Family doesn't like name!

jensahokie · March 2009

DH and I both LOVE the name Parker for a girl, so when we found out we're having a daughter, we announced her name, too. We both have very common first names (Jennifer, anyone?) and our last name is Anderson. So we were looking for something different and not in the top 100.

My brother said it is the worst possible name for a girl. My dad asked us where we got it. I had a co-worker say "I guess the important thing is that you guys like it"

Now I understand why people don't share names, but aren't they just going to say the same things after she is born (behind our backs)?

guardgirl · March 2009

I think its a great name!

Stellar1 · March 2009

It's not their baby and if you like it, that's all that matters. That is why we are not sharing until the baby gets here. When other people have their own babies then they get a say! Wink

newportbride715 · March 2009

Well, I do like Parker, but for a boy. I prefer feminine names for girls. There are plenty of girls' names that fit your criteria as well, probably less common than Parker. So, of course some ppl will talk after the baby is born... some positive, some negative. But regardless, it's your kid, so they'll have to deal!

Love Sugar Sweet Minxy · March 2009

Stellar1:
It's not their baby and if you like it, that's all that matters. That is why we are not sharing until the baby gets here. When other people have their own babies then they get a say!

Ditto.

thatgirlang · March 2009

I've always agreed that people will say the same things when the baby is born. Some may say it to your face! I know my mom, for instance, would. And then it would only hurt more because the baby is HERE! I figure that telling early gives people time to adjust to the name. My mom didn't like DS's name but by the time he was born, she was over it.

All of that being said, I think you are going to get comments on Parker for a girl for a long long time, from family and strangers alike. So be prepared! GL to you.

mZoe · March 2009

I'd rather have somebody tell me my child's name is horrible before I pick it then to name her/him that and have them tell me after it's done. That being said, there are prettier girl names than Parker.

K-I-S-S-I-N-G · March 2009

Parker is one of my favorite names for girl and I strongly considered it for DS (before I knew he was a boy!) I actually love it for a girl and don't really care for it for a boy! I say use it, and who cares what anyone thinks! I think it is quirky which I like and it reminds me of Parker Posey!

kristen230 · March 2009

guardgirl:
I think its a great name!

Me too!!?

JnJHud · March 2009

Have their reactions made you change your mind? I think it would be hard not to question your decision, but ultimately, you and DH should stick with your instincts and go with a name you both love.

FWIW, I think Parker is kinda cute for a girl! Parker Posey rocks the name Cool

Edit: PS Are you really a Hokie?

jennings235 · March 2009

Most people wouldnt openly criticize a name choice once their is a baby attached to it. They may talk behind your back about it, but who cares.

Honestly, it is your child and if you love the name then use it. Once people see your beautiful daughter they arent going to care if they really like her name or not. They will like her name because it is attached to her.

Rogue Lily · March 2009

Who cares what they think?

FWIW, take this as a lesson that next time around, you won't tell them!

tanya8 · March 2009

Don't listen to your family....as much as it pains me to see people name their kids ridiculous names (Parker is not one of those), its your child and your decision. A friend of mine wanted to name her baby Oscar, but due to negative feedback, ended up using it as a middle name. (I always call him baby Oscar now because I know how much she liked the name. )

Irishsapphire · March 2009

https://www.babynames.com/name/PARKER

It means Park Keeper and the origin is English. ?

That being said there are some names like Avery or Taylor that are now very popular for girls. ?

I think they just cannot imagine the name of Parker as a girl name. ?Maybe they have never met a girl named Parker. ?I would add a pretty middle name like Rose or Noelle--that way they are saying Parker Rose or Parker Noelle--it gets them off thinking that the name Parker just does not work and they focus more on the first and middle name working together for a pretty girl name. ?

