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The post that started it...since someone asked..
I'm not even going to post who said it I am just going to post what it said:
"Aren't those 6 ones 4 years old now? Aren't they in pre-school anyways? Once they hit kindergarten I think they should stop and I think Kate should go back to work like a normal person. "
I just thought this was an odd statement. I actually did not vote in that poll...I was wondering who was going to say that there really isn't a norm anymore. That couples/families are making choices that are best for them and their way of life. I am annoyed that someone would make a blanket statement like that. Like a woman that makes the choice to stay home and keep the house up once her children are in school is abnormal.
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Re: The post that started it...since someone asked..
Ditto this exactly.
I would think the average family with that many kids would need the second income but Kate probablly doesn't with the money from the show and appearances so who cares if she stays home. With that many kids there is probably a ton that needs to get done everyday, clothes, food shopping ect. Also when kids go back to school they are still done by 2 or 3 pm so you can't really get a 9-5 job, you would still need a sitter or something.
I do think it is crazy when a dad has to take on extra hours to support the family and the mom is at home when the kids are in school. I just don't think it's fair to the father because he misses out on so much by working weekends and stuff.
That's a completely odd statement. I completely agree that it's up to the family and what works best for them - and why is it anyone else's business? I get equally frustrated when somebody asks me if I plan on staying home and then gives me a "judgy" look for saying yes. I don't understand why I'm supposed to care if someone else chooses to go back to work or not. I read this book a year or so ago - it was fascinating. It's called Mommy Wars: Stay-at-Home and Career Moms Face off on Their Choices, Their Lives, Their Families. It was a really good look at why BOTH kinds of women (and the combinations that can occur - work at home, part time, etc.) are important in today's world.
they are in PA (like me) where kindergarten is full day. just to clarify. not htat it matters though - haha!! i agree with you.
Oh oops lol...thanks.
I wonder what that poster would think about stay-at-home-dads? Whatever works for the family - is that so hard to understand and accept? I wish I was able to figure out a way to stay home with the baby once he is here.
I plan on staying home until we decide that it's a good time for me to return to work. However long I may be home is undecided and will be determined by many factors. I think it's wrong to have a cookie cutter ideal of what is normal and what is not. When I lived with my biological mother she worked and when I moved in with my Dad and Mom she stayed home. I've seen both sides, and I can tell you they both have pro's and con's.
I just wanted to see if many people saw it the same way I did, that there is no longer a norm. In our society women have the freedom to have both children and a career, but they don't have to do both. They can do either one, both, or neither. And as long as they aren't being a burden to our society I don't see why they should be judged.
I totally agree with this. I had to quit my job since I worked strictly with people with highly infectious diseases and because I got so sick, but I would have resigned once it got close to time for me to have the baby anyway. I love the idea of taking care of my kidlet and husband. We're very lucky that my husband's income is enough to support us. If we ever did need a second income, though, that's fine, too. I think it's sad that women have it drilled into their head that they MUST have a job, otherwise their somehow anti-feminist. I always thought about being a feminist was about having the choice to get a job or to stay at home.
DD -- 5YO
DS -- 3YO
Kate spoke at an event that I was at last weekend (just this past Sunday).
She took questions from the audience (we wrote them down first and she picked the ones she wanted to answer of course), and one of them was about going back to work.
If you remember, she is a nurse. She says that she still keeps up her certifications and everything that she needs, but she is worried that no matter what she does now, she will never be 'just a nurse' again - she's 'Kate from Jon & Kate + 8'. Even though she's not a true 'celebrity', she is well known enough that it would most definitely cause a distraction in the workplace - with co-workers and patients alike.
She is continuing to write (shhh, unofficially, she has a cook book coming out in the future), and may possibly start to do something different after the show is no longer on the air anymore, but it probably won't be going back to work in the hospital.
Also, she confirmed that season 5 will start in early July!!
I have no issues with SAHM's. I had a full time working Mom and while I can see that she did give us the great gift of independance and self-sufficiency, I always envied people who had their mothers at home more often.
That being said. I do have a SIL who INSISITS she is NEVER go back to work no matter what. Meanwhile my brother busts his butt working 2 jobs and they are still lagging behind. She also insists where they will live (in NJ where property is $$$) and continues to shop shop shop.
I think stretching your dollars to make something happen is ok. Staying at home at all costs to the detriment of your family's financial future, is not.