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Am I the only only who just "puts up with" their RE?

mrs.ozmrs.oz member
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I really dislike my RE. ?He's a fast talker and doesn't explain things or his reasoning for doing what he does. ?One appointment he'll say one thing and then the next appointment he says something else about my treatment. Once he suggested injectables and then I made an appointment to specifically talk to him about it. ?At that appointment he said I should do at least 3 more rounds of clomid.

I don't like his nurses. ?I don't like his receptionist. ?I really don't like his billing people or his insurance person. ?I just put up with them all because I don't want to miss a cycle and I don't want to start all over with another office. ?

I really just had to get that out of my system. ?Thanks for listening.

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Re: Am I the only only who just "puts up with" their RE?

  • CateElizabethCateElizabeth member
    I feel that way, too. ?Even worse, I never see my doctor. ?The only time we've sat down and talked with him was at our first appointment, and the second, where we discussed our plan. ?I have not seen him since August!
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  • MaybeBabyTimeMaybeBabyTime
    there are some things I completely disagree with with my RE.  For example, last cycle, she put me on Clomid with a lining of only 4...its no wonder it was a BFN.....no embie could grow on that. I also verbalize what I want now....I demanded a p4 this week with my beta...she was just going to do a beta.  I feel as though if you present yourself as an educated and informed consumer, they will take your requests seriously.
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  • cherylkcherylk

    I just left my RE for a lot of the reasons you don't like yours.  I cannot stand the office staff, they are so rude.  The topper was when my dr told my husband I was fine after my lap.  They told me "you can't talk to the dr until your postop visit".  Nice  Then I go for my postop and he tells me I need IVF because of my tubes.  That was it for me!!  I am so done with that office!!!

    I'd find another RE if you can.  There are better ones out there!

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  • igh0318igh0318

    I am not crazy about my RE.  She is pretty quiet and doesn't offer up much information.  I have learned that if I need something I have to speak up and ask.  I do love the nurses and that is who I interact with most of the time. The only reason I haven't changed is because I don't necessarily get my Dr for ER & ETs.  With IVF, I didn't see her at all once the process started.  However, she was there for my FET and was actually pretty supportive.  I think she has opened up with me a bit since my last m/c.

    I would say that if you don't like anyone in the practice, it's probably time to find another.  You can take all your records and it won't be exactly like you are starting over. They should pick up where you left off or even offer more testing and/or treatment that they see beneficial.  GL!  

     

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  • Mahon BabyMahon Baby member

    We did the exact same thing and just put up w/ our RE and we've regretted every single second of it.  They messed up our IUI's, yet, we still went w/ them for our IVF's.  I still don't know what we were thinking.  Of course, they messed those up, too.  The nurses forgot to tell me to take a certain med the first time, the second time the had me stop one too early...... the mistakes go on.  The RE says the "oversights" did not make a difference in the outcome but we'll never really know.

    Before we started this 3rd IVF with them, I went to a second opinion and used all off his recommendations.   I basically forced my RE to change the protocol b/c I didn't trust his decision but rather the 2nd opinion RE.  We were forced to go w/ the original RE for the 3rd round b/c it was free since we had already done 2 w/ him.  

    Right now, I'm on bedrest for this IVF and, honestly, the most optimistic part of this cycle is that I know we don't EVER have to go back to that RE!!  Even if I get pg, I plan to go to my second choice RE for the maintenance until I can go to an OBGYN.    I seriously hate my RE and I know those feelings are not good to carry while you're ttc.

    I suggest you move on now before the resentment builds!  Good luck!

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