My parents live on the other side of the country from me. I have no family in the area at all here. DH works a very demanding job. I am basically on my own.
I am a SAHM. I have told my mom over the past couple months I am getting burnt out. I am looking for a mother's helper but no one just wants to work a few hours a week so I just get a breather.
My parents are coming in for DD's birthday. Right before they arrive DH will be gone for 5 days for a wedding. I asked my mom if she could please come a couple days sooner to help me out with DD. I offered to pay for her plane tickets. I am already burnt out and I think 5 days completely on my own would just be too much with the party coming up.
Her response. "Well, I don't know what to do about dog". WTF? Her best friend would watch the dog for few more days than planned. I just point blank asked her if she just didn't want to go. She responded she did but had to talk to my dad since he would miss her. WTF? It is like 3 days.
And I was completely livid when I heard my dad's response, "She is your daughter, you watch her!" REALLY?!!! She is almost 11 months and I have not asked for their help until now.
I told them they do not understand what is like to have no help at all. They had my great-grandmother LIVE WITH THEM for my whole first year. I remember spending the entire weekend with my grandparents while growing up. So, they definitely did not ever ask for help.
I am extremely hurt by all of this.