never be a SAHM though, and I don't think he'd want to put me in the position of sole breadwinner because we've already discussed how I feel that is a lot of pressure to put on one person.

LAT37 · April 2009

My dh would definately do it. He jokes about me getting a better job so he can stay at home all the time. I don't think that I'd really like all that stress of being the sole bread winner either though.

Rosieoutlook · April 2009

I'm also a teacher and plan to stay home. My DH makes much more money than I do so it would never be realistic for him to stay home. He also has 0 baby experience and I think he'll be pretty nervous when we actually bring our little one home. I don't think he would want to be a SAHD.

Mskharis · April 2009

My DH is a SAHD now, but thats because he hurt himself and is on LTD, so he has an income, but not what he would have if he were working, but we manage good. Personally, I could never be a SAHM unless something were to happen to me like DH. I am too independent and like to have my own. But to each its own.

AlpacaBunny · April 2009

My DH's job sucks right now. They have been laying off a ton of people and we were actually just talking about him staying home if he lost his job. If we could somehow swing it with living on one income we would do it. I have great insurance at my job, so that's why I would keep working, plus I work in a school so I have great hours and days off, etc. But yeah, my DH said he would do it for a while.

LizLovesJason · April 2009

I think my DH would like the staying-home part, but not the taking-care-of-kids part! Any time I ask him to watch the kids for an hour or two, by the time I get back he's exhausted and overwhelmed. Which is always a perfect time to remind him that as a SAHM, that's what I do every day! He's told me that he wouldn't be able to do it.

Martinez623 · April 2009

If we could live on my salary alone (I'm a sped teacher, no WAY), then he'd totally do it. He would love to be home all day, hanging out

I'd love to stay home, but I honestly think I'd go crazy without much adult interaction. Who knows what we'll do, I'm still deciding!! But if it were feasable, he'd totally stay home!

julia&jared · April 2009

DH might stop working to finish his schooling so if that was the case then he would stay home and I would support our family. That is fine for both of us. I think that ideally he would work but I think we are both ok with me being the one to work if I were to earn more $$$$ for us. DH is great with kids and we consider jobs inside the home just as important as outside the home. We joke that I'll be his "sugar mama".

historychick79 · April 2009

My DH would love to, and would be wonderful at it. Unfortunately we need the double income at this point, my job just isn't high powered enough, lol.

mandyjn16 · April 2009

In a heartbeat! However we need both incomes for our family. If I ever made more money he would seriously consider it. But he is the kind of person who would find some time (while baby is napping, etc) to do some work in the garage. He needs some creative outlet. As it is, I think I figured out that if my job stays pt (I would love for it to go ft, but it doesn't look like that is happening soon), DH can watch baby in the morning and then I would be home before he has to go to work. So we would be getting the best of both worlds!

HisKathy · April 2009

DH makes way more money than me and I don't really see that happening (and if we were to have to live on my salary things would get pretty tight). However, with him working 1st shift and me working 2nd we will both be in the role of being alone with the baby. I think this will be a wonderful opportunity for him and will save a fortune on child-care since we will only need it for the 3-4 hours where our shifts overlap.