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I don't want to be here

grover52grover52
in Miscarriage/Pregnancy Loss
I had a D & C yesterday, 10w, 4 days. I don't want to be here on this board. I want to understand. I want this to go away. I want answers. I want my baby. I want to know why this happened a second time. I want to help my husband and I can't because I can't help myself.
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  • traceandrobtraceandrob

    Gosh. Im so very sorry you are going through this. ((hugs))

    I too told my DH i didn't know how to help him lastnight because i don't even know yet how to help myself. I know we may never know the answers to our questions about why we lost our babies, but what i do know is that time will help us to feel better.

    I hope each day gets a little easier for you. Im so sorry.

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  • amoureuxamoureux

    I know. No one wants to be here.

    I have  been through three losses.  2008 was a rough year for me.  

    Try to take it one day at a time.  Each day I found the pain just a tiny bit easier to deal with.

    Have you spoken to your doctor about a referral to an RE?   With 2 losses, most doctors will not question you for wanting testing.   There may be answers waiting for you. 

    I truly hope you find some answers soon.

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  • Rubys_MomRubys_Mom
    I am so very sorry for your loss.  None of us wants to be here, but I have found great comfort being on this board the past few days.  I Hope you will be able to find some answers and each day will get a bit easier for you.  ((HUGS))
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  • grover52grover52
    I have a follow up visit on Friday. I don't know if I can handle another loss, so I don't know if I want to see a specialist. We have a son who is almost 10, maybe that is all we were meant to have. It was hardest to tell him the news. We had waited to tell him until after we had the 2nd ultrasound at 7w 4d and saw the heartbeat - we thought we were coming into the clear. We broke his heart.
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  • dkfitz07dkfitz07
    I am so sorry. Just wanted to say, we are here for you, and I am so sorry.
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  • Bensbride2006Bensbride2006

    I'm so sorry for your loss!  I remember you from 1st Tri...I think we were due on the same day.  I can't imagine suffering more than 1 loss, but hope you get some answers from your doctor soon. 

     It sucks having to come to this board, but it's been very helpful being surrounded by people who understand what I'm going through.

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  • Cow-girlCow-girl member

    So sorry for your loss.  None of us want to be here.  And this is my 2nd time here in 6 months.  I think we all have had the same feelings about wanting the baby, answers, etc...  Unfortunately we may never get the answers we want...

    I can promise that it does get better over time.  You will begin to heal and move on.  Im sorry you had to join us but I can tell you from experience this is a great group of girls to lean on during this time.  We have all been there and understand.  Come and vent any time. 

    I will say a prayer for you...

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  • HeidiseanHeidisean member
    I also had a child then 2 loses. I hope that is it for the loses! I had the rpl testing and found out that I have low progesterone. Things like that can change and then you may need meds. It sucks, it really does...but we have to try and keep our chin up and move on. ((((HUGS))))) and best of luck to you!
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  • grover52grover52

    I appreciate all of the thoughts and kind words from all of the strong women who have all been where I am, or are where I am right now. I have great admiration for women who can share this kind of emotion. Thank you all for your thoughts and prayers. I wish nothing but the best for you all. I will make tomorrow a better day for myself, my husband, and most of all, my son, who deserves to get the best of me always.

     

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  • KrindorKrindor

    I'm so sorry you're going through this. I know how awful it is. You probably feel very alone and frustrated and so empty! I just have to say I'm sorry and we do understand.

    And I love your user name. :)?

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  • jshay778jshay778
    I am sorry for your loss. Its hard dealing with this and most of us will never know why it happened to us. I still ask why me?? It breaks my heart to see babies everywhere and I hate it. It takes time to heal. ((hugs))
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