I feel like someone died....

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• Kismet21

  April 2009

  I know. I am so, so sorry. I wish there was something I can say to help. Just know that I am thinking about you and sending a lot of good "healing" vibes your way.?

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• CardsfanSM

  April 2009

  I'm so sorry. I totally get how you feel. With our IVF #1 BFN DH called the people who knew what was going on (so they didn't try to contact me).  It did seem like someone had died and he was sharing the bad news. Hang in there.

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• mish2378 member

  April 2009

  I feel the same exact way. Hugs to us both

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• theworms member

  April 2009

  me too.  it's like someone has died and i'm in mourning.  i fuckken hate IF so much. 

  i found a great quote on whiteywife's blog, it sums up how i feel.

  The problem with infertility is that I am mourning children that do not exist and I'm the only one who misses them

  just know we are here for you and your are both in my prayers.  (((HUGS))) 

  
  Worrying does not empty tomorrow of its troubles, It empties today of its strength. ~Corrie ten Boom
  Courage doesn't always roar. Sometimes courage is the little voice at the end of the day that says I'll try again tomorrow. ~Mary Anne Radmacher (thank you beadinglady)
  
  It's been a long journey. TTC since 9/06. multiple IUI's and IVF's and 4 m/c's. IVF#3 = BFP, twins, induced at 34w6d due to baby b passing away (no explanation). Delivered on 35w1d, Baby A - baby girl, and Baby B - baby boy, our little angel.
  MTHFR A1298C & C677T, Immune Issues and Factor II
  

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• ked1068

  April 2009

  I'm just so so sorry.  I wish I didn't know how your feel, but I do.  It'll get easier, but take this time to grieve!!!!!

  
  3 IUI's, 2 IVF's , 1 FET , 1 IVF w/ Gestational Carrier, and 1 FET using adopted embryo's = ALL BFNs
  We are adopting!
  
  SAIF/PAIF IS ALWAYS WELCOMED TO POST IN MY POSTS!!!

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• lnle

  April 2009

  I totally understand. I felt that way exactly after IVF#1 was a BFN. I felt like those embryos were potential babies, and that they died in my uterus. It's a loss of so many dreams.

  ((hugs)) and spend the weekend in bed if you need to.

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• caityr

  April 2009

  I wish I could take the pain away. Its so hard when your hope is so high but then again all we have IS hope...it will all be ok sweetie I promise.
  

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• jm76132

  April 2009

  I'm so sorry.  Huge hugs...  We are grieving with you. 

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• LuluK1102

  April 2009

  I am so so sorry ((hugs))

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• epphd member

  April 2009

  IVF BFNs are the worst.  It will take some time to feel better - but you will, I promise.  For now, it's OK to crawl into bed if you want.  (((hug)))

  
  
  
  I am a runner, knitter, scientist, DE-IVF veteran, and stage III colon cancer survivor.
  

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• vandelay member

  April 2009

  Ugh, I'm so sorry.  Yes, it absolutely feels like a death.  It's the loss of all the dreams and fantasies you shaped around the cycle that you planned for, and worried about, and worked so hard at.  I don't have any words to make it make sense, or suck less.  I can just say I'm really sorry. 

                                
  

  
    

                                 

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• JackieMac824 member

  April 2009

  You have every right to feel that way - it is a loss - it is very sad and I cannot even imagine the pain you are going thru - I think the same way as you do - but it is always in the back of our heads that maybe just maybe it will work - we all do that.  I am so sorry - I wish there was something that I could say to make you feel better - just know you are in my thoughts and prayers.

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• Temp590840000005378

  April 2009

  Oven, I'm so sad for you!!! I want to crawl in a hole for you, it's just so not fair and so hard to think positive when you feel so let down.  Hang in there!!

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• so1966

  April 2009

  theworms:

  me too.  it's like someone has died and i'm in mourning.  i fuckken hate IF so much. 

  i found a great quote on whiteywife's blog, it sums up how i feel.

  The problem with infertility is that I am mourning children that do not exist and I'm the only one who misses them

  just know we are here for you and your are both in my prayers.  (((HUGS))) 

   

  i''m so so sorry. i do know how you feel.  this quote

  is

  After 7 years of marriage and 5 unsuccessful IVFs, we have been granted the gift of adopting a baby boy, born 4/21/11.
  

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• so1966

  April 2009

  theworms:

  me too.  it's like someone has died and i'm in mourning.  i fuckken hate IF so much. 

  i found a great quote on whiteywife's blog, it sums up how i feel.

  The problem with infertility is that I am mourning children that do not exist and I'm the only one who misses them

  just know we are here for you and your are both in my prayers.  (((HUGS))) 

   

  i''m so so sorry. i do know how you feel.  this quote

  is

  After 7 years of marriage and 5 unsuccessful IVFs, we have been granted the gift of adopting a baby boy, born 4/21/11.
  

