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    * I am so tired of asking DH to do things & *discussing* why I need him to do things a certain way, etc. 

    * Because of the confession above, I have started doing little passive-aggressive things so that he HAS to do things my way or it's more work/less convenient for him.

    * I don't think he has caught on yet.

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    * i really wish i had more motivation to clean my house. I feel like its gross.

    * i think my animals conspire against me and intentionally do things to wake dd from naps

    * I am debating whether i want sleep or a shower more.

    * I'm starting to resent being a sahm?

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    I spent too much money at Ikea today, but I justify it because they are things we *needed.*
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    * I am going to be really sad if no one else does a >Dear DH< tonight...
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    I bought a Vera Bradley diaper bag the other day on a whim. It was over $80. I had a perfectly good diaper bag already but I just couldn't stop myself. I don't usually make big purchases like that on myself. I told DD not to tell DH.
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    My mom comes over on Tues. nights while DH is at a meeting. I usually enjoy it but tonight not so much. I feel really bad for being annoyed with her tonight.
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    *  DH didn't have the money to pay his motorcycle payment this month and I am secretly glad.  I would give anything for someone to come repossess that death trap!

    *  I feel bad about that b/c he loves that bike.  

    *  I was just so lazy that I did not answer the phone when my MIL called ...twice.  Even worse I accessed my voicemail via the website so I didn't have to get off my lazy a$$.

    *  I am 2 lbs. less than my pre-pregnancy weight which in my case is NOT a good thing since I lost 20 lbs during my pregnancy (which was really more because of the bambino).  Fat. sloth.

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    * Seeing the extended family these past couple days, I had to fight a lot of those "Poor, divorced NVU" looks by talking about my dating life, which I don't love to do (IRL, that is). But it's the only thing that wipes the pity off their faces when they talk to me. The family now all LOVE "D" and everything about him. I should've just made someone else up.

    * I'm watching The Biggest Loser and feeling guilty that I didn't work out today or yesterday. I know taking a couple days off for a wake/funeral/grieving is okay, but I feel yucky.?

    * I'm really starting to resent my roommate for not helping AT ALL around the house, but I'm also not good at confrontation. I know I need to say something.

    * I'm trying to sell some stuff on craigslist, and I hate getting the "I can't offer you half of what you're asking for because we're broke" emails. Why do you think I'M trying to sell stuff???

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    *I sometimes take things I read here too personally and I have to really work to shake them off.  I'm not nearly as secure with my parenting as I'd like others to think.

    *DH is sick but won't take any medicine...except Nyquil...so he's too zonked out to help me with Allison in the night when she gets up.

    *I think I'm getting sick and I can't take any medicine (bfing)...but I still have to get up and take care of Allison in the night when she gets up.

    *Sometimes I am resentful of being the only one that can take care of Allison in the night when she gets up.  The past couple of weeks have been kind of rough and I am very tired.

    *I screwed up today in a big way and I feel outrageously guilty about it.  The dr e-mailed DD's Nystatin prescription to the CVS right near my house.  I got frustrated when I went there to pick it up and it wasn't there.  The pharmacist told me it could take a couple of hours, so I left and didn't think twice about it.  I called DH and told him to pick it up on his way home.  He stopped at 6:30 and it wasn't there.  They never got the prescription.  But, because I pushed the responsibility off on DH, it was too late and the dr's office was closed.  Now Allison has to suffer through the night because I was too lazy to figure out what was going on with her prescription at 3:00.

    *I have a serious unwanted friend that sends me text messages and bugs me on facebook all the time.  I want to ignore her, but I'm too nice to do that.  Instead, I just b!tch about her in my head every time I see her.

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    I went to the GI dr for some bathroom pains I have been having. He had to look at me back there. It was worse than the first time I went to a gyno!

    I have to have a "procedure" done in a month and be sedated. This means DH has to take care of Austin all of the way for a few hours. It's going to be interesting. I am worried that Austin will cry the whole time and DH will freak out. 

    I am excited for the rest. Even if it means I have to be knocked out and have a tube up my butt. How sad is that?! 

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    image847Christine:

    * I am so tired of asking DH to do things & *discussing* why I need him to do things a certain way, etc. 

    * Because of the confession above, I have started doing little passive-aggressive things so that he HAS to do things my way or it's more work/less convenient for him.

    * I don't think he has caught on yet.

     

    I so relate to this post.

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    * I started a new craft project and i am very excited about it

    * I don't like working from home as much as I thought I would. I love the paycheck, but now I have NO free time.

