Why do I have to be so negative???

Rogue Lily · March 2009

I have no reason to believe that I will have any problems with ths pregnancy. Nonetheless, I really haven't allowed myself to get excited at all or even think about this as "our baby".

Today we had our first appt, an u/s, and a heartbeat of 160 BPM! The heartbeat sounded so great, I loved it.However, the babe is measuring a week behind. I didn't chart my BFP cycle, but I know I normally O on CD 18-20, so its not like this is super off base. I promised myself I would chill out once I saw the h/b. Alas, that hasn't happened.

For some reason, I am still freaking out. We called my mom and told her she can tell people, and I am sitting here feeling so stressed about it. The Dr. said everything is right on- sac looks great, heartbeat is fabulous. Whyyy do I keep thinking something is wrong? Is there something wrong with me? I just want to enjoy this but I cannot stop worrying. ughhhh

jdiaz79 · March 2009

I had a really hard time letting go of that feeling too - I think it is normal to have worries/doubts. The more I would read, the more nervous I became. I finally realized that I just needed to sit back and enjoy this b/c how many first trimesters are you really going to have in life? Just take care of yourself and know that it is in the hands of someone/thing greater than us anyway

AMYfromKY · March 2009

I O'd on dat 21 I think and I measured 7 days behind my LMP. Everything is fine. Also, an u/s can be a little off. Didn't you also say it was a belly u/s? An internal would be more accurate for right now.

I know how you feel though. I went into this pregnancy knowing something would happen, but look at me now-- I'm almost 13 weeks and the baby is growing perfectly.

misschippers · March 2009

I'm the same way. ?The only thing that wouldn't make me freak out is if I could have an ultrasound twice a week! ?My husband keeps telling me to stop worrying because I'll be doing even more of it once the baby is born.

foxlm22 · March 2009

You are not alone! Welcome to my world.

And, congrats on the heartbeat...i'm sure you have no reason to worry!

chick730 · March 2009

I totally understand how you are feeling...but it is so wonderful that you got to hear the heart beat. Over the weekend I turned a new leaf. I realize that I am so so early into this pregnancy and that I should be cautious about looking and buying baby things. But the way I look at it, it is out of my hands now. I am doing everything I can to stay healthy, the rest is out of my control. I am going to enjoy this pregnancy. I don't want to be so worried and paranoid that the next 35 weeks will fly by in a flash. Relax and enjoy your pregnancy.

I know how naive this sounds....but its just the way I look at it for myself

4realyo · March 2009

you're definately not alone! i still feel panicky and we just told our families this weekend. i am nervous to tell friends still.

LovingLife! · March 2009

We're women...we worry. It just comes with the territory. Try to be happy that you heard a healthy heartbeat!

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tmj2008 · March 2009

Im the same way. My mom tells me my generation knows to much. "in my day we didnt ask questions" . shes too funny . I cant help but worry. I just want the best for my baby!

MLOVER<3 · March 2009

As many other people said- you're not alone.

Reading some of the thing the women on here go through scare me sometimes too- especially right before and U/S or listening to the HB. I get nervous we won't hear anything or that we won't seen anything. Everything has turned out fine and having my ultrasound picture to look at helps me.

I feel like such a nerd for even admitting that ;/?

ilenegrace · March 2009

I felt the same way.... its completely normal. Everytime my mom would call and tell me who else she spred the news to I would cringe. But the good news (and what helped me) is that once you hear the baby's heartbeat the risk of MC decreases to 3-5%. So hopefully that will bring you some peace of mind.

short1882 · March 2009

same here Lily, had our u/s this morning so it was comforting to hear the h/b and see the baby but it's still hard for me to get excited. I need to take pp advice to sit back and relax

EMTX · March 2009

I feel the exact same way. Of course we're all going to worry, we want this so badly!

That's so exciting about the heartbeat. You're lucky! Be happy!

TarheelsInNJ · March 2009

Congrats on the heartbeat!! How exciting!

I totally understand how you feel. I had a scary bleeding episode a few weeks ago, so after experiencing a miscarriage scare I'm just terrified. We've seen the heartbeat 3 times now, and have no reason to be worried, but I'm still afraid we're going to go back for our 12-week ultrasound and find out the baby stopped growing or something.

Honestly, I think part of the fear is being on this board and seeing women experience such painful losses. We know how very real it can be! But all we can do is try our very best to relax, and just get through one day at a time.

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