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Funeral Attire
My bf feels that black is not necessarily considered the only appropriate attire for a funeral.
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Thoughts? ?
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If one were to opt for a graphic design, is there something that would be pushing it or is it just passe at this point to even be bothered worrying about such a thing??
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Re: Funeral Attire
I think that something somber is good, but all black is not required, although it also depends on how close you were to the deceased. If you were really close I think you have more leeway ( see Vanessa Redgrave at Natasha Richardson's funeral in a white pantsuit and paisley shawl) but if it was like the parent of a freind or a not very close relative, than more somber would be better, out of respect for the feelings of the very close family.
As for graphic designs, I think it's more the overall tone of the item that determines it's suitability more than anything else.
dark olive green would look great on you, Red!
This reminds me of a SATC episode where a designer dies and the people that attend the funeral all wear his clothing and so everyone is wearing bright colors and huge hats.
I've always worn black, but that doesn't mean it's the only thing to do. But it probably is easier than questioning what you're wearing.
I think its all relative. When my mom died, we spread the word to wear red (her favorite color). I wore a black pinstripe skirt (last thing she bought me before she died) and a red halter top to her memorial service. And we played Jimmy Buffett over finger sandwiches.
I think it's fine to wear other darker colors, dark grey, navy blue... I might even wear a black and white print skirt with a black top in some cases. I wouldn't wear bright colors unless you knew the family would receive it well. (We were considering my mom's service a celebration of her release from the disease that kept her prisoner for so long.)
Lily - I wore fuchsia to my evil step sister's most recent wedding six years ago. ?My outfit consisted of a gigantic fuchsia hat, matching capris, a plunging Marilyn Monroe-esque black top, black sash and killer heels. I had just started dating DH and I said to him that I didn't want anyone craning their neck to see the black sheep of the family. I think I achieved that effortlessly with that outfit.
I'm the spitting image of my grandmother when she was 20. With the exception of the fact that I have my mother's danish nose. THANK GOD. Anyway, the pictures that will be at the service will clearly indicate that I'm her granddaughter so I am sure that I will stand out based on this alone. I don't need to nudge that along. No need to be an AW at a funeral. The red hair is popping enough. Just wondered if sedate is still the way to go or if it has relaxed. I haven't been to a funeral in easily 20 years.?
Thanks ladies. I have a few dresses that could suffice but I am going to go and take a look at a few boutiques to see if I can snag something else.
Lily - I don't look good in earth tones. I'm a spring/summer instead of an autumn which most people assume because of my red hair. My skin is very pinky so I look great in turquoises, acid greens, pinks, purples and cobalts/periwinkles.
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My personal thought would be to wear something in subdued solids (no overly bright colors or cheery pastels) or a print in something simple. Plain geometrics, polka dots, etc. And of course conservative business attire at the least. For my grandfathers funeral I wore black slacks and a medium blue blouse... several people were wearing navy, chocolate brown, white, light and medium greys and even saw a couple flashes of magenta and green on trim. I think that all black is super appropriate if you were very very close to the deceased, or if for some reason the funeral/wake will be rather stiff and formal.