    * We need to move DD to her crib in her room from her cradle in our room because she is going to reach the weight limit soon. I don't know if she is ready, but I know that I am not. I think I might move into her room with her.

     

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    * I went out shopping this evening and I didn't want to come home at all.

    * I am the only one that can put DS to sleep and I am starting to resent that.

    * When I went shopping I looked a lot worst in clothes that I expected.  I am 2 lbs below my pre-preg weight and all of my clothes at home fit.  I have a muffin top and big boobs that made me look like a porn star in some shirts.  Porn star with a muffin top....HOT!

    * I think I may have PPD....I have a lot more "off" thoughts in addition to post #1 above.

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    * I want a house! I am so sick of living in our townhouse, why you may ask.  Lots of reasons but a big one, is I am tired of hearing my neighbors having sex at night (they are grandparents!!!!!) not super old grandparents but YUCK, I thought I had some porn movie on last night while I was trying to sleep

    * I am tired of dh telling me how crappy he has slept and it must be bad if he hear's ds and gets up with him, yeah thanks for reminding me of all those nights I was alone with ds and sleep deprived b/c you couldn't hear him screaming/crying.

    * I went for a walk today with ds and I realized just how out of shape I am :(.

    * I hate the fact my house is never clean like it used to be and I feel like I have become a slob.

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    I worry that I upset someone on here a few weeks ago, and that makes me really sad.  I'm hoping if I did she forgives me.

    I was so worried about May when Hadley was in the hospital.  I emailed her on FB and got a response when they got home.  My DH and I were out when the email came in on my phone.  I felt like a huge worry weight had been taken off my shoulders.  

    I care about all of you so much.

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    I don't feel like a get a break when dh is home. He wont even feed ds a bottle because "he eats to slow". He does not check his diaper unless he hears ds poop.  It's getting old and I don't feel like I can leave him alone for more  than a hour.
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    *I sometimes take things I read here too personally and I have to really work to shake them off.  I'm not nearly as secure with my parenting as I'd like others to think.

    I really hope Berty isn't talking about me. I would hate it if I hurt someone as amazing as she is and I think she is an incredible mom!

    * I've been getting on my soapbox lately b/c I feel protective of the new moms on this board. I know that so many of us are tired and emotional and overwhelmed, and I just hate when people post things that might freak someone out for no reason. I don't mean to get so militant (like last night) but I just think as parents these days we have so much bad information thrown at us and it all usually ends up being bs. When someone says tv's gonna cause autism or stupidity or obesity, how do you think that makes someone who has been allowing their kid to watch some tv feel? Or who can't afford expensive nannies or nanny cams and are therefore victim to whatever daycare situation they can afford. We can't all control every factor in our kids lives, and why would we want to? But I hope that I don't offend anybody in my quest to be the caped crusader of stress-free parenting.

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    Yesterday I got pretty nauseated and right now my face is flushed and I've just been sitting here.

    Um, I'm a little scared considering these are two occurances that have happened to me previously in the days leading up to a positive pregnancy test......

     

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    imagerachelxx05:

    Yesterday I got pretty nauseated and right now my face is flushed and I've just been sitting here.

    Um, I'm a little scared considering these are two occurances that have happened to me previously in the days leading up to a positive pregnancy test......

     

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    This is an ugly one.

    * I think if someone posted some of the "studies" that were done on children with working moms from the 1960's/70's, we'd all laugh. They'd be sexist, wrong, and archaic, I am sure. And if anyone made any sort of comment insinuating that kids not raised by SAHMs were "less than" in ANY way, they'd be booted off the board (for good reason, of course, I am in full support of working moms and am one myself, just lucky enough to be able to do what I do while being home with my kid- I know that is a luxury most don't have). However, no one blinks an eye when others make statements that question other people's parenting concerning food, tv watching, etc. This strikes me as somewhat troubling.

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    I am weary.  Mind, body, and soul. Sad
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    I'll play,

    *I'm starting to get annoyed that some posters almost seem to go out of their way to take a post personally, despite the fact that the post wasn't in any way directed at them (or anyone else on these boards). Posting a study is just that, posting an interesting study. Its not a pointed finger. Its a conversation starter; or something that *might* be of interest to some readers. Calling it a judgement on someone else's parenting is just ridiculous. The studies are out there.

    Everone on here is an adult who has, hopefully, made some thoughtful decisions about how they parent their child that they should feel okay with.  If that can be shaken by one study or article, I think it says more about the insecurities of the reader than it does about the article.  Personally, I like hearing other viewpoints and collecting lots of information, even if it conflicts with what I have been doing so far. How else does one learn and grow?

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