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Is your DH taking a "leave" when the bebe is born?
I just got to thinking about it today sine my mom asked. DH said he plans on taking a week off. I don't know why but that seems short to me. Maybe that's just because I'm taking 10 weeks, lol. I then asked him how long he would take if I ended up needing a c-section and he said "maybe 2". Wha?! Luckily, my mom will be here to help the week I'm due (assuming I'm on time), then it will just be me by myself with the newborn (if DH only takes the one week off, I'm on my own after my mom leaves & he goes back to work) and DH's parents will come down at some point but I don't know when or for how long (hopefully just a weekend).
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Matthew Kevin
7/31/83-7/20/11
Met 1/8/00
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Matthew Kevin
7/31/83-7/20/11
Met 1/8/00
Engaged 4/21/06
Married 9/29/07
Two beautiful legacies: Noah Matthew (2 yrs) and Chloe Marcella (8 mos)
Day Three
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Re: Is your DH taking a "leave" when the bebe is born?
He is taking a week off. I told him he does not even need to take that off. He is allowed up to 12, but 6 would be unpaid.
Yes, his work is awsome and told him he can take all the time he needs. I'm sure 7-10 days will be enough. He can always come home or take a day off if I feel like I need him.
If anything I will need him to deal with his mom who is insitant on comming up to "help" for an extended period of time.
Nope. I'm guessing he'll take about a week off too depending on his case load. He's already blocked off the first few weeks of September so that he shouldn't have a trial scheduled but he may have one coming up. I had a nightmare that he was in court when I went in to labor so I made him block it off. LOL
I'm a little freaked about being by myself but I figure after a week I should be good. I can call MIL, SIL or SAHM friends if I need something after he goes back to work.
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when DS was born (tuesday), we came home form the hospital on thursday and DH went back to work that following monday. i was fine bc my mom took that week to come help me every afternoon, bu i don't think i would have faired well on my own that first week or so home....
this time around i told DH if he tries that crap again i'll eat his face off. when i get home from the hospital, not only will i have the stress of a newborn, but also of chasing down a 15 month old, so i'm going to need all the help i can get. i told DH he is taking at least a week from the time we get home from the hospital. then my mom will come for a week. then his mom if i still need help. 3 weeks to get back on track. that's what i'm aiming for.
Be thankful your DHs can take a "leave"!!
My DH is a contractor for the government, so they get NO FMLA or the option to even think about taking quite a few vacation days. ?That, and if he leaves for 2 days in a row, the place falls apart without him. ?Argh. ?But he has told his panicky boss that no matter what, when I go to the hospital, he is out that door - and gone for at least 3 days. ?Our moms live here in town, so if I really need help, etc. - or just because - I'll be OK.?
My DH can save sick time indefinitely, so he has 38 days right now.
He's planing on taking two weeks so that he can save his sick for anything else he needs. If our kid gets sick, there will be some times where it is easier for him to leave work than me. If I need the help, though, he can take more.
my DH works with his mom and they own a business- if he takes off, then they pretty much have to close down...he may try to get a lot done before hand and take a week off, but I highly doubt it will be more.
My mom lives next door to me, so she will be able to help as much as I need her.
he's in law school, and school resumes about 2 weeks after i'm due. he has interviews 5 days after i'm due, so we're hoping i'm not too late!!
so, to answer your question, he doesn't really get any time off.
Have him look into the disability and FMLA his job offers. Many times the father can take time off under the "helping a sick family member" which is you, since you are the one who is disabled, instead of "the baby". DH was going to use his vacation and some unpaid leave but then we found out he could use 2 weeks of sick under the "care of a family member" clause.
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All of my mat leave is unpaid (7 weeks) and he's saving his vacation for our honeymoon (5 days in September), so the time he takes off for the delivery will be unpaid and we want to limit that to 1-3 days if possible. So, he'll be with me while I'm in the hospital (provided everything goes smoothly and I don't need an extended stay) and then it's back to work, and this honestly doesn't bother me one bit.
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