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How would this make you feel?

stacynikkistacynikki member
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If your baby's father's wife said this?

?I understand that he has a mom, and I respect that, but to me it?s not like because somebody else delivered him, that?s not my child,? she says of John Edward Thomas Moynahan, who was born in 2007. ?I feel it is, 100 percent. I want him to have a great relationship with his mom, because that?s important, but I love him the same way as if he were mine.?

I think it's great that she loves the kid....but something about this statement has the mama bear in me roaring.  If my DH divorced me and remarried and his new wife made this comment I would be pissed.  I don't have the words to express why I would be but I would be.  Kind of this is my son, not yours, so go have your own already.  Don't get me wrong, I'm happy that she has a great relationship with the kid but it just seems to me she shouldn't be commenting on it. 

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Re: How would this make you feel?

  • coktcokt member
    Um, yeah, I would be furious if she were talking about my kid.
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  • katie277skatie277s
    It would bother me...but I would rather have her love him like he was hers rather than ignoring/not loving towards him.  But again, it would seriously bother me...especially talking to the media about it!
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  • Rebekah1021Rebekah1021
    This would have me on fire. Was this what Giselle said? I really don't even thinks she likes the kid and tolerates him at best.
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  • mlm1128mlm1128

    Normally, I would say yes, that would infuriate me.  In this case, I am not so sure.  She has literally been a part of that kids life since birth, and I would guess there is some kind of language barrier twisting this around a little.

    I guess it is better than the alternative.  I would be even more pissed if my dh married someone that couldn't stand my kid.

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  • GinandTonicGinandTonic

    As a stepdaughter, I'd be thrilled if my stepmom said this about me.  In fact, she sort of has (although we never lived her - she might feel differently if we did).

    As a mom - yeah, it's overstepping bounds a little bit.  But, think about it - if your kid is going to spend time with daddy's new wife, it's a good thing if she likes him...

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  • stacynikkistacynikki member
    imagemlm1128:

    Normally, I would say yes, that would infuriate me.  In this case, I am not so sure.  She has literally been a part of that kids life since birth, and I would guess there is some kind of language barrier twisting this around a little.

    I guess it is better than the alternative.  I would be even more pissed if my dh married someone that couldn't stand my kid.

    I agree with you!  But I almost feel like she's saying she loves him more then his mom does.  Almost that she's belittling the relationship he has with his mom.  Just that she's commenting on any kind of relationship irritates me.  I'm having a hard time expressing why I don't like what she said. 

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  • FloF9FloF9 member

    I'm a lurker.  I have to say she's full of S H I T.  As a step mother and a mother I would never say such a thing.  It would have been presumtuous (sp?) of me to "pretend" that I was my SS mother.  It's one thing if his mother had died, or was a crackhead and MIA. 

    For Giselle to say such a stupid, ignorant, arrogant thing really makes me dislike her even more than I do already.  Their marriage won't last.

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  • shopgirl_07shopgirl_07 member
    I can speak from experience on this. It wouldn't bother me one bit. A child can never have too many people who love him, I'd be thrilled if he had a stepmother who felt this way. If every stepparent felt this way, and if every mother/father would put away their own ego for the sake of their children, the world would be a better place.
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  • pincushionspincushions
    imagemlm1128:

    Normally, I would say yes, that would infuriate me.  In this case, I am not so sure.  She has literally been a part of that kids life since birth, and I would guess there is some kind of language barrier twisting this around a little.

    I guess it is better than the alternative.  I would be even more pissed if my dh married someone that couldn't stand my kid.

    ditto this.

    also if this was said by a step father... every women would be ooohing and awwwing about what a great man he is.

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  • lsufanlsufan
    I've never been in that situation, and honestly I'd probably be just a little defensive... But, in the abstract, I don't think you can have too many people to love a child. ?If she actually means it and treats the child accordingly, I think it's great.
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