Gender: Who's Waiting Who's Finding Out?

farrellashleigh · March 2009

The great debate ensues.... do you wait do you find out?? I am SOOO torn. I've always said DUH I will wait! It's one of the only true surprises in life! However, I started realizing that I wouldn't be able to buy ANYTHING without knowing because I absolutely REFUSE to do the gender neutral thing. I hate that! Greens and Yellows PUKE! My nursery will either be a pink or blue explosion!

SO that being said.... I have no idea what to do.... how can you wait to prepare the nursery!! yikes! My hubby is leaning towards waiting, so I thought maybe we'll wait until I'm about 6/7 mos and then find out so we can start preparing the nursery. We wouldn't tell anyone, even though I know this would be sooo hard I think we could do it!

I don't mind the gender neutral for essential gear like strollers, carseats, etc because we'll be having more kids and hopefully boys and girls! We like the oranges and reds. But not for the nursery... So we're torn here WAIT OR NOT ahh!

HELP... thoughts... what's everyone doing??!

jessicaclare · March 2009

Why would you wait until 6 or 7 months to find out? That doesn't make sense to me. You'd likely have to pay for another u/s, because your doctor will order one at 20 weeks and most insurances cover one unless others are medically necessary. You'd only be waiting another month or two anyway.

We're finding out. I know I can't wait a whole 9 months to find out.

userdeleted · March 2009

For my first pregnancy we found out, and it was awesome knowing. I liked being able to pick out clothes and decorate the nursery in a gender specific way.

However, my pregnancy ended in an unexpected c/s a month before my due date. It was...a strange experience, and I felt really emotionally disconnected from his birth. There was no excitement, it was all just surreal. It is possible that I will develop the same complications this time, and have the same thing happen. I am thinking about not finding out because part of me feels like if we had still had the "surprise" of a gender announcement my son's birth might have been better for us. We'll see if I make it though, I'm not a very patient person

chick730 · March 2009

We are definitely finding out...i need to know!!! Whether you find out at 20 weeks or wait until the day you deliver, it is still and amazing surprise!

farrellashleigh · March 2009

jessicaclare:

Why would you wait until 6 or 7 months to find out? That doesn't make sense to me. You'd likely have to pay for another u/s, because your doctor will order one at 20 weeks and most insurances cover one unless others are medically necessary. You'd only be waiting another month or two anyway.

We're finding out. I know I can't wait a whole 9 months to find out.

We wouldn't have another u/s we'd just have the nurse put the results in an envelope for us to open together later when we decided. I just feel like this way we'd get the best of both worlds... we'd wait for a while and then still be able to prepare... My cousin did this, they had the nurse put the results in an envelope that they opened on Xmas together when she was about 6 mos...

thatgirlang · March 2009

With both pregnancies, we've chosen to have the u/s results sealed and plan a neat surprise. I love that option. The anticipation builds like crazy once you've have the u/s but don't know yet.... and you get a great surprise without waiting the whole 9 months. Link in sig for our gender reveal stories.

I understand your not liking gender neutral stuff... and not only that, some places just don't have a great selection of it even if you do like it.

Either way, to each his own. You'll be happy no matter what. There's nothing wrong with waiting. I think the only thing that bugs me about this "argument" is the idea that delivery is less exciting if you know the sex. When frankly, it's the most amazing moment ever, regardless. I promise.

farrellashleigh · March 2009

thatgirlang:

With both pregnancies, we've chosen to have the u/s results sealed and plan a neat surprise. I love that option. The anticipation builds like crazy once you've have the u/s but don't know yet.... and you get a great surprise without waiting the whole 9 months. Link in sig for our gender reveal stories.

Oh my gosh that is exactly it! And I read your reveal story and LOVE it, both ideas we're awesome and I may totally steal them... this is perfect... that is IF we decide to find out... I guess only time will tell! haha!

RebeccaBG · March 2009

I'm on the fence as well. We found out with dd and now have everything we could need for #2 except for gender specific clothes if it's a boy. Part of me thinks we should wait and the other part is dying to know. I think DH will want to know so he can emotionally prepare himself.

DiscusCoach · March 2009

Check with your doctor but my understanding is that the later you go the less chance you have of an accurate read. The baby just doesn't have room to spread out and show you everything any more.

Find out when it is easiest to find out. Listen to your doctor. Do it then or wait until delivery.

lil_nette4 · March 2009

I want to know so bad DH thinks its a boy, I want a girl, we are going to find out in a few weeks. I was looking around and they don't make much gender neutral stuff anymore.

FinallyMrsM · March 2009

We will find out. I am too anal retentive to not have my nursery complete. I am such a planner. At first I said I didn't want to know, and DH looked at me and laughed. No I completely want to know.

chloephoebecali · March 2009

We are finding out, but that is because I do not care for surprises.

