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RD'sgirl
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working mom's, what are you all doing for childcare?
RD'sgirl
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I am so frustrated and upset right now. I just started to look around for possible daycares and compile a list of places to check out and I suddenly feel like there is no way I can leave my infant for 8 hours a day. I am so depressed thinking about it.
My job is stable, I absolutely HATE it, but it is stable so for the sake of my family I have to stay but it is not a flexible job. I hate the field my degree is in so I would have to change careers. I kind of wish I could find some kind of satisfying work with a more flexible schedule so I wouldn't have to leave my baby at daycare for 40hrs/week.
So, what are you all doing?
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Re: working mom's, what are you all doing for childcare?
Daycare - but unfortunately it'll be more than 40 hours a week (I still have to commute and eat lunch).
I have great memories from day care, so I figure it's not that bad. It'll be hard, sure, but I can't imagine not returning to work. GL!
i'm not sure if it'll be a daycare center or a home daycare yet. also, my mother would be willing to watch the baby, but i really don't want to burden her with that (she still has 4 kids at home)
i work 40+ hours a week & i might go part time, but i'm not sure. i enjoy working & bringing in money soooo yeah. but i'm sure i'll also want more time with my child.
argh- don't know!
look at the birds | bless this food
DD is in daycare (a center) and this one will go too. I was a little leery even though I really loved the center when DD first started there. But the teachers just doted on her, she LOVES going there and will now take me by the hand to "go, go, go" to school that I would actually feel bad NOT letting her go. I also work 40-50 hrs a week and fortunately my schedule is flexible enough where I can work through my lunches and eat at my desk and leave a little early and come in a little late. It does make me sad that they get to see some stuff first but I also love discovering what she's learned there and she has so many friends too that she is very close with. The right daycare can make all the difference.
DD -- 5YO
DS -- 3YO
Well, my FIL doesn't work, and both my MIL & FIL live about 5 minutes from where my DH and I work...so we are going to have my FIL watch our baby for free. He offered, and loves kids, and is usually bored during the weekdays anyways, so it should work out well. We can just drop baby Christian off in the morning, and head to work...and since he's going to be so close, I can go by on my lunch break and check on him if I want to. I'm really happy it all worked out for us that way. I know I wouldn't want to leave my baby with total strangers either.
Have you looked into taking him/her to someones home, like a home childcare, instead of daycare? It's usually cheaper, and the baby will get more personal attention. You can look on Craig's List in your area, there are always people looking to watch babies. Good luck to you!
Hiring a nanny.
I work West Coast market hours (3am to 3pm) and DH goes to work around 10am so the nanny would only be here 5 hours max.
I had this exact same freak out about a month ago. I make 2/3 of our income and while I do really like my job, I just had a breakdown about leaving my child at daycare for that long! However, since then, I have found the most amazing child care provider and now I feel 100% better about it.
The moral of the story is that once you find the right place for your child your mind may be put more at ease. I honestly feel like this woman will give my child the type of environment that enriches his life and allows him to develop a bond with one more person he can trust, love and depend on as he grows.
Before I found her I was in panic mode, now my mind is at ease knowing exactly where my baby will be and how he will be treated and what his day will be like. That can go a long way to easing your mind.
Also, try inquiring at your local elementary school. My mom is the school seceretary and she knows 100% which daycares have the best kids, which kids bond with their providers and which ones have problems on a regular basis. She sees all the kids in the school come through there and she knows how providers react when the kids are sick, sad, tired or there is an emergency. She was a great resource for me and I never would have found my provider without her. They have a standard list they are supposed to give out, but see if you can coax them into pointing out their favorites to you.
That is also how I picked my OB, I got in with the nurses and asked their honest opinions, and I love him!
Mine might be part-time afternoons Monday-Thurs as DH and I work two different shifts for the same employer and he has Fridays off. A co-worker told me about this day care that offers tuition for 10-month and 12-month workers as I work in a school I don't want to have to pay for holidays and the like. I'm going to look into this place soon.
BFP#2 ~ 8/2/11, EDD 4/11/12, D&C 9/12/11 at 9w5d
BFP#3 ~ 4/15/12, EDD 12/21/12 ~ DD born 12/22/12
The other thing we are considering is moving back towards my parents (1.5 hours away) and my dad would babysit full time (he already watches my 2 nephews). However, that would mean a 1.5 hour commute every day for at least the next school year since no one is going to hire a teacher for 2009-2010 who will be out the first 6-8 weeks of school (especially in this economy!).
I work full time from home, and DH is a firefighter who works 24 hrs on and 48 off. After my maternity leave, DH will be the primary care giver on his days off - I'll take breaks to nurse and such. He's hear at least 3 and sometimes 4 days during the week. On the 1 or 2 days he works, I'm not quite sure yet how I will handle.
I do have a SAH cousin that lives 5 mins away. She kept my niece and nephew until they were 18 months old, so I'll probaby get her help a couple times a week.
L-R: Liam (7), Eimhin (6) and Fionn (4)! (Irish names)
Too busy to update the pics for now ...
Our plan (which may not work but we're hopeful), is for H and I to each work 4 days a week and have a nanny-share with another family the other 3 days.
We have no choice but to use a daycare center or in-home day care. I have a stable job and bring in the most money. I also have the cheaper, better health insurance. So I cannot afford to quit. Unfortunately, my job is moving, so when I get back from maternity leave, it will be 7 miles farther and take me another 40 minutes to get to. Our families do not live close by, either. I'd like to find a job closer, but I don't want to miss out on my 12 wks PTO. Quitting for me is not an option.
We have to do day care all day. My DH will drop them off in the morning, and I will go to work early so I can leave a little early and pick them up. If anything happened a could work from home for a day as my boss is flexible about my schedule as long as I get my work done.
Originally I was going to work 4 days a week, but when we found out we were having twins we couldn't do that financially.