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marrymemylove
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Does anyone live in an apartment or house attached to the next door house/townhouse?
marrymemylove
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It gives me the creeps. DH is away and every noise I hear upstairs next door I think its upstairs HERE and that we have an intruder.
It doesn't help that our upstairs balcony is totally not secure and the landlord won't fix that (and it would cost us $900 that we don't have to do it ourselves). I realize that someone climbing up there would be bang under a streetlight on a moderately populated inner city street, but still it spooks me to hear noises above.
This is why DS is relocated to my bed downstairs while DH is away. I don't care if it takes a year to get him back to his room, I can't stand the tension of running upstairs to check on him everytime the neighbours open their wardrobes or whatever they're doing.
I know it must be them but it seriously takes me 2 seconds to calm down and convince myself.
And yes I lived alone for the better part of 10 years before marriage, but I always lived in places iwth nice thick walls and double deadlocks. Heavens, in NY I used to leave the front door unlocked because the doorman was downstairs so I felt safe! But here... spooky.
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Re: Does anyone live in an apartment or house attached to the next door house/townhouse?
Yeah the irritating thing is I know it is so stupid. The guy next door is a chiropractor or something (not that but something like that, I can never remember). He's super friendly (and hot if there are any single mums interested). I SHOULD feel safer knowing he's there and he has been kind to me and DS and my Mum before (moved his car, helped my Gran out of the car, had a man-to-man chat with DS about a cat while I was getting the mail, wheeled the bins up to our backgate for me once when we were away).
And I know intellectually that NY was way more dangerous. But somehow the doormen (who I got on well with) made me feel super safe.
I think I just got sooo used to apartment living. I haven't lived in a house with street frontage and multiple entry points since I lived in the family home at 18.
I used to but the places I lived allowed dogs....I wouldnt live alone without a dog.
I hear ya about being spooked though...I've lost count how many times I got spooked even with the dogs with me.
Kris what I need is a dog with no hair, spit, smell or need for me to be home to look after it, but plenty of bite for an intruder.
Basically a Ninja Tamagotchi.
Actually the things that make feel safest here:
1. car doors slamming and cars zooming along. I figure with activity out there no one is climbing up onto the balcony under the streetlight.
2. the students next door (on the other side, not attached to our house) coming in and out at all hours. They are loud and raucous but you know its them. And again, they'd be deterrent to some.
lol I knew you were going to say that....you would have a shitfit in my house...1 dog is a shedder and another one is a drooler...the drooler is in my sig.
I thought you'd like the Ninja Tamagotchi idea.
But with my luck it would be like the pp's dog, and go off at anything :-)
We live out in the Country in a single family home. Our neighbors are yards away, but still not attached and not as close as a subdivision neighborhood. DH is gone quite a bit on travels and I have a dog, a shot gun and a pistol. I still get spooked here (much more so than I ever would at a townhouse with adjoining walls). The bedrooms are all upstairs, except for the master (is downstairs). I stay upstairs in the extra bedroom when DH is gone at night.
And the prior resident here had a bulldog and I swear I can STILL smell it in the carpet after 2 steam cleans (1 by the agent, 1 by us).
I've left the beware of the dog sign up though :-)
Well in the interests of nestiquette I won't get into a gun debate tonight with you and Kris. But suffice to say that a gun would not make me feel safer, quite the reverse.
I have thought about it a lot, especially when I was working in criminal law for a while, and I have concluded I would seriously prefer not to live knowing I had shot someone. So a gun wouldn't really help me. I would of course do everything to protect DS which would almost inevitably mean if they got him they'd get me too.
oh I dont believe in having a gun in the house just for protection....to me that's just not smart.
My family are hunters and have rifles under lock and key.
.......... walking out and quietly closing the door behind me......................
I'm not asking you to agree with me butterbeans. BTW in your research about Oz did you hear about the Port Arthur massacre? It seriously changed the way Australians felt about guns overnight. Went from anti-reform to overwhelmingly pro reform and even the farmers who wanted to hang on to the newly restricted weapons felt they couldn't voice that publicly because it sounded so bad in the context of the events in Tasmania.
And I also agree with Kris that having a gun for protection v hunting are 2 separate things. I disagree with both for different reasons.