pedi is concerned about my baby

nicolita14w · March 2009

james is still not making much eye contact or smiling back at us. the pedi tried various things today to get him to focus and could not, so she scheduled an eye exam for him tomorrow.

she said 95% of kids are focusing and smiling back at this age.

my main concern is autism, which she says can't really be diagnosed till 1 year. she says to take it one day at a time, but i can tell she is worried.

i spent all day alternately thinking i'd be able to take this one step at a time and then later sobbing b/c i fear my baby will be autistic and locked in his own lonely world. i love him so much it hurts and i fear he'll never know it.

i know others said not to worry too much when i wrote about my concerns last week, but seeing the pedi so concerned really makes it hard not to be upset.

i just feel like i've been worrying the other shoe was going to drop ever since bfp-- i worried so much during pregnancy and finally my baby arrived safely and i thought i could let my guard down. and now this.

sorry to be such a downer. please send some good vibes if you can spare them.

ABC-123 · March 2009

Hugs! I am sorry you guys are going through this. I will be sending all the positive thoughts I can your way. I hope that the eye exam goes well tomorrow and that you guys can start getting some answers.

marriedgirl05 · March 2009

It really sounds like it could be a vision thing, rather than autism. I know it's scary when something is not normal with your child. Lots of hugs and good vibes to you and James.

LVBlvd · March 2009

OH sweetie, I am so sorry you are dealing with this. ?I can't imagine how scared you are. ?I am praying for you and your sweet little one - I sure hope everything turns out okay.

schmoodle · March 2009

I'm sorry you have this added stress. Did the doctor think it was even possible it was a sign of autism? I don't know much about it but I thought it was usually the case that it developed later rather than being present from birth (or at least the symptoms and typical behaviors weren't present that young). My younger sister is autistic and she had a very clear change around a year old where she went from being an engaged and interactive child to withdrawing more and it still wasn't obvious until her speech failed to develop) - I guess I thought that was the norm, but I could be wrong. You'll be in my thoughts and I hope it is nothing.

it'sbabytime · March 2009

oh hun, I cant say anything more than what the pp said but I am thinking of you and your precious little James and sending you super good vibes.

{{{HUGS}}}}

kittylove · March 2009

Sending you and James some good thoughts and hoping it is just an eye sight thing.

kianew · March 2009

Sending lots of good vibes & prayers your way for tomorrow. I will be thinking of you. I can't imagine how scared you must be.

nicolita14w · March 2009

schmoodle:
I'm sorry you have this added stress. Did the doctor think it was even possible it was a sign of autism? I don't know much about it but I thought it was usually the case that it developed later rather than being present from birth (or at least the symptoms and typical behaviors weren't present that young). My younger sister is autistic and she had a very clear change around a year old where she went from being an engaged and interactive child to withdrawing more and it still wasn't obvious until her speech failed to develop) - I guess I thought that was the norm, but I could be wrong. You'll be in my thoughts and I hope it is nothing.

hi schmoodle-- two of my baby care books list not making eye contact and not smiling back by 2 months as red flags for autism-- granted, james has a few more days to reach 2 months. the pedi didnt say she thinks its autism but when i express my concern about it her response is to say i should take it day by day-- ie. she doesnt tell me not to be concerned about it. from what ive read online-- granted, not necessarily the best source--- many cases of autism are present from birth, but can't really be diagnosed till later when the language delays are more apparent. others occur when a child seems to be developing normally and then suddenly regresses. thanks for the good thoughts and i hope u are right that it's nothing.

dec13th · March 2009

I'll be thinking of you both! Good Luck!!

JillRock96 · March 2009

Sending you (((HUGS))). Your little boy is in my thoughts. I hope it is nothing to worry about.

dana316 · March 2009

Good thoughts and prayers coming your way...

choco_lab · March 2009

I'm so sorry that you have to go through this. I hope you get some answers at your appt tomorrow. I'll be thinking of you.

cmw&tdm · March 2009

I'm so sorry you're going through this. I hope it's nothing.

I'll be praying for you and James.

((hugs))

weemodin · March 2009

My son James did not make much eye contact early on, and didn't start smiling until just after 2 months. He still is spacey sometimes, and I've found for him that his level of interaction really depends on him being full, happy, and well-rested. I was a wreck because he also had some motor delays, too. Eventually, we figured out that the root of his problems was his severe reflux. Is that a possibility with your little guy??

