Delivery room: Who else besides dh will be there?

rodiggity79 · March 2009

Dh and I were discussing this just the other day... He doesn't want anyone else in the room when I deliver. Just me, him and the doctors.

I didn't really have an opinion on the matter. My sister expressed that she wanted to be in the room for the actual birth and I am fine with that. But dh says he wants it to be a special moment between just us. I guess he wants to be the one to announce the birth and the gender to everyone in the waiting room.

Just curious if anyone else feels like that... are you letting other people in the room? Ultimately it's my decision if my sister is there or not... But I am taking his feelings into consideration.

Stellar1 · March 2009

Pretty sure it will just be me and DH. He wanted it to be the two of us and I said I may want my mom in there but the more I think about it, I think I want it to be just a special moment between the two of us. I don't care if my mom is in there during labor but just the two of us for the actual pushing. I figure the grandparents will have has much time as they want to spend with the baby that this can be a special moment for the new family.

ashs · March 2009

Just me, DH and the medical staff. It was never a discussion between us and if it was I would have told him absolutely not. I don't even want people at the hospital while I'm in labor but DH thinks we should call our families in case something were to go wrong. I'm still unsure about it.

Rossi17 · March 2009

Maybe it's cultural, I don't know (my family is Mexican descent), but at my sister's baby's birth, in the room was me, my mom, my sister, and her boyfriend during the actual birth. During earlier stages of labor, though, we had female cousins, my brothers, and my Aunts show up to visit. I really think it is up to you. My sister was glad my Mom was there because in times like this, everyone wants their Mommy. I think I might have my DH, and my Mom there. I'm not sure yet about my sisters.

mmcrocker · March 2009

Originally I was pretty stuck on only DH being in there, but then I thought about it and what a wonderful experience for my mom to have to be there when her grandchild is born. So I opened the invitation to her. DH was okay with it, he just had to get used to the idea. This will be her fourth gc, but she wasn't there in the room with my sister.

I did, however, give her some guidelines....no overreacting and remember that this is something incredibly special for DH and me and not to be in the way. It sounds rude, but I said it better to her. She completely understood and plus she was there in the waiting room with DH during my surgery after losing our first baby.

Do whatever will make you feel comfortable.

soontobemrs.boulet · March 2009

My SIL who is my very good friend will be in there. She will be responsible for taking pictures during labor and immediately after DD is born. I really love those pictures taken in the delivery room when they are brand new and I don't want DH to have to be preoccupied doing that.

AnimalHouse · March 2009

My parents and in-laws are welcome to visit while I'm in labor briefly but once it's time to push it will just be me and DH. Depending on how fast or slow I'm progressing we could get bored and some visitors might be nice once I'm stuck in bed with an epidural!

Montclair428 · March 2009

I haven't decided yet. It will either be just me and DH or maybe my mom as well. I asked him and he said it would be ok with him if it was important to me. But, I haven't decided yet if I want her there or want it to be just the two of us.

dmsmth · March 2009

Nope, just me, DH and the Dr's and nurses.

lil_rhody · March 2009

I just want DH there. My mom would just give me more stress.

WittyKittyKat · March 2009

Just DH & I. I am having another c-section so I dont even think anyone else would be allowed, even if we wanted.

CPSTmama · March 2009

Hopefully my good friend. She didn't make it in time for ds he came very quickly and she lives an hour away. With dd I had some friends and it was so nice to have them take pictures and things. Dh didn't have to and we got so many pictures of the three of us. I couldn't have just anyone though. Right now my friend that lives a hour away is the only one I am comfortable with.

angel555 · March 2009

Just me, DH, and then our baby girl. The idea of having other people in there besides the doctors freaks me out. But then again, I'm not real close to my mom. I AM really close to my brother, but that would be weird.

Rachel2315 · March 2009

DH and the medical team (hopefully my favorite OB out of the clinic - I hear you can sweet talk him into coming to your delivery even if you're not on call b/c he's such a nice guy) and maybe my mom. ?We'll see. ?She gets really really overly emotional sometimes about things and I don't know if I can handle her emotions, my emotions, and DH's emotions.

?DH and I just had that discussion about whether he would watch the baby come out. ?Both of us are in the "No way!" category now but everyone tells us how awesome it is to witness that. ?We'll have to see.

KateAndMark · March 2009

I would like it to be Me (obviously), DH, my mom and my MIL but both of our parents live 1,200 miles away so it will be tricky to see if we can manage that. My parents adopted both me and my brother so my mom has never been through the birth process and I think it will be neat to have her go through that with me.

cladac17 · March 2009

It will be just DH and I. I really wanted this to be a special moment between the two of us. Also I have two sisters so I couldn't have one in and not the other and I couldn't have my mom and not my MIL so I figured if no one is there it would just be easier.

jennandjt · March 2009

It will be my DH, my sister and my mum.....this is how it was (minus my hubby) for my nephews birth and I'd reall like the support!!

ArcticFox · March 2009

Just DH and myself, like wtih my DD. I feel it's really personal and intimate. And then it is an even playing ground - if we invite one parent or whatever, then another may be insulted, etc. But no one else was allowed in, I really wanted to feel comfortable going through labor even if I pooped on the table!

ARC 07 · March 2009

Just DH,me, and the doctors/nurses.

jnealet · March 2009

It was going to be DH and a birth companion but since it's a c-section, I think it's going to be just DH.

RJHarmon · March 2009

I will be having DH, my mom and my sister. DH might get a little woozy, so I need two strong women to take on the job for him lol.

justgnat · March 2009

For the pushing ONLY DH and the medical professionals. If I need a c/s my mom can be there. I'm just not comfortable with everyone seeing me so exposed.

Jill+Dave · March 2009

There is absolutely no way that I'd let anyone in there except DH. I really don't even want anyway to visit us at the hospital as I want that time to ourselves to bond with Paige & for me to recoup. I think there is plenty of time after we are home for people to visit. It's not like she'll change that much in 2-3 days.

mamaofliam · March 2009

Just my husband. I don't want others there because I feel this is OUR special time.

I would seriously honor your husband's feelings since he does have a preference. It is his first time to meet his little one so should be as special for him as it is for you.

mh2t · March 2009

I think just us. My mom had initially expressed interest, but I don't want it to be too crowded - I think it will stress me out - as it is I'll have a midwife and a birth assistant there too.

lville · March 2009

Just DH...I want for it to be just us, I personally feel like it is a private thing that I want to share with only him. Just my preference though...

Cow-girl · March 2009

At first I would have told you only DH & I, but my 12 yo DD wants to be there (at my head of course).

My BFF approached me recently saying that she had never seen a baby born and it was really something she wanted to see. We talked about it and I discussed it with DH. She will be joining us in the delivery room. She and I have been best friend for 14 years and I feel honored that she wanted to be there.

I know its a little unconventional but this is my 3rd child and I have no pride left at this point. Plus I feel more comfortable with my BFF there than a bunch of nurses I dont know (or students).

So I will have my own cheering section, LOL....

DNK777 · March 2009

Just me and DH. Well and the medical staff, but that's a given.

Babs022 · March 2009

I'm def having my mom in there with us...she's a pediatric nurse, so I want her to make sure all is looking good, lol!

Tonya_G · March 2009

I just want it to be DH and I this time- My whole family was there for DS's birth, so, they've seen it all already Wink

starlingrose · March 2009

So far my feelings are my bf and doctors only, I could see myself in the moment feeling like I need my mom there but when I think about how inhibited ill have to be and all the the potential pooping during labor and all that fun stuff maybe ill just let my bf be the lucky one.

lauraryan520 · March 2009

For sure just me, DH, and Drs.

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