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Can I Be Negative About My DH
He is driving me nuts with the night time routine. ?I know I should feel blessed he helps, but seriously I think he makes things worse. ?Every night he does the bedtime routine including rocking until DS falls asleep. ?If DS cries, he runs right back in, picks up, and rocks again. ?For a while he actually put a mattress in the room b/c when DS would get up in the middle of the night he was tired so he would sleep in there with him. ?Now, DS gets up at least twice per night screaming his head off and DH wants to run in within 2 minutes of the crying starting. ?During this last hour long crying fit I just snapped at him and told him I was taking care of nights and days. ?Sorry this is so long, but the lack of sleep is driving me nuts and the things DH is doing is only making matters worse.
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Re: Can I Be Negative About My DH
Vent away!
Sometimes Todd tries to play with Ethan at bedtime, and this drives me nuts! quiet relaxing time, then bedtime routine... but when he walks in the door at 7 and E is going to bed at 7:15, I feel bad, I know he wants to play and make him giggle, but playing 'upside down baby' is really not the best idea right before bed!
OMG, this is exactly what happens at my house!!!! Flipping him upside down, flying him around the room, giggle fits all over the place. I try to say "quiet...bedtime," but it doesn't really get me anywhere!
Pamela, would he be willing to read a little about it? Like, maybe if he won't take the info from you, he'd take it from an "expert"? I would think most sleep books (say, Healthy Sleep Habits, Happy Child) would present a good case for not doing that type of thing at his age.
Hang in there, honey. I'm sure it's frustrating!
One word: Ferber!!!
We went through a "rocking" phase with DS and it was the WORST thing we could have ever done......I'm sure you know this, but by you rocking him, it causes him to not learn how to soothe himself to sleep. Then, when he wakes up in the middle of the night he is all confused b/c he fell asleep on YOU/DH, not in his crib.
We went through this same exact thing......and it was awful! It happened right around this age too (10-11 months...). Once we Ferberized, he slept like a champ and has been doing so ever since......
GL!
vent away, my friend.
And just as an aside, my DH was pretty crazy when our son was born. He thought he'd be this hard man, "oh, always sleep in the crib, cry it out" etc. But when our son came home all of a sudden he wanted to CO-SLEEP (which is fine, just was totally not our plan). There were times I had to sit outside our son's door to stop DH from going in there.
So I feel your pain.
I have the exact opposite problem. My DH NEVER NEVER hears them during the night. All three could be screaming their heads off and he can sleep right through it.
I also will never rock them. Ever. for bed time that is. Because I am terrified of what you said. My mom thinks I am a raging b!tch but... ya know.. they go down in their crib when I put them down.
Ugh-- sounds so frustrating! I think we all love that our DH's are involved, but it would help if they just did things OUR way! LOL! But it really sucks when this kind of stuff interfears with our parenting too-- DH would run to her after a little grunt and then hand her off to me. Thanks a$$hole, I wish you would have never picked her up!