What you could do is pick bedding/room decor for boy and then also a set if it is girl and buy it after baby is born. Some religions forbid buying any baby stuff before baby is even born (bad luck) and so parents go and register/order and get it delivered/have family pick up order once baby comes. If you plan on doing a bassinet/co-sleeper, baby won't even be in room for a few months anyway.

Another pro to not finding out is people tend to buy less baby clothes for your shower and more off your registry. At least that is what I have found out while lurking on the boards. Just think how hard it is for Great Aunt so and so to pass up that adorable baby dress... and then take that times a bunch and you get a bunch of clothes and not much off registry.

Only_for_awhile · March 2009

We will find out because 1) I found with the first two, why change a good thing?, 2) I have no patience, 3) it somehow makes it seem more "real" to me, and 4) I already hate looking at baby stuff because it's all so gender specific anymore and I *have* to spread out the purchases.

Mama-Bear · March 2009

We found out with #1, when we get pg with #2 we're going to wait. I don't regret finding out with DS, but I want to experience the "surprise". IMO, it's a surprise no matter when you find out. I like GN stuff, so that doesn't bother me. If the baby will be in your room at all (co-sleeper, bassinet), you could always decorate the nursery after the baby's born. GL.

meganekstrom@gmail.com · March 2009

we are finding out this time around. other pregnancies we might just wait. I can't help but feel unprepared if I don't know before hand.

Mrs.Christie · March 2009

We plan to wait, it will be such a thrill to hear "it's a ..." in the delivery room.

For the nursery we plan on doing a very colorful, but still neutral decor. More than likely we will have more than one child in the room anyway, so it makes sense.

LovingLife! · March 2009

We are waiting until the day I deliver. I feel like everyone finds out these days, and it will be such a fun surprise! It will make telling the news so much more exciting, I think

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josephinebaker · March 2009

I am waiting to find out. I have had this idea for a long time. I also think it is one of the greatest surprises out there and I don't like the emphasis place on the gender of the baby. Girls and Boys are equal and we should be equally happy with whatever one we get.

As for decoration, I will go with the green, white, yellow, and orange. Those are great colors!

meg07bride · March 2009

"We are definitely finding out...i need to know!!! Whether you find out at 20 weeks or wait until the day you deliver, it is still and amazing surprise!"

Totally agree.

rinny627 · March 2009

We're not finding out. GO TEAM GREEN!! Lol. This pregnancy was soooo not planned and before DH and I got married he said, "NO WAY! I don't want to find out". He wants to be that dad that goes out and says, "IT'S A....". He's really stressed at work and busy too and then comes home and takes care of me. So I told him yesterday we're going to wait because I think something should go his way with this pregnancy.

rinny627 · March 2009

PS As soon as the baby is born you're going to get LOADS of pink or blue from family and friends. What's a few white/green/yellow outfits in the mix before hand?

WildHorseFeathers · March 2009

I'm so finidng out, I want to know especially with my first. I may not with my second but definately with this one!

hbkises · March 2009

DH & I are finding out...we figure it's a surprise at 20 and at 40 weeks but it's harder and harder to find gender neutral selections.

Bsgirl143 · March 2009

This is our first one...so we want to wait...we have names picked out for a boy and a girl...so that part is easy...the only hard part is..We are getting ready to relocate to England so some of the family wants us to find out so they can send stuff..but that can wait...I want the suprise..

sburmBride · March 2009

We plan to wait also. I don't even want to be given an envelope for later b/c I don't know if I will be able to not open it for months.

high_hopes · March 2009

We're waiting.

Anna&Matt · March 2009

We're planning to wait. DH really wants to wait so I am conceding this for him.

heather_09_15_07 · March 2009

I hate the "I'm a planner" thing. I'm a planner too but we're waiting, and I'm pretty sure we'll be just as prepared for baby as anyone else. I don't know why people won't just admit they want to know. There's nothing wrong with wanting to know ahead of time.

And OP - you need more tickers. Really.

Monsieur_et_Madame_Ha · March 2009

I'm all for green and yellow.., and beige, and orange, and... so we're not finding out : )

butterfly1979 · March 2009

I am too impatient to wait! Plus I want to be able to decorate the nursery for a boy or girl.

EnglishMajor03 · March 2009

We didn't find out for baby #1 and we aren't finding out for baby #2. I am not a pink/blue person so greens and yellows worked for us just fine. I'm sure if you looked around you can find plenty of bedding that is neutral without being green and yellow that you could work with. I found plenty to choose from.

PurplePeep · March 2009

We're going to wait. I did want to find out but DH doesn't want to. I have a feeling I wouldn't be able to keep it a secret so I'm not going to find out either. I'm not crazy about gender neutral stuff either but DH pointed out that we'll probably get some gift cards (his family likes giving gift cards) and can just shop after the baby is here.

mnparks@gmail.com · March 2009

We haven't decided yet. But I think we will be leaning to waiting.

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