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gracendantho26
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Does your husband call your
gracendantho26
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mom and dad "mom" and "dad"? Do you call your IL's "mom" and "dad".
My husband calls my mom "mom" now (after 7 years of marriage) and she really seems to like it. I don't know if DH is going to go the distance and start calling my dad "dad." For some reason it's cracking me up that my mom and DH just decided a few months ago that he would call her "mom."
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Alex (11/14/06) and Nate (5/25/10)
"Want what you have, do what you can, be who you are." - Rev. Forrest Church
No, DH nor I call each other's parents mom or dad. My MIL asked me to call her mom but I told her I already had one. I love my MIL and I lucked out by having such a wonderful caring person in my life but it's just awkward to call her mom when I have my own sweet mom and feel almost disrespectful if I were to call my MIL that. My MIL refers to herself as Mom though when she calls: "Hi, Stacy. It's Mom." and that doesn't bother me at all.
Liam is 5!
I wonder if it's comforting for my DH to call her mom. His mom is in the advanced stages of alzheimers and has been for several years (he is 35 so he's pretty young to lose that mother/son relationship) so maybe it's a subcouncious desire to still be able to have that relationship.
OMGah he would kill me if he knew I wrote that. LOL
No, DH doesn't and I won't... I think its weird.
SIL calls my Mom and Dad "mom/dad" but it's just odd to me, I couldn't do it.
Annelise 3.22.2007 Norah 10.24.2009 Amelia 8.7.2011
My parents passed away when I was little, so I've never called anyone "mom" or "dad," and for that reason it's awkward for me to call his parents that - but I also feel weird calling them by their first names. I guess eventually I'll call them mom and dad, but it's a strange transition for me (we've been married 3 years).
DH calls my grandparents (who raised me) by their first names.
My Dad is in the early stages of Early On-set AD and we are pretty close. He would be crushed if I called my FIL Dad, I do call my MIL Mom. Out of respect for my own Mother, I don't do it when our families are together for holidays.
Ryan 5/2010, Kyle 1/2007, Eric 3/2005
No, we call each other's parents by their first names.
As a side note, my husband met my dad a couple weeks after we started dating 5 years ago and has always called him by his first name. My BIL met my dad about 20 years ago, and just started calling him my his first name (as opposed to Mr. L) about 7 years ago.
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My Dad is in the early stages of Early On-set AD and we are pretty close. He would be crushed if I called my FIL Dad, I do call my MIL Mom. Out of respect for my own Mother, I don't do it when our families are together for holidays.
I defintely do not think DH would call my mom "mom" if he thought his mom would mind. He wouldn't even live with me before we were married because he was so worried about how she would feel about it.
I am sorry your family is going through this. DH's mom had just developed alzheimers when we first met and the process of it is such a struggle. I know it is very hard for my DH...particularly knowing that she has never really known our children. Big hugs to you and your family.
I call his mom "Mrs. FirstName" and his dad is "Mr. FirstName". When his mom got diagnosed with cancer, his dad told me I could call them "Mom" and "Dad" if I wanted to. His parents are like a second set of parents to me and I love them dearly and though his mom is like a second mom to me, I've called her "Mrs. FirstName" for so long that calling her Mom just seems odd.
Not that I answered your question but um...he never called my parents Mom or Dad.
No we call them by their first names and Dh is lucky I do that becaue I can think of some choice names I would prefer to call them.
Christian Alexander - 11/13/06
Amelia Rose & Owen Thomas - 3/29/11
We each call each others parents by just their first names. They're family, they're not our parents.
I think the whole calling your ILs mom and dad is infantilising. And calling them something more formal is just stiff and starchy.
No, we use first names with each other's parents or we call them by what Jackson calls them (Juju for my mom and some form of Grandma that J made up for my MIL).
I don't think I could ever call another person mom or dad... my parents divorced when I was young and my wicked stepmother insisted we call her "mom." I just have a negative reaction to anyone but my mom being called mom by me because of that. I also place a lot of importance on calling my dad, Dad, because he was my stepfather but adopted me when my bio-father (and my mom's ex) decided he didn't want to be a parent anymore. I just can't fathom using mom or dad for any other person in my life, no matter what.