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Are you "put together"?
I feel like such a frump lately. It's like, ever since I stopped working, I just don't put any effort into "me" anymore. I feel like I've really let myself go and I really want to put an end to it. I know that DH would appreciate it as well, but somedays, mascara just isn't a priority. Most of my days are spent in sweats chasing around 2 toddlers but I really want to make more of an effort to make me more put together. I dress my kids in their cutest outfits when we leave the house and I'm lucky if I brush my hair.
do you consider yourself put together on a daily basis? What are your secrets? What are your beauty priorities? I don't need to have on gold bangles and designer clothes every day, but I'd like to at least look like I care sometimes.
Ridley Run 3.1 - 4/9/11 - 34:24 - 1st race evah!
Kelly Monaghan's 5K - 5/15/11 - 3rd Place in AG
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Ridley Run 3.1 - 4/14/12 - 1st race of the year, 32:45
Kelly Monaghan's 5K - 5/15/11 - 3rd Place in AG
Walk the Talk 5K - 5/18/11 - 31:12 PR
Ridley Run 3.1 - 4/14/12 - 1st race of the year, 32:45
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Re: Are you "put together"?
you sound like me! LOL!
Last week I was totally depressed after taking DS to story time at the library- all the other moms were dressed all nice and had their hair done. And there I was in my sweats feeling like slob.
I know how you feel, and I only have one 8 month old! I realized the other day that I haven't gotten my hair cut since DS was born (I will be putting that on my to do list) and that made me notice everything else that I've let go. My MIL took me shopping for my birthday the other day and I was so happy to get nice clothes for myself that I almost cried in the store.
I definitely realize that I need to start being clean, have at least a little makeup on, and look presentable each day, if only for myself.
I was like that when my twins were first born and now I make it a priority to get in the shower and get dressed in real clothes and put on some makeup and hair.
I have twins so I time my shower and getting ready time with their morning nap and sometimes it works and sometimes it doesn't. There are times I will just bring them in the bathroom w/me and put them in the travel swing and boppy.
I feel sooo much better when I am dressed/cleaned/made up. I now make it a priority.
Um, not really. Some days are better than others. I dress in a presentable manner & comb my hair everyday. I've never been one to wear make-up on a daily basis.
Just a suggestion: I have my eyelashes tinted (only $20 and it usually lasts a month), and it's wonderful. All I do is curl my lashes and apply some tinted gloss, and I look pretty decent, if I do say so myself.
There are no sweats in my wardrobe. I wear jeans and casual tops.
For me, yes I am. I hardly wear makeup, my hair is generally in a ponytail, I rarely wear jeans. Pretty much just tops and sweats or cloth pants and sneakers. It's not sloppy, just casual for me.
But that's me and who I've been for a long time even before kids. I'm happy, my husband loves me. I refuse to bend to what others think one should look like just because.
I consider myself pretty put together - it was important for me before DS and it is important now. The only difference is that I used to wear heels all the time and now I live in flats.
I have a pretty quick routine - as soon as DS gets up DH watches him while I take a quick shower and get dressed. Then, while DS eats his breakfast I do my make up while I sit at the table with him (I have a little table mirror thing I bring in). After breakfast DS plays in the master bedroom/bathroom while I blow dry and straighten my hair (15 minutes tops) and then helps me clean up the room, make the bed, etc. That way we are both dressed and ready to go by 8:30/9:00 AM every day.
The schlumpiest I get are days like today when DS and I go to the gym in the morning, then I am in workout gear in the mornings and get dressed and ready when he takes his nap.
For clothes, I just don't own anything like sweats. I live mostly in jeans, flats and nice shirts/sweaters. Summer is a lot of sundresses since they are so easy. I used to NEVER wear jeans and only wore skirts and dresses, so that is a big thing that changed post DS.
I don't think it really matters for everyone, but for me personally I feel a lot better every day dressed and with a little make up on. That is always how I have been, I just adapted it around DS's schedule.
