Let's talk about sex

MrsPatterson · March 2009

Has anyone been too afraid to have sex? I didn't think it was too crazy to wait until our next u/s in 2 weeks (we've had it once since my BFP) when I'll be at 9 weeks. I mentioned this to my mom and she was absolutely floored. She told me I was neglecting my poor husband and that I needed to be a little more understanding. WDYT?

mh2t · March 2009

The spotting that led to my m/c began right after sex. It gradually turned bright red, and about 36 hours later, I m/c'd. For this reason, I'm glad that DH was out of the country my whole 1st tri. He's coming home in four weeks, and I'm really nervous. I feel bad depriving him when we've only seen each other three times in the last year, but at the same time, I don't know what I'd do if history repeated itself.

ErinBrooke · March 2009

I think we've done it maybe twice since BFP, I don't have much desire and it's different for some reason. But I think DH is getting a little antsy so I will probably have to give in soon.

dmsmth · March 2009

Do you mean lack there of????

Ever since my BFP my DH's been "neglected". We have sex maybe once everyother week or so. And DH would ALWAYS complain to the point I would feel guilty. It frankly just isn't comfortable anymore and it kind of hurts. Thus I really don't feel like it. Although now we know it's a girl and DH can feel her moving and "see" my belly he has deffinately laid (haha no pun intended..) off the I'm neglected comments.

it's been 2 weeks since we had sex and I have not had one single comment from him, which is a record.

And yes, I am a little nervous to have sex. Nervous it will cause an infection, bleeding etc. And now that I had some spotting on Sat night I really don't want to have sex at least until I see my Dr in 2 weeks. Poor DH...

ENev · March 2009

We haven't in two months (!!!), since right before BFP. Last time, sex led to bleeding and that's when we found out about the m/c. I know it didn't cause it, but we were both just too scared this time around.

We do plan to resume once I hit the second trimester - and we're both very much looking forward to it!

MelissaAB5579 · March 2009

We have had sex once since my BFP. I told DH the other night that I just feel so gross, and it's likely not going to happen. Once 2nd tri hits, he MAY get a bit luckier.

MrsSandro · March 2009

Yes. I am scared at the moment with the hematoma. I didn't realize it was recommended not to have sex. (Doctor didn't tell me this) But after we had sex it was worse. DH has agreed to hold off with sex until the hematoma isn't viewable anymore on the u/s. This sucks because we where pretty active before. But we want what is best for the baby.

KateAndMark · March 2009

DH and I had sex the night before my BFP and haven't since. I told him I would feel better once I know things are okay with the ultrasound tomorrow. Who knows though, it may be a few more weeks before he gets any. He hasn't complained to much.

honeybeee · March 2009

I don't think we did until 11 weeks, I spotted after sex during my m/c pregnancy, and we were both nervous about it. Your mom can chill!

And you can still take care of him in other ways if he's that deprived!

AngelLuver_02 · March 2009

I think I am not the norm, but we had sex shortly after my BFP, it has not slowed until recently because of me being so uncomfortable.

Gabbard6215 · March 2009

Our last time of having sex was the night before our BFP. I have discussed my fears with my DH and he seems to understand. He said if you are not up for sex than what about other ways of fooling around. I do miss him and want to connect again through sex, but we are only at 7 weeks and my fears are hightened.

pahokie · March 2009

You are not alone. My spotting started after sex as well, so this time we didn't have sex until about 12 weeks. DH survived, although he did confess later that is was a little hard to wait. Talk to YH - you can always do "other stuff" if you want to be intimate.

Daisy22 · March 2009

Yay that 1st trimester we didn't really have sex. Both of us were way to scare that soemthing was going to happen. It wasn't just me. Do what you feel comfortable but also be open with your dh about your feelings so he knows. 2nd tri was a whole another story until 24wks. Now I'm on bedrest and there is no sex allowed.

mrsandrews07 · March 2009

We have had it 5 times since the BFP. The first couple times were terrible (for me) I would cramp afterwards...now it is getting much better. No more cramping after and its feeling better. I just feel bad for the baby since it's still so low but they say not to worry about it.. if you are comfortable with it, then go for it! I'm finally getting to that point!

ArcticFox · March 2009

It basically is not happening in the 1st tri. But by about 7-8 weeks I always felt like crap - m/s, headaches, migraines, upset stomach, exhaustion. Either one thing or a combo of them. So I have not been in the mood. However, there are other ways to "take care of" your DH. I make sure he gets "some" even if it's not actual sex.

justgnat · March 2009

oh yeah. poor dh has been starved. I'm making up for it now though. now that I WANT to induce labor.

NelyBelly · March 2009

We had sex a couple of times a week from about weeks 5-8, since week 18 when he could see a bump and feel my belly when I went to kiss him all he can think about is a baby in there and it weirds him out. Now I'm the one that wants is so badly and DH doesn't feel comfortable doing so. Argh!

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