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husbands at showers?

carrielee99carrielee99
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My SIL is going to throw me a shower at our church. This shower will probably be the "big shower" and then DH's familes I'm sure will throw me a couple of small ones. She'll invite family, friends, and church members. It's not specifically a couple's shower but I would like her to invite some couples from our church and also there are several men who are either single or just have a girlfriend, who I won't know, that will want to come. So my question is should my husband attend? I think he should since it will be a mixture of men and women but of course he doesn't think he should have to. I don't have enough couples to have just a couples' shower so this is the best way for some of the men we know from church and a few of my male friends to come.
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  • LillyBug923LillyBug923 member
    My husband isn't attending the actual shower, but he is coming at the end to see everyone and to thank them.
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  • *polarbear**polarbear*
    Absolutely! I wasnted to have an "everyone invited" shower too (with men) but DH said that "wasnt the way it should be" I told him he's full of it. I personally think there is no way "it should be" why cant everyone enjoy themselves.
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  • mrsxoxo1598mrsxoxo1598

    ask your SIL if it's a couples shower, if it is (and it sounds like) then yes, he should attend as well.

    i would definitely ask her though, since she will be the one paying for it and including so's will increase the cost!?

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  • *polarbear**polarbear*
    Absolutely! I wanted to have an "everyone invited" shower too (with men) but DH said that "wasnt the way it should be" I told him he's full of it. I personally think there is no way "it should be" why cant everyone enjoy themselves.
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  • DarcyLongfellowDarcyLongfellow member

    (1) I would be very, very surprised if any of your single male friends actually wanted to go to a baby shower.

    (2) In my world, showers are a women only event.  (No men, no kids.)  If this is going to be co-ed, however, then yes, your husband should absolutely be there.  It's his baby too.

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  • jr_er@hotmail.comjr_er@hotmail.com
    my husband will be there because it is going to be both men and woman..but it will be more like a summer time cook out but with presents that I get to open for my baby
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  • kittykatloverkittykatlover
    We're having a family barbeque, so everyone's invited, men, women, kids. I think your DH should go so the other guys don't feel weird.
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  • May2106May2106

    my DH would be at the showers also, as ours would be coed, we live far away from our friends who are attending our shower so the wives would need the husbands to take them to our place, then might as well invite everybody including DH

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  • Vixey529Vixey529 member
    Of course he will be there if we have one. I'm not the only one excited about baby loot :)
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  • Jules GJules G member
    imageLillyBug923:
    My husband isn't attending the actual shower, but he is coming at the end to see everyone and to thank them.
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  • afgafg member
    If it's going to be co-ed then your husband should definitely be there.  I really can't imagine any men that I know who would want to go to a baby shower though unless it was a bbq/party atmosphere.
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  • Mrs.TeddyMrs.Teddy member

    I am havign a women only shower but DH is attending. He actually asked if her could. He wants to be there to celebrate the baby, to help open gifts & to thank everyone, I figure its his baby to, he might as well. This will especially be helpful at his sides shower as I cant' pronounce half the names in the cards!

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  • karelaorangekarelaorange member
    Around here guys throw "diaper parties".  I had never heard of it before, not sure if it's common.  If you're doing cloth diapers, they bring one cloth diaper and a bunch of beer.  If you're doing disposable, they bring one package and a bunch of beer.  Then they sit around and, likely, don't talk about babies.  I think it's cute, I'm hoping someone offers to throw one for dh.
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  • andiwalandiwal
    its totally up to you. if both of you want him to be there, he should be there. My DH will be there for some of it, even though its all women.
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  • Bride7-7-07Bride7-7-07
    My husband is attending and did the same with the bridal shower.  Just because a shower is composed of mostly women does not mean that the gifts aren't for the both of you.
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  • MWOLFORDMWOLFORD
    For ours we are going to invite whom ever would like to come men or women but we will have seperate games and stuff for the men.
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  • Kendall13Kendall13

    It's weird to have a shower with men and women if your DH doesn't show up.  I think that once men are invited it becomes a couples shower... or at least the whole "men aren't allowed" doesn't apply. 

    Why doesn't he want to come?  Will he not know anyone there?  Are you still planning on playing the traditional girl-oriented games there?

    DH and I are having a couples shower for 60+ people.  We didn't have a wedding (went to Vegas!) so our families haven't met yet.  DH will absolutely be there.

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  • carrielee99carrielee99
    imageKendall13:

    It's weird to have a shower with men and women if your DH doesn't show up.  I think that once men are invited it becomes a couples shower... or at least the whole "men aren't allowed" doesn't apply. 

    Why doesn't he want to come?  Will he not know anyone there?  Are you still planning on playing the traditional girl-oriented games there?

    DH and I are having a couples shower for 60+ people.  We didn't have a wedding (went to Vegas!) so our families haven't met yet.  DH will absolutely be there.

    He thinks showers are for women regardless if some men come to this one. He'll know everyone and no we probably won't play games at this shower.

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  • jennandjtjennandjt member
    My DH will be there along with the Godfather....that's how we do it within our families and also my friends have done it this way.....he's there when we open gifts but for the most part he's hanging with his friend, talking sports, drinkin' beer and doing whatever it is that guys do!!
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  • juliett8juliett8
    for DS my sister in law threw me and DH a co-ed baby shower my husband and I went to the same high school and are still very close with the same friends so we had a lot of our mutual men and women friends come. This time around my mom is throwing me a little luau sprinkle also co-ed and it will be more casual and more of a sprinkle
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  • allowryallowry
    I'm not a fan of this as my husband would ask to bring his laptop of he got bored.  This is not every husbands personality but it is mine so I just don't even ask.
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