Things you should never say....

MissyNa · March 2009

post some of the thoughtless comments people have said to you while pregnant, as a new mom or while TTC.

MissyNa · March 2009

Tonight we went to pick up a car at an acquaintances house. We brought Brielle in since they have not seen her yet. While we were chatting the husband of this duo says "So are you guys tired? Shana you look pretty beat."

Uh, gee thanks! That's exactly what a new mom wants to hear. Of course I'm beat! I have a 5 week old! You don't have to point out that I look like crap. LOL!

I know he really didn't mean anything bad by it though. I think as soon as the words were out of his mouth he realized he shouldn't have said it. They have two kids so I think he was just sympathizing and it came out wrong.

xDanniellex · March 2009

I'm just sick of ppl asking me if I'm pregnant yet. I'm not really big on keeping secrets (well not happy good secrets), so I'd tell you if I was.

My mom tells me to stop stressing about getting pregnant, that as soon as I stop worrying about it I'll get pregnant. But then every other week she's asking me if I'm pregnant. Hello!! If you keep asking me, I'm gonna keep stressing about it!

xDanniellex · March 2009

These obviously haven't been said to me, but to a fellow nestie who posted them as a note on facebook.

#1 - "You had better sleep now cause you're not going to rest once the baby gets here" REALLY???? I had no *** idea! I thought MY child was going to come out sunlight actived! Thanks for letting me know!

#2 - "Should you drink coffee?" Hmmmm let me think about it.... NO I was just trying a few different things to kill the fetus. Since coffee is not working I'm moving on to crack.

#3 - "You can't take pain killers when you're pregnant!" First of all that statement is not even accurate! After the 1st trimester you can take them if you absolutely HAVE to. Not that I did not that I was sitting there with a bottle and a puzzled look on my face! I WAS LITERALLY GIVING A PAIN KILLER TO SOMEONE ELSE NOT SHOVING 1 DOWN MY THROAT!

#4 - "You know your life is over when the baby comes." (This came for 2 different people WHO DON'T HAVE KIDS I MIGHT ADD!) Really??? Well thanks for trying to freak me out.... I mean the thought of being responsible for a whole person isn't scary enough. Thanks for letting me know I am basically dying the day my baby is born.

#5 - "You're ARE having a (insert boy or girl here) I can tell by the way you're (insert dumb ass wives tale here)." Let me help you ... just say "I am guessing (insert boy or girl here)" You sound like a *** jackass when you try to justify it. It's a 50/50 guess that's all!

#6 - "You're getting so big!" Well Thanks for pointing that out! I guess the crack diet is not paying off. Should I tell you when you're getting big? Difference being I have a PERSON GROWING INSIDE OF ME! Don't say to ANY pregnant woman EVER "Wow you're getting big" unless you want to be smacked in the mouth ... and you will deserve it! We know that we are getting bigger we realize once we start buying maternity clothes what is happening .... you're not pointing out anything we don't *** know!

#7 - "Do you think it's OK to have a C-Section" No .... Not at all that's why I am having 1 going with trying to kill the baby again.

#8 - "My friend so&so had a baby like 4 years ago .... yea they thought everything was fine .... until the baby was born." Well while I would LOVE to hear more about this I have a building to jump off of. What the would make ANYONE say something like this to a pregnant woman???? WHY would you tell me that? I am pregnant therefor must here every pregnancy story ever especially the horrible ones? WHO DOES THAT??? What did you do read a *** book on what not to say and save it all up till you saw me????

#9 - "Well if you're planning to be a stay at home mom and keep you're baby out of day care then they are not going to be adjusted" ****The back story on this little gem is that the head who said it to me had a mom who stayed home ... they did not go to day care .... and they have no kids. We were also talking about how I am would not feel comfortable putting my 6 WEEK old baby into day care like some people have to. So basically I am SLAMMING MY HEAD INTO A WALL over this. So let me get this right ... if my child does not get thrown into daycare at 6 weeks they will not be adjusted???? REALLY???? WHAT THE ????

#10 - "Morning sickness is bad for the baby" OMG read a baby book before you speak about pregnancy.

#11 - "The age of the father doesn't matter at all" What are you from the *** middle ages? OF COURSE it matters! HELLO!!!! You probably also think that it's the womans body that makes the baby a boy or girl right?

LVila · March 2009

Hahaha Dannielle. Those are funny. I posted mine on the Nest, but I'll post again here.

These are all from the same person and the first thing she said when she saw me after she found out I was pregnant (and it's a MOM of one of my preschoolers! Not a best friend or anything.):

"So have you been sick?" *insert her disappointed face when I said NO.

"Well, how long did it take?" Ummm.... you want how many times we tried or how long the actual sex took?

"What are you going to do in the fall. You and your H can't afford for you not to work." Really? Do you balance our checkbook? I told her we hadn't discussed it yet, so she says, "Well this job doesn't pay enough to make it worth paying for daycare." Honestly, woman. Shut up.

"I have an idea! You should get on WIC." WIC is a fabulous program, but there are income limits. My H and I both work full time. we own a house and two cars. She knows all this. So I remind her again that there are income limits. She says, "Well, I'm on it, but don't tell anyone. My H doesn't want people to know since I do the books for our farm and make it look like we have no money." Great. So you're cheating the system. I'm happy for you. Hopefully the rest of those kids who's parents CAN'T find a job don't need that juice you can afford to buy yourself.