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Circumcision - clicky poll
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Re: Circumcision - clicky poll
Thanks
I was just wondering about it the other day...?
This is where we stand too.?
I left this up to DH since that's his territory. He wants DS to have one, so that's what we're doing.
DH gets such little say in things already - he can have that one!
That is how we feel as well. As long as it is cleaned and maintained properly - there will be no problems with it.
It's interesting, my DH isn't circumcised and he really wants our son circumcised (well, it if's a boy
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Yes for boys.
No, no, no for girls....
It's interesting, my DH isn't circumcised and he really wants our son circumcised (well, it if's a boy
)
Kristri07 that is my DH opinion as well...
I must say that we come from Europe and this is not at all a common practice there. In fact, before coming to the US, I only thought circumcision was practiced mostly in religious countries for religious reasons, and I'm really surprised at the results of this poll.
Mind you, I respect every choice!
?i know a few men who feel the same... ?they aren't?circumcised?and always felt self-conscious about it
?this is probably a big factor in why we'll doing it, besides DH is all for it too.
Same. Well, that's only part of the reason, but it's an important one.
I voted no. We will absolutely not be circumcising.
I will be keeping my thoughts out of this thread though.
Lol, I hear you, I am keeping my thoughts out of my own topic too... that's why I made the clicky short for a "yes" or a "no". ?This can become such a heated discussion I guess.
I like this way of putting it!
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Due to the religious beliefs of my family if we have a boy, he will be circumcised. However, it will not take place in a hospital.
I have two younger brothers. One was circumcised at home, when he was 8 days old (as is customary) by a moyel. It was a quiet and peaceful ceremony surrounded by friends and family.
My youngest brother was a preemie and was in the hospital when he was 8 days old. He was strapped down by his hands and feet in a cold, bright room and screamed the entire time.?
Based upon my personal emotional reaction between the two, we will have a moyel come to our house... even though we're non-practicing. ?
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I have to say, I'm REALLY shocked that 85% of us clicked "Yes"... I truly believed that I was going to be the odd one out.
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We were all for a circum with our son, and then when the doctor didn't want to do it on him since he was so small at birth, we did a lot of research and decided that there wasn't any good reason to do it. rates have gone down, not as many people get it done anymore. That skin is there for a reason, its protecting the penis, and the child can be taught to care for it like any other part. The procedure is very painful during and after. Why put him through that? So he can look like his daddy? Please! What his daddy looks like or had one or not, should NOT make any difference. Its BOTH the decision of the mom and dad. It shouldn't be "DH's territory". What a bunch of ignorance and stupidity that is. Do your research people!
This is a great topic, DH and I have been arguing about this! He isn't circumcised, and wants to have it done if we have a boy. I wondered what our son might think if he was and Daddy wasn't...but DH says he always felt self consious about it (apparently he was the only one in his school that wasn't), but other guys I've talked that aren't didn't care.
I would really like to hear everyone's opinion, but I understand it can be a heated topic. I'm voting undecided.
We're undecided. Rather, my DH is for it, I'm against.
DH's reasons for wanting to circumcise are:
1) DH is circumcised, and wants our son to look like him. I think this is a weird argument, but, oh well.
2) He doesn't want our boy to get teased in school (still a kinda valid argument since the circumcision rates around here are still 80%-ish - yet, what is it with everyone having to "look" the same? Do guys just stand around and look at each other's penises all day?).
3) Easier to keep clean
4) He has done some research and multiple studies have indicated there are health benefits of being circumcised, including reducing the frequency of UTIs and decreasing the rate of female to male HIV contraction.
5) He's afraid that if we don't do it, our son could get phimosis and/or decide he wants it done later anyway, resulting in a painful procedure at an older age.
6) DH is glad he was circumcised, didn't even know what it was/that he was until he was in his teens, and doesn't understand why anyone wouldn't want to be, especially while it's still prevalent.
My reasons for not wanting to circumcise include:
1) I think the procedure (as a routine procedure) is unnecessary - a foreskin is natural.
2) I can teach our son how to keep an uncircumcised penis clean. For every study my DH finds that claims circumcised penises are cleaner/more hygienic, I can find one that claims that routine circumcision is medically unnecessary, and it is easy to keep an uncirc'ed penis clean.
3) I watched my brother get circumcised (I was 14 when he was born) and it was horrible. He screamed bloody murder. I don't care if they don't remember. That is cruel!!!
4) Most importantly: Even if "everyone else" is doing it, and even though my husband is circumcised, there is just something morally wrong/unethical about removing part of someone's body when he is unable to give consent, and I can't get past that. This is an irreversible procedure we're talking about! If my son wants to get circumcised one day, I will absolutely support it if that is what he wants. I don't know how I could ever live with myself if my kid came to me someday and said, "Mom, why did you have part of my penis cut off?"
So, there you have it. The debate that goes on in our house every few days... only time will tell who will win!
I still don't get why people are self-concious about not being circumcized? It's not like they are abnormal or something. It's something you are born with! It's how the human body is made. It's not like having a third ear.?
While I don't absolutely judge your choice, I respect everyone's choice in fact, the prevention reason doesn't convince me.
Why not just get the girls to cut out their breasts then? It will certainly help prevent breast cancer...
wow, judgy much?
Touche!
I agree, kids are cruel.
I also agree that doing it later in life is much more painful...
Personally, though, I have never heard of someone that had infection problems because of not being circumcized. But that is in Europe. Over 90% of people there are not circumcized and don't get so later in life either. No offence to anyone, but I don't like the fact that people in the US don't know what bidets are.?
First, thanks to jolis_petit_bijoux for posting the pros and cons. This is something on which I haven't done a lot of research and probably never will (so thanks to whoever else also told us to do our research).
To me, circumcision is a lot like breast implants. It's a way of assimilating to the superficial ideal of American life (at least that's how I view the argument for insecure boys with uncircumcised penises). Personally, this isn't a huge topic in my house because I don't care either way. I think I'd circumcise my son only because I've only ever seen circumcised penises and I don't know how to clean or teach a child to clean their own uncircumcised penis--flame me but I'm being honest. Sure, I can learn but DH's opinion is weighed more heavily here because he'll be doing a lot of the male bonding with our child. At the end of the day, I could go either way.