?By the way, I went to high school with a girl named Jennifer Parker. ?She named her kids Jackson, Ashton, and Paisley. ?

wilkins1 · March 2009

I totally feel your pain. my mom doesn't like any of the boy names we had on our list.. and we finally decided on one and she doesn't like it. i think that Parker is cute for a girl name. .. gl

LMS05 · March 2009

I'm going to be honest. Parker is probably one of the worst names I've ever heard for a girl. It's SO masculine. Your family is right. Change the name!?

foundmylazybum · March 2009

Haha..It's not THAT masculine..sheesh! Are you going to question every decision you make with your child if your family and friends don't like it!?

If you guys really like the name, then go with it and be happy with your decision.

It's not like you are naming the kid Euphagenia or Brody or something crazy.

star678 · March 2009

I don't think Parker is any more masculine then Harper, Cameron or Emerson, so if you love the name, go for it.

If it were me, I'd change the name if my family or DH's family continually expressed distaste for the name, but this is mostly because I'm around them a lot and they're not the type of people to let it go once the baby is born. Especially DH's family-- they're the type to pick their own name for the kid and use that. And honeslty, maybe this makes me a push over, but I'd rather pick my "silver medal" name than to deal with all that mess.

If you don't think this is an issue for you, then go with what you love. And Parker is very, very cute.

LMS05 · March 2009

*starcrossd*:
I don't think Parker is any more masculine then Harper, Cameron or Emerson, so if you love the name, go for it.

I think those others names are very masculine too.?

LMS05 · March 2009

There are thousands of girl names to choose from, why would you even consider Parker? I don't get it at all. If I saw on a resume Parker Smith or whatever, I would absolutely assume it's a man. I'm so thankful it's not my name!! There are so many beautiful names that are not in the top 100.?

tct1219 · March 2009

i always loved this name for a girl until i started hearing it everywhere. baby name wizard says:

parker is still solidly male, but magnetic actress parker posey has lured the name toward the girls' side. if you want a more feminine name in the same genre, piper is one possibility.

i don't like piper and like i said, even here in oklahoma little girl parkers are all over the place. i doubt your daughter will be one of many in her class, but she certainly won't stand out in a bad way. don't listen to your family, it's a cute name.

tct1219 · March 2009

LMS05:
There are thousands of girl names to choose from, why would you even consider Parker? I don't get it at all. If I saw on a resume Parker Smith or whatever, I would absolutely assume it's a man. I'm so thankful it's not my name!! There are so many beautiful names that are not in the top 100.

my name is taylor, which is much more a girl's name now than a boy's but i still get mr. on mail every once in a while. i know a lot of people don't like boy/ unisex names on girls but there are so many girls named parker now.

if you're looking for similar name alternatives, think about cambell. also, please do NOT name your baby parker rose, that sounds stupid with the R sounds right next to each other.

lbap · March 2009

LMS05:
*starcrossd*:
I don't think Parker is any more masculine then Harper, Cameron or Emerson, so if you love the name, go for it.
I think those others names are very masculine too.

Lol... I was just going to say the same thing!

mieuxmieux · March 2009

This is why I didn't tell anyone our baby name. If you like it, you should use that name. It will either grow on them eventually or they will just have to get over it.

kryssy · March 2009

Parker is nms, but if you both like it, then screw what they say and use it anyway. We have an extremely common last name so we selected a more unusual name for DD. When we announced it before she was born (BIG MISTAKE) my step-father actually said, "What kind of freaky a** sh** is that?" Dead serious. We never heard a word about it after she was born and I doubt anyone cares anymore.

cabana1 · March 2009

LMS05:
*starcrossd*:

I don't think Parker is any more masculine then Harper, Cameron or Emerson, so if you love the name, go for it.

I think those others names are very masculine too.

Another ditto. I know it stinks that family is criticizing your name choice. However, if you are going to pick an unconventional name, one must expect some to make negative comments (tis life). I like the name Parker for a boy, but really dislike it for a girl. It, by itself, is a perfectly fine name but your family is probably up in arms bc you are having a girl.

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