Coming off BC..please respond

nygirl07 · March 2009

I'm currently on BC and my fiance and I plan on TTC as soon as we get married in a little less then 9 months....I'm so NERVOUS, that I'm gonna have problems TTC it's all I can think about. I thought about going off BC now but I'm scared if I'll have crazy side effects to deal with during the wedding...I feel like that's a stupid reason though. I just want to know how my body is going to react. I had normal periods before BC as far as I can remember...but I've dealt with excess hair and it worries me that I'll have PCOS. I asked my Dr and she doens't seem worried b/c I never had any other symptoms but it scares the crap out of me.

What would you do it my position?

-Go off now and just deal with any side effects

-Go off now until Sept..then go back on for 3 months until right after the wedding...b/c atleast I'll have an idea of what my body is gonna do

- Just wait till after the wedding and risk wasting time

My big concern is that I'll be 29 soon after the wedding and I know it can take a while for your body to adjust after BC..I feel like if I wait till after the wedding I'll have to wait till 30 before a Dr will even look into anything further. I hope I'm worrying myself over nothing but at this point I wish I never went on BC b/c it would be nice to actually know what your body is doing

Opinions and advice please.

corgidogs · March 2009

I wouldnt worry too much. My cycles were a little longer when I came off BC but other then that, I didnt have any problems. GL

beffysky · March 2009

That's a really personal decision, and it's really tough to tell you what you should do, especially not knowing you. A wedding puts a lot on your plate, so you have to consider whether it will stress you out additionally dealing with coming off BCP. Or is it more important to you to start TTC right after your wedding?

That said, you can start TTC as soon as you go off BCP. Some girls on here get PG their 1st or 2nd cycle off. Others like myself are taking longer. You gotta do what's right for you. GL!

palomaLuna · March 2009

Breathe.

Going off BC, especially if you were regular and pretty symptom-free before being on it, should be a lot easier on your body than staying on.

You might want to start charting, too. It can really put your mind at ease when you have a handle on what's going on with your cycles.

Oh, and what's wrong with 30?

Calypso312 · March 2009

If you're that concerned about it then stop your bc now and use barrier methods. If your wedding is in 9 months then I would think you would be plenty adjusted by then.

atangiblewish · March 2009

I would wait until after the wedding if you are worried about side effects for your wedding. If it wasn't for that reason then I'd say go off now and use condoms and FAM.?

xnbride · March 2009

Well since I know (and have experienced first hand) that alot of women get pregnant right away after going off the pill, I wouldn't go off of it until you are emotionally and physically ready for the TTC journey. Planning a wedding is stressful enough so I couldn't imagine being pregnant or going through a m/c while trying to plan for the BIG Day. Plus it would kind of rob you of some of these memories that you and your DH should be creating now as you plan your life together. Good luck and best wishes to you!

rssnlvr · March 2009

I wouldn't worry too much. I was training for a half-ironman last spring, and didn't want going off BC to mess with my moods/energy/health/cycles or do anything to jeopardize the big race, so I stayed on until the day after the race. So I can understand wanting to wait to go off, just to make sure you stay "level" during this already stressful time.

So, if it were me, I would stay on, go off after the wedding, and just hope for the best. I've heard some women can be "hyper fertile" right after going off the pill, so maybe it'll work out immediately for you.

Second choice is go off now and give your body time to adjust. Not sure it's necessary though.

I would NOT go off, then back on, then off again.

staycee · March 2009

-Go off now until Sept..then go back on for 3 months until right after the wedding...b/c atleast I'll have an idea of what my body is gonna do

-it could be different the next time. I would not suggest going back on for a few months after you've gotten off.

- Just wait till after the wedding and risk wasting time

what time are you wasting?

I suggest going off when you are comfortable with it. If you are worried about your cycle and how it will affect your wedding, then stay on.

I personally went off 2 months before the wedding. Got my period the day after my wedding - and had it for the first couple of days of my HM. I survived.

