With paragraphs! Im at the point of kicking everyone out of the delivery!!!!!
Okay so I am planning to try to do a natural birth, this is my first baby, a water birth. And I am so frustrated at tryin to explain why I want to do it naturally, and everyones reaction like its a joke!!!! Ugh!! I am not one of those girls that is totally against drugs I just want to do it natural the way god intended, and to be lucid when my baby arrives. All that said I am about to strangle my mother and mother in law!
My m-i-l is pretty young and has young children, 2 of hers were druged vanginal births and one emergency c section. She constantly complains about the c section, and I am overwhelmed with negative engery from her birthing experience.
Now my mother is quite a bit older, and she feels the need to tell everyone that she thinks I will be screaming for my mommy when the pain hits. Regardless of past conversations where I have said that it bothers me and hurts my feelings that she tell ppl that bc it makes me feel like she has no faith in me, and it makes me feel unsupported but she continues to tell ppl that. and every convo we have about it starts a huge fight and she vendictively says "fine I just wont talk about ur pregnancy" or "what im not entitled to my oppions" and Im like you are if we were talking about potato chips!!!!! But HELLO! Im tellling you that its upsetting me and hurts my feels and you continue to do it! And I asked what do you get out of doing it?! Do you like upsetting me? Or causing friction betweeen us? And of course I got no answer!
And as far as the m-i-l I havent even addressed it yet, I dont even no how, she is very pushy and bitchy when you dont agree with her or dont do what she wants. I dont mean to give you a horrible picture of her we were pretty close but since the pregnancy she has pushed me away with her know it all additude, when Im worried about something she be like just stop youll be fine you stress too much, instead of letting me vent. or if I read an article about parenting or breastfeeding ect.. "your reading too much you cant believe all of that" I wanna be like "its what to expect when expecting what part is false??!" Its like her way is the only real way! And let me tell you she isnt mother of the year. She definetly not a bad mom either.
Im just ovwhelmed and angry and both of these women are supose to be in the delivery room, and Im really upset that I dont feel like they are supporting me and I feel like they think Im a joke, I really dont know what to do! I wanna scream fine you wanna be like this I dont want you in the room! But i dont wanna ruin our relationships but i feel like they arent listening!
Re: With paragraphs! Im at the point of kicking everyone out of the delivery!!!!!
I tried for a natural birth and after the first 3 days I kicked EVERYONE out...my exact words were "Everyone needs to get the out". Sad thing was that they actually were civil and trying to help and being understanding. Sadly, day 5 ended in an emergency c-section but at least they all understood.
I understand where your coming from, hope it all works out
Ditto. I'll admit I am too lazy to read it if it is not in paragraphs.
Wow... kind of hard to get through!
Okay, 1st of all...why in the world do you want them in the delivery room with you??? This should be just between you and your DH, especially because no one is supporting you in how you would like your birth experience to go.
And kudos for having a birth plan... but just remember it is just that. A PLAN. Some plan on an epidural.. and go so quick it's not possible to get one. And some plan on natural.. and need a c-section. So really, if your Mom and MIL are not listening/supporting what you would like to have happen I say don't invite them in.
GL
I skipped over the part that said "how God intended" because....well that's not a debate I'm ready to have now....but it bothers me.
Anyhow, why would you even want them in there? I understand it can be frustrating, but you have to be strong enough in your own decisions to not let them affect you. Yes, they should have more support for you.....but it's obvious they aren't going to. So at this point you need to draw a line in the sand. The way you choose to birth your child is only the business of you, your husband and your dr/midwife. No one else really should have any say or complain about it.
There are plenty of people that support natural labor, you need to surround yourself with those people, and let everyone else have whatever opinions they are going to have about what you can and cannot handle.
Ha ha, I liked how you put that. "If you weren't in the room when the baby went in, you won't be in the room when the baby comes out"! LOVE IT!