How do you deal with "putting yourself out there?"

Re: How do you deal with "putting yourself out there?"

• KearnsL23

  March 2009

  I know what you mean.  One of my very close friends from college sent me a msg on FB asking how I'm doing [she had no idea of the m/c or even that I was pregnant].  I responded to her msg w/ an e-mail about the m/c and that I'd been having a rough time dealing.  She has yet to e-mail, call, txt or anything.  It's really kind of hurtful since we have been close and when her mom was dx'd w/ breast cancer, I was there for her.  Sometimes I think I should just keep my mouth shut and deal w/ it on my own.  Thank God for the bump b/c at least you guys listen and have some idea of what I'm going through.  Hopefully things will get better for you and for me.  (((HUGS)))

  

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• lovesinthehouse

  March 2009

  I'm at the point where I pretty much know which friends will understand or just listen if I want to talk about it and which ones have no clue and don't really care. For the ones who don't understand, I just don't bring it up and if I reference the m/c, I just do so in a "matter-of-fact" way because it was a fact. It happened. No need to hide it. But they don't care about how I'm really doing so I don't need to share my emotions with them.

  It's hard when you're not sure how someone will react. You kind of have to put yourself out there and just expect that their response might be hurtful. I have found though, with my mom and kind of my MIL for example, that what I thought was "they think I should be over this" was just "they don't want to force me to talk about something if I don't want to" and they really do feel for me. And they remember with me. 

  I hope you find a few people that you can be real with and who truly care about your feelings. (((BIG HUGS)))
  

  missed miscarriage began 04/08, ended 07/08

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• jackhppy

  March 2009

  Thanks girls!

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