MissyC979 · March 2009

I would wait until after the wedding to go after BC. 29 really isn't that old to start TTC if that works best for you. Or you could go off it now. I just don't recommend going off it now just to go back on it for three months around the wedding.

eclipsed823 · March 2009

You need to take a deep breath and calm down. Why do you assume you're going to have trouble ttc? It can take a while for your cycles to regulate, but you could also get ku the first cycle out of the gate. If you do go off bc, make sure you use a backup method. Other than that...you're the only one who can decide when the timing is right for you.

Firefighters Girl · March 2009

You could always go off now start charting and use a back up method like condoms untill your ready to start trying.

bluejinn823 · March 2009

I went up a cup size and pant size from the bloat that came with getting off bcp (weird thing is that my weight is the same, it just shifted). It showed up during the first 3 weeks off. And have crazy acne. If you're not worried about those side effects could happen to you, then get off now.

shell1016 · March 2009

My Dr. told me NOT to go back on BC after you've stopped if you plan on TTC. She said you body just has to adjust again. It's not so bad being off BC. Knowing what I know now I wish I would have stopped BC earlier. It took us 8 cycles to get PG.

GL in whatever you decide.

Bcbscorp · March 2009

You answered your own question...

"at this point I wish I never went on BC b/c it would be nice to actually know what your body is doing"

I say get off now and start charting, read TCOYF and enjoy your wedding!

corgidogs · March 2009

bluejinn823:
I went up a cup size and pant size from the bloat that came with getting off bcp (weird thing is that my weight is the same, it just shifted). It showed up during the first 3 weeks off. And have crazy acne. If you're not worried about those side effects could happen to you, then get off now.

I have the acne problem too. I wish I went up a cup size. Hmm

Bill&Me · March 2009

::::holding my breath::::

I think if you go off BCP now you are going to worry about if you are PG as much as you are worrying about the wedding. I would stay on it until your honeymoon or your last cycle before your wedding.

Bcbscorp · March 2009

staycee:

I personally went off 2 months before the wedding. Got my period the day after my wedding - and had it for the first couple of days of my HM. I survived.

Me too, except I went off 3 months before the wedding! So I got AF and the ER on my honeymoon, good times!

bluejinn823 · March 2009

corgidogs:
bluejinn823:

I went up a cup size and pant size from the bloat that came with getting off bcp (weird thing is that my weight is the same, it just shifted). It showed up during the first 3 weeks off. And have crazy acne. If you're not worried about those side effects could happen to you, then get off now.

I have the acne problem too. I wish I went up a cup size.

Eh, it was just enough for the A cups to be too tight. Not a full cup size, but enough to where a B cup is more comforatble.

MattysGirl81 · March 2009

Definitely don't go off, back on and off again. If you don't mind using another method of BC between now and the wedding, I'd say go off now. Chances are, any crazy side effects would have worked their way out of your system in 9 months anyway (I think). FWIW, I came off the pill, had a regular 28-day cycle and got a BFP the next month. Everyone's different though.

nygirl07 · March 2009

THanks for the advice!

I don't think 29 or 30 is old but I do know that the older you get the harder they say it is to get pregnant. I don't know why i'm so worried about having problems..I guess I hear so many stories from people and I didn't realize so many people had that hard of a time...and I think b/c I had the excess hair issue I got worried too....My dr said it my italian heritage but I reseached it and heard all about PCOS and it scared me.

The bloat and acne is what I'm worried about dealing with around the wedding and also getting my period on my honeymoon....We've been saving so much for the wedding and haven't had a vacation in a while and I'd hate to ruin it with getting my period.

I guess I stay on it till after....and start charting as soon as I go off so atleast I can see what's going on.

Married2MrWright · April 2009

Honestly? I'd wait until after the wedding to go off BCP. But that's me. Getting KU and/or dealing with BCP withdrawl before the wedding would have been too much for me.

FWIW, I am 34 and came of BCP on January 1st and have been ovulating ever since (charted 2+ cycles) and started TTC this cycle. I know 29 may feel like time is running out, but chill, you've got time. Enjoy your engagement and wedding and then think about TTC. My $0.02.

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