A coworker mc yesterday, and although we are not very close, I wanted to show her I am thinking of her. If I put a small plant or some flowers on her desk, would that be too intrusive? Thx everyone, and I am sorry for your losses. No one should have to endure this.
Re: Co-worker mc? (Warning, ticker inside)
you will probably get more responses on TTC after a loss.
I think a plant or flowers would be nice. However she might start crying when she sees them- since it is a reminder of her loss. Would it be possiable to have them delivered to her house instead?
-m/c at 11w2d due to partial molar 2008 -m/c #2 2009
Beautiful daughter born February 2011
**Ultimate TTCALer 2009**
from my personal experience I had a really hard time with plants and flowers after our loss. I felt horrible when my plants died. I'm so bad with plants and it is and when they did I felt so bad. A friend and I were talking about how nice it would have been to get a gift card for a manicure or something that we could do for ourself once we started feeling better.
I agree with MrsEmma about delivering something to her home address instead of in her office as it will likely cause her to breakdown when she sees it.
Even a card that says that you are thinking about her and that you are very sorry for her loss would be very nice. One of my favorite gifts that I received after my first m/c was a gift card to Barnes and Nobles and I bought a Bible and a fertility book. For me, I wanted to read everything that I could in order to understand my body more etc. and I needed the Bible for obvious reasons ;-)
Anyways, you are very thoughtful. A simple "I am sorry for your loss" goes a long way. No explanations, no "at least you know you can get pregnant" comments, no uncomfortable silences when she tries to open up about it. Acknowledge her pain and her loss--which is what you are doing. Thank you!
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Mono/di twin girls: Josephine born to heaven and Evangeline born Earthside at 25w
How thoughtful. My MIL sent flowers and my DH put the ultrasound picture in the flowers - which made me cry. No one at work really knew, but I told a few close co-workers. One put a single gerber daisy in my office which was a suprise the next day. Anything you think is appropriate will probably be just fine.
I received a plant and flowers. I greatly appreciated both.
In fact, I liked the plant best. Every time I see it it makes me think of my co-workers who cared so much they sent it.