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"Respectfully an Adult Occasion"

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We got a wedding invitation from one of DH's best friends with this on the invite.  DH is in the wedding in May and it's in Burleson TX, which is close to Ft. Worth.

The groom already told DH it was fine to bring DS (he said they just didn't want kids running around), but his fiance is kinda ....snobby, if you will, and I don't think she would agree with him.  But her and I aren't very close so it's not like I can call her and ask.  I really don't want to take him to the wedding b/c I would feel terrible if he started squealing during the ceremony.  But I really want to go and I really like this guy- he and DH are pretty close.

I'm not sure I will feel comfortable leaving DS for an entire weekend by then and with bfing makes it even harder.  My brother and his gf live in Dallas and there's a possiblity he could come to the hotel to babysit, but probably not for both the rehearsal and wedding.  Depending on where the rehearsal dinner is, would it be inappropriate to bring him to that and have my brother sit for the wedding?

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  • Kristen&DoyleKristen&Doyle
    As long as you don't mind your son around music that's too loud, which can often happen at wedding receptions, or at least the ones we go to! ?I'd probably try and get someone to watch him for the ceremony though. ?I personally didn't mind having babies at my ceremony, but it was outside, so it probably wasn't as distracting as if it would be in a church. ?But if it is in a church, maybe there is a cry room?
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  • PMBridetobePMBridetobe member
    I would take him to the rehearsal and then have your brother babysit for the wedding.  I think the rehearsal will be much more laid back!
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  • Kristen&DoyleKristen&Doyle
    Ok, I was thinking reception, not rehearsal dinner. ?Sorry!
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  • flymansWifeflymansWife
    i like your idea of bringin' the kiddo to the rehearsal but having your bro sit for the wedding! seems like a good solution!
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  • mlf625mlf625

    I don't know, personally, it sounds like they don't want children involved if they worded it like that. ?I think it might be kind of putting the groom on the spot if your DH were to ask him if your baby could come to the rehearsal- he's not going to want to say no, but if his FI doesn't want kids there either....that's kind of a tough position for the groom.?

    If I were in your shoes, I'd just send DH to the rehearsal and dinner and hang at the hotel with DS, then have your brother babysit for the wedding. ?JMO! ?I just know a friend who had an adults only wedding (and rehearsal dinner) was majorly peeved when her SIL brought her baby along. ?Other guests felt slighted that THAT baby got to come and THEIR kids had to stay home. ?Dramarama. ?I don't get the "kids free" thing personally, but in this case, I'd just go along with it.

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    I wouldn't leave your son all weekend. But then, I'm kind of weird about that. DD is almost three, and I've never left her overnight.

    If you really want to go, then a nice compromise would be to skip the rehearsal and stay with your son and have a family member babysit for the wedding and reception. And of course, be aware that you may have to leave the reception early if your son get fussy and needs you.

     

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  • MrsRegisMrsRegis

    imagePMBridetobe:
    I would take him to the rehearsal and then have your brother babysit for the wedding.  I think the rehearsal will be much more laid back!

     

    Ditto. You and DH can enjoy a night without baby....and stay out past bedtime. 

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  • molliedbmolliedb
    ditto mandie.  sounds like kids aren't invited and i definitely wouldn't take him to the rehearsal dinner where its typically smaller and people give heartfelt toasts, etc.  i'd skip the rehearsal and hang with the baby and get a sitter the night of the wedding.
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  • katattackkatattack
    As much as we love our babies and think the world is crazy not to as well, some people just don't want them at big events, which is their call. I would either line up a sitter for both nights, or just attend the wedding and get a sitter for that.
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  • JezcaMJezcaM
    imagemlf625:

    If I were in your shoes, I'd just send DH to the rehearsal and dinner and hang at the hotel with DS, then have your brother babysit for the wedding.

    ditto this.

    you'll have more fun at the wedding if you're not in mom-mode. and babies that age love weddings and receptions as much as they love sitting silent in church and going to loud clubs, surrounded by drinking adults.

    but take my opinion with a grain of salt. i'm of the mindset that kids don't belong at most weddings, unless the bride and groom have specifically planned events/activities for kids. otherwise, it's a club atmosphere. and i, as the coordinator, end up paying more attention to the kids than their parents. did you hear my story about the woman who left her infant alone in a building so that she could go dance with her friends?? yeah, i'm totally biased. :) i know you wouldn't be that mom.

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  • joycojoyco
    I had an adults only reception and several of my cousins obviously didn't know what that meant and brought their kids.  I wasn't pissed, I was just a little upset since I hadn't planned for any kids to be there and the food was not what they would have liked which meant my cousins left early.  I prefer a wedding without kids most of the time, but like Jezca said it's up to the bride and groom.  I think you'd be better off abiding by the invite and getting a babysitter for both the rehearsal and reception.  That way, no one's feelings are hurt.
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  • lovemydoglovemydog
    imagemlf625:

    If I were in your shoes, I'd just send DH to the rehearsal and dinner and hang at the hotel with DS, then have your brother babysit for the wedding.   I don't get the "kids free" thing personally, but in this case, I'd just go along with it.

    Ditto.  I would skip the rehearsal and get a babysitter for the wedding.  I don't think I'd want to be away from DS for a whole weekend at this point either.  

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