I have to do it after what happened yesterday

adamwife · April 2009

I risk sounding like a complete hypocrite by writing this. I have been all too quick to jump on the b!tchwagon in the past, and for that I am sorry. In my real life I try my hardest to give people the benefit of the doubt, but somehow the anonymity of the Internet allows people to act differently than they would in real life. I have made judgements about people and for that I am_sorry.

Yesterday crossed a line for me. I saw something similar happen last week when someone?s ?advice? to a poster was to wash their baby?s mouth out with bleach. Of course the comment was sarcastic, but it was also dangerous. You don?t know who you are talking to on the other side. You don?t know what they will or won?t take seriously.

I had a friend in high school who committed suicide. I also have a sister that has attempted suicide. The friend came to me a month before it happened and made a cry for help. I did not take it seriously and now have to live with that guilt for the rest of my life. I had to look her parents in the eye at her funeral knowing that I could have possibly done something about it. I am haunted to this day by that fact.

We don?t know SC?s situation. Maybe her cries for attention here were symptoms of a deeper problem. But it is so DANGEROUS and IRRESPONSIBLE to do what was done yesterday. And maybe my past experiences have made me a little more sensitive to this fact.

I feel like sitting around and doing or saying nothing about what happened is just as bad as if I had been involved myself. I spend my life trying to make sure that everything I do glorifies God and would meet his approval. I am constantly striving to be a better wife, mother, daughter, friend, sister and employee.

So I sat awake last night thinking about SC and what happened. And as a thought about it I realized that being here isn?t helping my cause. Sometimes being here takes time away from my family. Sometimes (like yesterday) being here just brings me down. I don?t want to be a part of something that does that.

I have taken ?breaks? from the Nest before because things that have happened here have upset me. This to me is on a different level. It?s the straw that broke the camel?s back. I feel like I need to move on. There is so much good in my life ? I have two beautiful boys and a wonderful husband. I don?t need to have situations that happen here bring me down.

I am so thankful for the support I have been given here throughout my pregnancy and post-partum. There are many of you ladies who are a total CLASS ACT and I wish I knew you in real life. I pray for nothing but good things for you and your little ones.

So there you have it ? my GBCN. This should feed the drama llamas for a while. I thought about just exiting quietly and gracefully, but I could not sit back after what happened yesterday and not say anything.

::takes a bow::

Kim-&-Chris · April 2009

Very brave of you to say! I'm sorry for the loss of your friend. Kuddos to you for doing what you feel is best for your family. DH and I actually talked about this the other day, and have decided after a certain time the computer gets turned off, and we focus on family. God bless!

Mando91 · April 2009

adamwife:

I had a friend in high school who committed suicide. I also have a sister that has attempted suicide. The friend came to me a month before it happened and made a cry for help. I did not take it seriously and now have to live with that guilt for the rest of my life. I had to look her parents in the eye at her funeral knowing that I could have possibly done something about it. I am haunted to this day by that fact.

I just had to respond..I had a friend in college who commited suicide. She reached out to me hours before she did it. As you said, I didn't take it seriously because suicide was such a non-option for me, that I let it go. The next day I found out what happened. I also had to look her parents in the eye at the funeral and apologize that I didn't save their daughters life. It's a guilt and remorse that will never go away.

beany14 · April 2009

Adamwife . . .you'll be missed so much!

Garnetbaby09 · April 2009

I am so sad you're leaving Adamwife. But I completely understand. Its all I could not to do the same last night. But I guess I need the drama in my life more than you! LOL I wish I had your email address so we could keep in touch but that seems more counterproductive for you. Good luck and I wish you and your family the best.

I am just heartbroken that the drama of yesterday ran off a quality person from this forum.

kbs0929 · April 2009

you will be missed! best of luck to you and your family!

adamwife · April 2009

Garnetbaby09:

I am so sad you're leaving Adamwife. But I completely understand. Its all I could not to do the same last night. But I guess I need the drama in my life more than you! LOL I wish I had your email address so we could keep in touch but that seems more counterproductive for you. Good luck and I wish you and your family the best.

I am just heartbroken that the drama of yesterday ran off a quality person from this forum.

Check your PMs.

jls7284 · April 2009

good luck to you and your beautiful sons! I know I dont know you, but are an amazing woman!

laur1120 · April 2009

I'm so sorry for those experiences you had. I completely agree that yesterday was out of line- I stayed out of it but I was also bothered by it.

GL!!! We'll miss you- enjoy your little boys!

dawnzer · April 2009

You will be missed!

cristyu · April 2009

Agreed. You took the high road and for that I admire you. I don't know SC much and I feel badly that I didn't stand up for her. One thing is making an observation about her "drama", another thing is taken it down a notch and disregarding her cries for help. Even if it was attention seeking, there's a reason she's seeking attention. Also, we forget that she's very young and dealing with A LOT at a very young age. Marriage, new baby, husband in military, moving, not having family around, etc... that would tear anybody to shreds.

reiljen00 · April 2009

Good Luck. You will be missed. No one should experience what you have in the past. My heart goes out to you. I wish we could have chatted more often. Sometimes the drama here makes me turn my computer off. I wish you and your family the best.

star173 · April 2009

I agree with you about the stuff with SC. I stayed on her side the whole day, and will continue to believe that her posts should've been taken more seriously and do not agree with anyone who was trying to figure out if she was telling the truth or that her story didn't "add up" and whatnot. If she's lying, she still needs help, and if she's telling the truth- what good does it do to be anything but supportive. I hope she saw the helpful posts.

About your friend, there was NOTHING you could've done. NOTHING. I'm not trying to take away your guilt, you know only God can do that. But I can assure you, she already had her mind made up. Please don't feel that you are responsible for her death.

I'll be praying for your family, and feel free to come back someday!!!

Geekchick921 · April 2009

I'll miss you, Adamwife. I hope you decide to come back some day. Take care.

Echowysp · April 2009

Sorry to see you go. I have to agree that the negative biitchy vibe around here can be a bit much. Who needs that much negativity in their lives, especially when we have these new additions to our families. GL to you.

nhonzel · April 2009

adamwife:

I risk sounding like a complete hypocrite by writing this.

Yep, you are. Weren't you the one yesterday asking why people kept bringing it up and to drop it?

Talk about attention-seeking.

JAWMIN · April 2009

Oh Adamwife, I'm going to miss you around here. You probably don't know me, but you were one of my favorite well known bumpies.

Heather R · April 2009

I won't miss you at all. You may have people fooled into thinking you're "taking the high road," but I've seen you say some lousy things about your fellow man.