Was anyone ready to TTC again before their husband was?

JacobsGirl · March 2009

We still have to wait one more cycle before we can start TTC again, so this may end up not even being an issue. But I was talking to my husband about it this morning, and he mentioned that he definitely is not ready to start trying again; but that maybe after the third cycle (I'm on #2 right now) maybe he will be. I'm also not ready yet, though I think it's just more from fear than anything else. I think once we get through three cycles I'll feel better about it....I hope. At any rate, I'm afraid that maybe even then he won't feel ready. Was anyone else's husband like that? I definitely don't want to push him if he's not ready yet. We've already decided that once we start "trying" again we won't really be "trying" (i.e., I'll probably stop charting and we'll just let nature take it's course)

I guess I'm just afraid he won't be ready when I am...anyone else experience this?

ceramsey · March 2009

My DH was very into sticking to the 3 month/cycle wait post m/c to try again. I was ready (or so I thought) after 2 cycles but we talked and definitely decided waiting 3 was best. GL

Mrs.EmmaLouise · March 2009

I was ready to start trying again right away, but my husband was not. We compromised and said we would wait till he was ready. But then we got our diagnosis and was told to wait 6+ months.... I think that was a good time line for DH, so he ended up winning that battle. We arent allowed to ttc until may, and I think he is ready now.

Looking back I am glad that we didnt start when I wanted to, I definatly was not ready emotionally. Its different for everyone, and a very personal choice. Make sure you and your husband agree before you start to try. Good luck!

lovesinthehouse · March 2009

I was ready to TTC again, but DH was having reservations. I didn't want to go on birth control, so at first used contraceptive film and then just used nothing while we went back and forth on it. One thing we realized is that he just doesn't have any experience with kids and is nervous about being a dad. My husband likes to research things before he buys them or jumps into an activity, so I bought him "The Everything Father-to-be Book" so he could read about everything and learn. It made him feel a lot better and he jumped on board and slowly and slowly he's wanting it more and more. Just the other day he said (ON HIS OWN), "I want to be a daddy." It almost made my cry.

Ssweets04 · March 2009

I was ready about 6 months before him... but I didn't have to "force" him lol

lys84 · March 2009

i was/am definitly more ready than my husband. the last pregnancy was a surprise to both of us and then i miscarried

. I just got back from the dr's today and she told me to wait 2-3 months. my husband did not want to try again after the miscarriage. he said he wasnt ready to be a dad yet. we talked about it a lot as it was really important to me to start trying again. he said over the summer he would be willing to try. i guess its an good compromise.

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