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mavilabride
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What shouldn't be on a registry?
mavilabride
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This is an "in your opinion" post and I apologize in advance if anyone gets chewed out for their opinion. Such is life on bump.
We made a dummy registry that I'm using as a shopping list. Our other registry is for our upcoming showers. Although I have shopped off of registries a gagillion times before, this is my first time putting one together. Is there anything that *you* feel is inappropriate to register for? Are there things that according to etiquette that do not belong in a baby registry?
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Re: What shouldn't be on a registry?
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Playstation III. You might be able to justify a Wii though :-)
So I should take off the glass heels with the fish inside? I figured it would be education and therefore appropriate.
My DH is a jokester, and snuck away with the registry gun. When I checked the registry online I found out he registered for a plasma tv
I haven't registered for clothes (other than a pack of onesies) because I figure I'll get a ton of that as it is. And I already have a dresser and rocking chair so those things didn't go on mine.
My DH would totally do something like that. Thankfully we already have a PS3 and a Wii, so there's no need register for either!
Totally off topic - is that a puggle? We have a one too, she just turned one and she is our sweet little hellion.
There really isnt anything you shouldnt register for, as people have the option to buy it or not. Big tickit items are fine, as people might go in on it together.
My mom told me this though... Try to keep it limited to things you only need in the first year, as you have both Christmas and the first birthday to look forward to. This also shortens the list of needs so people are more likely to buy you what you really need when they have less to choose from. Dont register for clothes or toys, unless there is something special you want, as people will get you what they like/think is cute. Its fun to shop for baby clothes, but its a pain to search an entire store for an item that might not even be available that season anymore. She also told me not to register for a pump, as you dont even know if you can breastfeed yet. And some people are wierded out by booby stuff.
HTH!
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We put everything we will eventually want/need on our registry, including furniture (although I bought the crib & dresser a few weeks ago so they're gone). Like you, I'm using the registry as a shopping list and didn't want to bother doing 2 separate ones.
Two college roommates recently had children, and for them a bunch of us went in together to get the first one her breastpump, and the second her carseat. I consider those "big ticket items," so I think they should be included because you never know who will get what. Just because an item is on a registry doesn't mean you're expecting it to be purchased.
"You're gonna miss this You're gonna want this back You're gonna wish these days hadn't gone by so fast..."
IMO, anything for baby is fair game. Even furniture. Not necessarily because someone will buy it for you, but because you may get some coupons for it.
Now, that said, lots of clothes (like, frilly baby dresses, not onesies, etc) seem like overkill, just a few items, maybe to differentiate boy/girl, or show your taste a bit. Lots of diapers and consumables seem sort of greedy, too, although a few packs to show that you are cloth/disposable diapering, or the brand name of diaper or formula you want, makes sense.
I did decide NOT to put my furniture on there. We're going to buy it ourselves because there is a discount for buying all 3 pieces at once. But, I will add it on after the showers to see if I get any more coupons or discounts
I think anything baby related is fair game, though I will not be registering any clothes or toys, as I feel people will get what they want in that department and they need to have some thinking of their own to do! The only "clothes" I might throw on the registry is some onesies, but even then I might not...
I also plan to register only for the things that we will need right away/within the first few months (i.e. I probably won't register for a high chair)
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I agree with the statement about not registering for anything you won't need the first year. You shouldn't register for sippie cups, toddler plates, etc. I wouldn't register for a convertible car seat if you are also registering for an infant car seat.
I have also seen people register for things like infant tylenol, mylicon, etc. etc. I think that stuff is very unneccessary. My view on registries is, that it's not the job of your friends and family to buy you everything you need for your baby. If you can't afford to, or want to buy the stuff for the baby....then you shouldn't be having one. Just my opinion though.
Yes, that would be a puggle. Shes sweet and sneaky at the same time. She just turned 3.
Ditto! I also bought a pump on my own (just a manual one). I don't think anyone would buy them as a gift...
I think anything directly related to the baby is fair game. I registered for even the big ticket items figuring if people wanted to get them they could. My aunt and her five daughters chipped in together for my breast pump, which turned out to be a lifesaver as even with the help of 2 lactation consultants we never could get DD to BF well (she was losing weight!!), so I ended up exclusively pumping for 6 months, which I could not have done without a good pump! My mom and aunt wanted to get my crib and changing table, and it was a good thing it was on the registry because they surprised me with them!
I didn't register for clothes or toys because I figured people would get those anyway. Also didn't register for any diapers, wipes, formula, mylicon, shampoo, motrin, etc.. because I felt like those weren't really gift items. My SIL ended up putting together a huge basket of all that stuff, which was great!
I would not feel comfortable registering for our furniture or any Breast care items either. IMO those are the most expensive/personal items that are baby-related, and I wouldn't expect or ask others to buy for us. Just MHO though.
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I put it on the registry to get the discount at the end... ?I don't expect people to buy it, but it would be nice to get it for cheeper.?
ITA about baby Tylenol etc. I'm not putting diapers, baby shampoo etc on mine cuz I know we'll get this stuff at the showers anyway. I can buy whatever I need to fill in afterwards. No clothes on mine cuz we've already started buying some and I'm sure we'll get some anyway.
I also decided not to put the convertible car seat on there. I was going to put the travel system on there, but MIL has offered to buy it. But the conv. seat, I thought, hey dummy - he won't need that until he's a year old! For me the carseat is the #1 safety item, and with recalls and all, there was no sense in putting that car seat on there if I couldn't use it for a year. We'll just buy that later on when we need it.
I did not register for any of the breastfeeding items. For me, its just too personal. However, after my shower I will add it for the completion coupn. We are using our registry as a shopping list like a lot of others. I don't expect people to buy everything on the list, but it will help me. As I shop I take off the items I have purchased. Our family is HUGE and we have a ton of friends and co-workers that have been asking since day one what they could by the baby, so I had to have a bigger registry with all different price ranges. I think it is just what you feel comfortable doing.
i registered for everything under the sun. from two car seats (one infant and one convertible) to my pump as well as nipple cream and shields and breast pads.
my registry is MY shopping list and i refuse to make a mock registry because someone might think something i have on it is inappropriate. my sole purpose in life is not to fit into the box that someone else deems appropriate. No one is obligated to get anything from it, and we plan on getting most of it ourselves anyway so the registry is a good way to keep track of everything.
I've learned in life that those who you love dont judge you, and those who judge you can go themselves. if someone is going to pass judgement on me for putting my nursing pads on my registry i'd rather that person skip the party and just not be in my life. there are much more pressing and appalling issues in this world than my nip shields on my registry.