I'm sad that I can't join the FB group, but I work at a job where there are few women and even fewer women with kids. ?It's not fair but it really will affect my career. ? So announcing on FB that I'm doing IVF is a big no no.
?Anyone else dealing with this??
Re: Anyone keeping your IF a secret at Work?
I'm on BCP for two weeks and I just went back to the RE today. ?I realized how happy I was to see her and the nurses because I actually got to talk to someone about my IF.
thank god for this board.?
We are quiet about it at work too. The FB IF group is a totally secret society. You can't find the group unless you're a member, so you wouldn't have to worry that people would see it on there....just wanted to give you the heads up
just wanted to ditto pp. the fb group doesn't show up in your groups list to anyone but you. the only people who will know you belong are the other members.
may be nosy, but may i ask what field you are in?
I'm very open about it. With all the 1/2 personal and sick days I've had to take for u/s and the biopsy and etc, it would be difficult to keep it a secret. IMO if I want IF to be accepted as a real issue that should be respected as such (i.e. insurance coverage), then I have to let people know that I have it. IF isn't like an STD or anything; it's not like I have genital warts, you know? I almost feel obligated to be open about it, that way people know it affects a lot of women.
DH doesn't like that all that much, though, so I can definitely understand those of you who keep it secret. Completely respectable! I don't know how you can deal with it so quietly and privately.
In the "chopping block" world in which I work (we've had 3 rounds of layoffs so far this year and I"m sure another one not to far away), I decided it was best not to give my bosses any possible reason to put me ahead of anyone else if there's another cut. So I haven't told a single soul at work. My RE opens at 7am so I just take the earliest appts so I'm not late. For my IVF cycle, I told my boss I'm experiencing some "non-life-threatening health issues" and told him I needed a 2 part surgical procedure I need to be on bed rest for. I figure it's not a lie, it's just not the whole truth. That being said, We've shared our IF issues with close friends.