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• so1966

  April 2009

  theworms:

  me too.  it's like someone has died and i'm in mourning.  i fuckken hate IF so much. 

  i found a great quote on whiteywife's blog, it sums up how i feel.

  The problem with infertility is that I am mourning children that do not exist and I'm the only one who misses them

  just know we are here for you and your are both in my prayers.  (((HUGS))) 

   

  i''m so so sorry. i do know how you feel.  this quote

  After 7 years of marriage and 5 unsuccessful IVFs, we have been granted the gift of adopting a baby boy, born 4/21/11.
  

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• so1966

  April 2009

  theworms:

  me too.  it's like someone has died and i'm in mourning.  i fuckken hate IF so much. 

  i found a great quote on whiteywife's blog, it sums up how i feel.

  The problem with infertility is that I am mourning children that do not exist and I'm the only one who misses them

  just know we are here for you and your are both in my prayers.  (((HUGS))) 

   

  i''m so so sorry. i do know how you feel.  this quote

  is completely

  After 7 years of marriage and 5 unsuccessful IVFs, we have been granted the gift of adopting a baby boy, born 4/21/11.
  

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• so1966

  April 2009

  theworms:

  me too.  it's like someone has died and i'm in mourning.  i fuckken hate IF so much. 

  i found a great quote on whiteywife's blog, it sums up how i feel.

  The problem with infertility is that I am mourning children that do not exist and I'm the only one who misses them

  just know we are here for you and your are both in my prayers.  (((HUGS))) 

   

  i''m so so sorry. i do know how you feel.  this quote

  is completely TRUE. 

  After 7 years of marriage and 5 unsuccessful IVFs, we have been granted the gift of adopting a baby boy, born 4/21/11.
  

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• so1966

  April 2009

  theworms:

  me too.  it's like someone has died and i'm in mourning.  i fuckken hate IF so much. 

  i found a great quote on whiteywife's blog, it sums up how i feel.

  The problem with infertility is that I am mourning children that do not exist and I'm the only one who misses them

  just know we are here for you and your are both in my prayers.  (((HUGS))) 

   

  i''m so so sorry. i do know how you feel.  this quote

  is completely TRUE. ((HUGS))

  After 7 years of marriage and 5 unsuccessful IVFs, we have been granted the gift of adopting a baby boy, born 4/21/11.
  

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• MoFree member

  April 2009

  I'm so sorry.  I wish there were some magic words or deeds of comfort to help ease your pain.

  Please do something good for yourself today, whatever that is.

  TTC since 3-08 IVF # 1 Dec 2011 BFP DD born at 31 weeks 6-24-12
  
  FET #1 Dec 2013 BFN
  
  FET # 2 Feb 2014 BFN
  
  No more frosties
  
  IVF #2. September 2014
  
  PGD yielded 2 perfect 5d blasts
  
  SET November 9, 2014
  Nov 23, 2014. Another BFN
  
  Not sure where to go from here.
  
  
  
  
  

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• jmkatz

  April 2009

  I am so sorry.  Sometimes crawling in a hole for awhile isn't a bad idea.  When you're ready to come back out, know that we are all here for you. Take care of yourself this weekend.
  

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• Kiki11

  April 2009

  I know exactly how your feel.  After my first IVF was a monumental failure, I just wanted to crawl into a hole and hide.  I spent the whole weekend miserable.  I've had two miscarriages and for some reason the fact that the IVF failed hurt more than those had.  I have never felt so hopeless or distraught in my life.  But it passed.  It still sucks, but I feel much better now.  Maybe it's because I've had a few weeks to recover, or maybe it's because I'm working on IVF#2. . . but that awful gut-wrenching feeling has gone away.  I'm just afraid it will be back again if IVF#2 fails, too. 

   

  Take the time you need to grieve and then do something really nice for yourself- you deserve it!  I'm so sorry that you're feeling this way.  I'm sending you positive thoughts.  
  

  TTC with unexplained IF since 8/2007 6 losses, one beautiful perfect boy in our arms

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• harley12

  April 2009

  I'm so sorry. IVF BFN's are so hard. You invest so much in them and when it it doesn't work out, it just feels so hopeless. Hang in there. You WILL get through this.

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• becca2325

  April 2009

  I know what you're feeling and it really sucks. Stupid IF!!! I'm so sorry. I crawled into bed and didn't come out for a whole day when I got mine. If that's what you need to do, then do it. (((HUGS)))

  Baby Girl #1 Gabriella Jane

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• smilee member

  April 2009

  I am so so sorry you and your DH. ?Huge hugs... it just hurst so badly.

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