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The "MIL" is Boycotting my Shower (Longish)

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...because she's such an awesome person.

Very long story short, we decided not to invite DH's quasi-estranged sister for multiple reasons mainly 1.) we have nothing to do with her because she's a crappy, self-absorbed person 2.) last time DH and her spoke she yelled at him for a good 20 minutes & disrespected us and our life and 3.) she has not so much as picked up the phone to call either of us to say "congrats" about the baby since the news came out.

Basically, w/o giving all the details -  she's a terrible person.

Well, step-MIL found out that SIL wasn't invited so she told FIL to tell DH (you following?) that she's not coming unless SIL is invited.

Um, yeah funny how she thinks we're going to bow down to her emotional manipulation.

So, in summary she's willing to miss the shower for her first grandbaby to side with crappy SIL (who she bad-mouths all the time, ironic no?)

I haven't talked to her and probably won't. The funny thing is, if MIL does show up now, I don't even want to look at her.

Gotta love in-laws.

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  • AMYfromKYAMYfromKY member
    Wow!  I would just ignore her orders.  DH doesn't have any siblings so I only have to deal with MIL. 
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  • Shell*Shell*
    Sounds like a great blessing if she keeps her word and doesn't show. Hope you have a great shower!
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  • KEW0323KEW0323 member
    Wow, I'm sorry you are having to deal with all this drama.
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  • Emie28Emie28 member

    That's pretty crappy of her to get FIL in the middle or does he feel the same? What did your dh say to him?

    Good for you not bowing down to her behavior.

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  • mickey1330mickey1330 member
    Wow, your MIL sounds absolutely crap-tastic!  I had the same situation about not inviting my husband's step-sisters to our wedding, b/c the only time i ever met them the were rude and obnoxious to me.  His mom was pretty peeved, but she eventually got over it when she realized we weren't backing down.  Hopefully your MIL will get over herself before the shower.
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  • Mrs.Wifey318Mrs.Wifey318
    what a wench! I wouldn't want her there either!
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  • DesignsOnYouDesignsOnYou member
    imageEmie28:

    That's pretty crappy of her to get FIL in the middle or does he feel the same? What did your dh say to him?

    Good for you not bowing down to her behavior.

    He told DH that he understands our decision and said he would probably do the same thing if he was us...but of course, he knows his wife is extremely immature as is his daughter so he just doesn't want to make waves.

    And ditto Shell, I think I should send her "thank you for not coming" card.

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  • Honeysuckle RoseHoneysuckle Rose member

    This is why we don't speak to DH's parents. His mother pulled the whole bow-down-to-me thing as well. Numerous times. 

    You'll probably be better off if she's not there. She may spend the whole day sighing about how her daughter is missing the shower, or making some sort of stupid underhanded remarks.

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  • Mrs. Tara LMrs. Tara L
    Wow. I'm sorry she's being difficult. I'm sure your shower will be great with or without her there.
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  • nlvadennlvaden member
    imageShell*:
    Sounds like a great blessing if she keeps her word and doesn't show. Hope you have a great shower!
    THIS! Sorry you have to deal with that.
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  • greenclowngreenclown member
    I'm sorry you have to deal with crap like this.
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  • Shell*Shell*
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    imageEmie28:

    That's pretty crappy of her to get FIL in the middle or does he feel the same? What did your dh say to him?

    Good for you not bowing down to her behavior.

    He told DH that he understands our decision and said he would probably do the same thing if he was us...but of course, he knows his wife is extremely immature as is his daughter so he just doesn't want to make waves.

    And ditto Shell, I think I should send her "thank you for not coming" card.

    Omg - you have to tell us if you actually do.

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  • Anna&MattAnna&Matt member
    How annoying that you have to deal with all of that right now on top of being pregnant. I agree that it's a great blessing if she doesn't show up - and you should totally send her that card!
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  • mistirei915mistirei915 member

    I am sorry that you have to deal with this.

    What happened to being adults and making decisions about who we want to invite where?

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