I know it can be really terrifying -- I've gotten the "one day at a time" speech from our physical therapist, and our pedi as well. Even now, when he's meeting his milestones and is generally giggly and interactive, I still worry.

Hang in there, and try to remember that babies are all so very different. Maybe he's just a late bloomer, or maybe he has vision problems.

ESTH2000 · March 2009

oh sweety I'm so sorry you have to deal with this...I will have you and james in my prayers ...good luck tomorrow ((((hugs)))

SeaSoul · March 2009

Oh, I'm sorry...that must be so scary. Try not to think the worst and just deal with the facts as they are given to you - I know that is far easier said than done. As my husband tells me, worrying is just your mind's way of trying to predict the future! I hope it is something of little to no concern...thinking of you.

mrspresley · March 2009

i am sorry you are going through this... i hope they figure out what is going on and it's nothing major

BoxTer · March 2009

I hope you get some good news soon. I'm sure this is a very scary time for you.

pamela-matt · March 2009

I am so sorry you are going through this. ?I will keep you in my prayers.

Remember not to get ahead of yourself...one day at a time. ?And stay away from Dr. Google

You might try some exercises at home to stimulate him (not that you are not already, but some different stuff). ?Good luck?

emiannie · March 2009

Oh sweetie, how scary! I can totally see why you'd be worried, but remember there's still 5% of kids who aren't focusing and smiling back. So he might just be a late bloomer. I know it's nearly impossible, but try to focus on that 5%. :-) Hang in there! ((HUGS))

AvaLikeLava · March 2009

Oh, no! Please don't loose hope that all is well.

Wishing you the best!

TheSkimmy · March 2009

I am so sorry that you are dealing with this right now. I will be praying for you tomorrow and I hope that you get positive answers tomorrow. BTW- it's ok to be scared- that is normal and what us mom's do. HUGS!

ela81 · March 2009

I'm so sorry you have to deal with this. I can see why you would be concerned by the pedis response ( or lack of). No matter the outcome your son with have a happy, fulfilled life b/c you are his mother and you will love him and be there for him through any and everything! I will keep you, your dh and James in my thoughts and prayers. Keep us posted

tina623 · March 2009

I can't imagine how scary this is or how you are feeling. Try to take in one day at a time. When Katie was about 6 weeks old, I noticed that she would never make eye contact. She wouldn't follow an object and she wouldn't bat at toys. I was going crazy with worry then one day, she did it. She has always done everything on her schedule and when she wants. I hope the same for you.

dundasgirl · March 2009

I hope everything turns out to be okay. I know you must be super worried, but it sounds like it could be an eye problem.

I hope you get answers soon.

Mrs.Greenie · March 2009

I am so sorry, what a stress! Babies are so different though and things could turn around! I am sending tons of good vibes your way. I know I can't say don't worry, because that is impossible. But try. Good luck.

nicolita14w · March 2009

thank you so much ladies. you are wonderful. i'll keep you updated.

GretchenlovesMichael · March 2009

oh honey i am so sorry you're going through this. i'll be thinking of you and your little one...

LucyPevensie · March 2009

I see a big gummy smile in your very near future. I hope I am right. You hang in there Nicolita! Keep us posted. Your little guy is beautiful.

Waiting4baby08 · March 2009

Let us know how the eye exam goes. I can only imagine how scary this must be for you. I will be sending you positive thoughts and praying this doesn't mean something terrible for your little one.

bethCT · March 2009

I am late chiming in but first HUGS and second, we saw the pedi yesterday and she said that DD will be smiling at us by month 2. She said it would happen betwen yesterday and our 2 month appointment.
Hang in there!

trinny · March 2009

I am late responding too, but I am sure you are really scared for your little one. I think as a mom, you must know something is wrong, but don't know what. Does the pedi think this is at all related to his digestive troubles? It seems like he would be a little behind, if he is dealing with tummy troubles. But overall, I hope he is smiling and looking at you very soon.

HUGS!!

MrsACT1 · March 2009

I am so sorry you are going through this. Yall are in my thoughts and prayers.

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