DS came to live w/DH and I about a year ago. He was failing in school, all of his teeth were rotting, and he was having behavior problems in school. His mom didn't require that he do homework, brush his teeth, no cerfew, he wrote curse words on the wall and in his notebooks, etc etc. (He's 8 now, he was 7 at the time). So, of course he's been trying to get back there. He LOVED the freedom.
At our house, he's not as 'free'. He has homework and study time, a bedtime, he has chores/responsibilies around the house, and he is NOT rewarded for bad behavior. We have him on a behavior chart that has to be signed by the teachers daily, and his grades must not fall below a B.
He was spanked last week for being disrespectful to his teachers. Nothing extreme, just a few spanks on the bottom, along with his PSP and television priviledges revoked. He thought of the ULTIMATE plan. Yea, why not go to school and tell the teachers how your Dad abused you and put bruises on your body and you're sooo afraid of the abuse?? That will get him back to his mom's house FOR SURE!
Well, after two days in foster care (because Child Protective Services took him from our home), and a threat to be there for at least 3-4 weeks, he broke down and told them of his plan.
DH are still trying to figure out how to deal with him...I feel like I have to handle him with a long hand, because I never know what he could do or say to get his way...Help.