It honestly takes me no more than 20 minutes to get dressed, put my make-up on and curl my hair before I leave the house. I think its all about investing in quality pieces that stand the test of time. For example, cardigans and jeans that wash and wear well. I always have small earrings on. My curling iron is large and heats up hot in no time so I can get the most out of it...it only takes 3 minutes to curl the ends. My make-up routine is foundation, bronzer, lipstick and eye liner with a little mascara. Its definitely do-able if you stick to it. GL!
PS - If I don't plan on going anywhere, I'm in my PJ's or sweats all day too. I just don't see the point in getting myself dressed and ready just to hang out at home all day...lol.
When I decided to SAH, I made a promise to myself that I wouldn't turn into the "frump mom." No matter what, I make sure I shower every day, and put on something non-pajama-like (unless I'm sick...then all bets are off). You just have to make time for yourself. I shower before DD even gets up in the morning, so I'm not trying to fit a shower into her daytime schedule, and when she's up and fed, we can do whatever (grocery, play, errands, etc). Make-up: concealer, blush, mascara, lip gloss.
DH has also been really encouraging along those lines. If he can come home early from work one day, he'll send me out for some me time. Even if I just come home w/ a new shirt from Kohl's or Old Navy, sometimes that makes all the difference.
Bottom line, if you don't want to fall into the "frump-slump," don't let yourself. I also find I'm more productive if I actually "get ready" for the day, and don't just sit around in sweats (no matter how "nice" they may be, they're still lounge-wear).
I don't see anything wrong with wearing comfortable clothing (lounge-wear) at home... it doesn't mean you have to lounge! I don't know about you, but I don't get down and dirty cleaning my bathroom or scrubbing the kitchen in my jeans!
When I'm home, I'm usually playing or cleaning, so I figure why not be comfortable (and cute!)
I get myself and DD "ready" every day. Meaning, I always take a shower, do my make-up and get dressed. If I'm really motivated, I blow-dry and straighten my hair. Otherwise, I let it go curly. If I know I'm gonna be home all day, I might keep it in a pony tail. I wear sweats with a matching shirt when I'm home, but change into jeans or capris (now that the weather is nice) when I go out. I go somewhere almost every day, usually in the afternoon. I figure that since I always bathe DD, do her hair, and dress her in cute clothes that I should do the same for myself.
It IS so easy to fall into that mom-frump, isn't it?!?!
It seems I am always go-go-going here and there, cleaning, packing the diaper bag, running errands... there are days I don't have TIME for "putting my face on" and those days always make me feel just awful!!! What really helped was setting an alarm and getting up BEFORE Emily wakes up but that's easy since she's up around 8:30am everyday.
I can leisurely shower, do my make-up and hair, enjoy my breakfast and even check up on email before she wakes up and I really just love this time!
Before she got on this later schedule, going to the gym first thing every morning so I could not only have time to shower and get dressed for the day ALONE but also so I could get in a great work out really helped me carve out that "me" time I so desperately needed!
I do consider myself put-together EVERY single day!
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Lip gloss goes a long way toward sprucing a person up even if you don't have time to put on any other makeup.
Other than that, I have probably three outfits that fit well and look nice. It try to rotate them and mix and match so that I look put together for any outings. I also have a necklace that is neutral (silver) and looks good with nearly everything. That makes accessorizing quick and simple.
I consider myself to be put together every day. DD takes an hour and a half to two hour nap in the morning. I pick a room to clean/laundry to do/etc. for the first hour and then usually grab a shower and get ready for the remaining time she is asleep. If for some reason that doesn't work then I take her into the bathroom with me and put her in the Bumbo. She plays with toys and I play peek-a-boo and sing songs to her while I shower.
I always put some make up on, do my hair, and dress in jeans/khakis and a nice shirt. I find that this helps me feel better about myself and it also gets me motivated to accomplish things during the day. I usually only wear lounge clothes when I'm not feeling well.
I make it a priority to shower every day and get ready. It just makes me feel so much better. Plus it makes me feel good when DH comes home and comments on my outfit or how good I look that day (especially since I am struggling to lose the last 6-7lbs from pregnancy... I like to get compliments!)