Would you have said something?

Andrewsgal · March 2009

"No bottle for 30 more minutes"

This is what I heard a lady say to her baby at Carters today. Then she and I had a conversasion.

Me: Oh he is so sweet how old is he

Her: He is 4 weeks

Me: Wow he is a little one, he looks hungry

Her: He is on a schedule, babies do better that way

Me: Poor thing no one gave him a copy of the feeding schedule

She walked away all huffy. I did feel bad, but come on your damn newborn is hungry and you are not feeding him because they do better that way? Uh I can't stand stuff like this. And yes I do judge people who let a hungry baby cry on purpose!

kittycarr · March 2009

You are so awesome for saying that, that at this moment, I do not even feel worthy of sharing a board with you.

pincushions · March 2009

I would have said a sarcastic "WOW".

I saw a newborn drinking juice from a bottle and did the "WOW" thing. That and they had that poor baby out with no shoes/socks or hat.. it was freaking 40 degrees.

I saw them later walking around BRU and she all of a sudden had a hat and booties on.

Rebekah1021 · March 2009

I probably would have said something too. DH's cousin did this and I told her it was horrific.

Andrewsgal · March 2009

I think the only reason I said something is because I posted last week that a lady at swimming basically told me the same thing and the overwhelming response was I would have said something.

LinzDavid · March 2009

Yup, I bow down to you. I'm most commonly speechless in situations like that.

mauceddie · March 2009

That is great. I have an aquantance who made her baby wait until the designated feeding time. She wasn't as bad as her DH who was super strict. He'd let the infant cry for half an hour before he'd fed her. I remember once she was annoyed that the baby was "snacking" while bfing so she thought she'd "teach her a leson" and make her wait to eat- so that she'd learn not to snack. YIKES!

ETA: I just said something along the lines of how I could never do that with my own becasue it would break my heart...

MrsSledge · March 2009

Love it! (your response, not the mom)

Zenya · March 2009

probably wouldn't have said anything. I think we all do things that other people think are crappy. I don't want people giving meshit about cosleeping and likewise I don't say anything (IRL) when people talk about CIO.

I do think that it's horrible to make a 4 week old cry for food though, obviously.

DandR · March 2009

I would have reacted similarly--that's horrible.

Andrewsgal · March 2009

Zenya:

probably wouldn't have said anything. I think we all do things that other people think are crappy. I don't want people giving meshit about cosleeping and likewise I don't say anything (IRL) when people talk about CIO.

I do think that it's horrible to make a 4 week old cry for food though, obviously.

I think the difference is that co-sleeping is not downright cruel.

mlm1128 · March 2009

Yes, I guess he does better on a schedule. After all, screaming for 30 minutes while waiting for his food is probably good for him, no??

KoriBrett · March 2009

Yeah, I'd have said something. Or at least I hope I would have. I had a "friend" who did the exact same sh*t with her newborn. Literally had the kid on a timer for naps & feedings. DH even asked me wtf was up with that.

and, like, ditto Kitty. lol You rock.

docmay25 · March 2009

Good for you. That is ridiculous that she is making a 4 week old wait to eat. I probably would have said something...what I would have said, I don't know but I couldn't just let that go.

crazynervous · March 2009

Keep an eye on the 0-6 mth board for a post about this

I wouldn't have said anything but thats me. i would have judge her though.

Zenya · March 2009

Andrewsgal:
Zenya:

probably wouldn't have said anything. I think we all do things that other people think are crappy. I don't want people giving meshit about cosleeping and likewise I don't say anything (IRL) when people talk about CIO.

I do think that it's horrible to make a 4 week old cry for food though, obviously.

I think the difference is that co-sleeping is not downright cruel.

Some people think it is! that it's dangerous and developmentally inappropriate. So - cruel in that the child never gets The Gift of Self Soothing and Independent Sleep.

eta: I am actually just not confrontational IRL so that's probably a huge reason why I wouldn't have said anything. I don't think you were wrong at all.

Andrewsgal · March 2009

Zenya:
Andrewsgal:
Zenya:

probably wouldn't have said anything. I think we all do things that other people think are crappy. I don't want people giving meshit about cosleeping and likewise I don't say anything (IRL) when people talk about CIO.

I do think that it's horrible to make a 4 week old cry for food though, obviously.

I think the difference is that co-sleeping is not downright cruel.

Some people think it is! that it's dangerous and developmentally inappropriate. So - cruel in that the child never gets The Gift of Self Soothing and Independent Sleep.

eta: I am actually just not confrontational IRL so that's probably a huge reason why I wouldn't have said anything. I don't think you were wrong at all.

KoriBrett · March 2009

FWIW we never said anything to our friend other than a lot of stunned looks and "oh really........? okkkkaaayyy". We drifted & don't talk to them anymore. So maybe I wouldn't have said something.

knmommy · March 2009

yay for you!!!!!!!!!!!

neesernicole · March 2009

she was telling the baby 30 more minutes or telling you? i need to re-read but if she was telling the baby...oh.my.god. like he knows how to contain his hunger AND tell time.

i hope i would have said something and good for you that you did.

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