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Here's a new rude question for you...

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My husband and I just got back from a trip to Vegas.  We were on the monorail one night and this cute little old Chinese man was sitting next to me.  He points to my belly and starts asking the usual questions:  when am I due, is it our first, boy or girl, etc.  Our conversation ends and about 5 mins go by.  Then he says "So how much weight have you gained?"  I just looked at him for a minute debating if I heard right.  Then I decided, what the hell, I don't care - and told him.  But that's a really bold question to ask a stranger, no?
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  • andiwalandiwal
    that is strange. he probably spent the 5 min wondering if he should even ask you or not. i probably would've busted out laughing, shocked at the question. you handled it gracefully :)
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  • I LUBBINS YOU!I LUBBINS YOU!

    My uncle is Chinese and immigrated here from China.  He asks me all sorts of personal questions, it is simply his culture.  While it may not be culturally accepted here, it is the norm for them. 

     

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  • Mrs.ForesteMrs.Foreste
    Ok I wouldn't mind if someone in my family or my close friends asked me that, but a strange Chinese man??  Haha how random.  I would have said noneya dang business.
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  • FrickandFrackFrickandFrack member
    That is definitely a very bold question.
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  • Jamers615Jamers615
    It is pretty bold, BUT since it came from a man, I wouldn't be too offended. We know they have no filter, lol. If it had come from a WOMAN, well, then I would have stared at her like she had 3 heads for bothering to ask.  Wink
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  • MrsBro6116MrsBro6116

    I don't like that question from anyone, not even my family members.

    DH knows but if under the strictest of orders about it.

     

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  • JCM083009JCM083009

    I've gotten that question by a NURSE who I see through work at a client's office. 

    And when I told her I was still down weight (this was a few weeks ago) she freaked out like I was killing my baby or something and asked if my Dr. was okay with that. I so wanted to say, "yeah, she is, that's why I am here at work perfectly healthy and not hooked up to an IV in the hospital, thanks".

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  • sandyk51306sandyk51306 member
    Indifferent Whoa. I would never ask anyone how much weight they'd gained unless it was my sister or my very best friend (and even then I'm not sure I'd ask).
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  • Sequoyah ShoarsSequoyah Shoars member
    imageI LUBBINS YOU!:

    My uncle is Chinese and immigrated here from China.  He asks me all sorts of personal questions, it is simply his culture.  While it may not be culturally accepted here, it is the norm for them. 


     

    lubbins, i totally had to do a double take. for a second i thought you said he was imported... lol. i need more sleep.

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  • ALPALP
    That is an odd one. Almost as uncomfortable as the one I got at a wedding when I was PG with my 1st, I was chatting with the father of the groom, and after the usual questions he asked "so, are you going to breastfeed?"
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  • whitneyj988whitneyj988
    That is an odd question and most people wouldn't dream to ask that but I have learned lately from my grandma that once people hit a certain age I am determined that their filter leave and they say what they are thinking. My grandma will comment on how big I get all the time and I actually havn't gained much at all. I just smile and say Okay.
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  • dbreton@plegroup.cadbreton@plegroup.ca

    imageALP:
    That is an odd one. Almost as uncomfortable as the one I got at a wedding when I was PG with my 1st, I was chatting with the father of the groom, and after the usual questions he asked "so, are you going to breastfeed?"

    I've had people ask me this too.  Of all the questions to ask...

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  • young-mommy2Byoung-mommy2B
    he probably just wanted to know.. thats not rude.. rude would be .. wow i bet you gained a lot of weight by the looks of you... or something along those lines.... its just personal.. i wouldnt make a big deal about it.
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  • ALPALP

    young-mommy2B - what kind of logic is that? Just beacuse you want to know something does NOT mean its okay to ask - there are lots of things I want to know about people, but dont ask b/c I dont want to be rude by asking something that is over the line. Asking too personal a question is rude - its rude bc it makes the other person feel uncomfortable. The example of being rude you give, saying something like you have gained a lot of weight, well not only is that rude, its mean as well.

    Also, she said she did not make a big deal about it, she simply answering the questions, that is bc she is not rude - she has the couth to roll with rude questions.

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  • Lriley1@progressive.comLriley1@progressive.com

    HAHA - A lady I work with pointed at my belly and said "you got kid(s) in there?

     

    WTF?? are you serious...... LOL

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