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the waiting is the hardest part?

wm1023wm1023
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I am waiting and waiting for the bleeding to start. I feel like it is impossible to heal from this with the baby still in me. It makes me so sad. I cry all the time, out of nowhere. I am a mess, still. Some part of me still hopes for a miracle. I know it is just me grasping  but I loved this baby so much. I have been waiting for so long. We were so full of joy and then the opposite. It is awful
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  • melp723melp723
    I am so sorry.  My thoughts are with you for a speedy recovery :)
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  • PeanutBradnJPeanutBradnJ

    I just found out today that I had a miscarriage.  It started with the bleeding.  I'm only 7 weeks along but we too have been trying.  1 out of 10 women miscarry.  I was just praying so hard for a healthy baby that god must have thought this one was just not healthy enough.  Unlike you I'm waiting for the bleeding to stop!  It's very annoying along with the cramps.  It's worse then a period pain wise and lenght wise it just wont end.  I've cried once and I have depression which is amazing.  I probably should be crying more but I know we're not going to quit.  We're staying optomistic and moving on.  I said I don't care if i have 10 more (really I do but) I won't stop until i have a darn baby!  Keep your head up and just imagine the day you do have the baby and you're holding him/her in your arms thanking the lord they have arrived!  Big Smile

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  • PeanutBradnJPeanutBradnJ

    I just found out today that I had a miscarriage.  It started with the bleeding.  I'm only 7 weeks along but we too have been trying.  1 out of 10 women miscarry.  I was just praying so hard for a healthy baby that god must have thought this one was just not healthy enough.  Unlike you I'm waiting for the bleeding to stop!  It's very annoying along with the cramps.  It's worse then a period pain wise and lenght wise it just wont end.  I've cried once and I have depression which is amazing.  I probably should be crying more but I know we're not going to quit.  We're staying optomistic and moving on.  I said I don't care if i have 10 more (really I do but) I won't stop until i have a darn baby!  Keep your head up and just imagine the day you do have the baby and you're holding him/her in your arms thanking the lord they have arrived!  Big Smile

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  • Holly LoganHolly Logan

    I'm so sorry for your loss.  I miscarried in December 08, we were devastated.  We had celebrated Christmas and we got some cute little items for the baby and then on the 27th I miscarried.  I hoped for a miracle too, and the ER gave me a slight hope, but it ended within a couple of days.  It was sad and I caught myself  crying out of the blue for a few weeks. 

    I am now TTC again and you will as well.  It is awful, I agree.  My doctor told me it happens because there is obviously a problem and it is actually better to miscarry then carry the baby to full term and find the problems then.  So I believe her, and that made me feel better. 

    Is this your first pregnancy?

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  • wm1023wm1023

    We have a four year old daughter. We have tried four four years now to give her a sibling. This was my first BFP since my daughter. I wasn't going to tell her yet but she overheard me on the phone. She knew there was a baby in my belly. I told her yesterday that I was sad because the baby went to live with Jesus. She said "I'm sad too" and "can't you put another one in there?"

    I am thankful for her. She is wonderful but I am still so sad. I feel like God changed his mind. I know that it is for the best. It is hard to accept. Thanks so much for listening.

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  • alwaysduke00alwaysduke00
    I'm so sorry.  The waiting really is hard.  I know I just wanted it out but a little part of my was hoping against hope for something otherwise (and the bleeding was not as hard physically or emotionally as I thought it might be but it was still not good.)  I wish there were something I could say to ease your pain...
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  • KrindorKrindor
    I'm so sorry! I know how awful the waiting is. It's so emotionally draining waiting to bleed. I hope you feel better soon
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  • robinjbrobinjb
    Your right waiting is the hardest part.  I was a reck waiting, then I started bleeding Friday and haven't cried since.  I'm still sad, but now at least I can function and start moving on.  It will get better soon. 
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  • Jamers125Jamers125

    I'm where you are... just found out last Friday that there is no baby growing, but my body hasn't figured that out yet. I'd have been 7 weeks yesterday.

    The waiting is killing me. I told my RE that I don't want to wait around to cramp and bleed. I think I want a D&C. I had my hCG tested and have to go again tomorrow to see if they're dropping or not. Maybe you could ask your doctor for a blood test? Just to see if levels are dropping and you can expect bleeding soon or not? My doctor said if my levels aren't dropping yet, she'll schedule a D&C so I can quit living on pins and needles and hopefully start to move on.

    This was my first pregnancy after 20 cycles of TTC, diagnosed with severe MFI almost a year ago and had decided to do a donor IUI. It worked the first try, or so we thought.

    This fvcking sucks.

    I wish I could just take away the waiting part of this for us all.

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