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In response to the PG ladies post below...

MelissaAB5579MelissaAB5579 member
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Hi girls,

I am so sorry if anything we do/say/tickers upset you in the least. I know how hard it can be to see people's tickers & BFP posts, when you've been trying for the same thing to no avail. I've been there too. If I have upset you the I am truly sorry, and I will not hangout on this board, if any of my regular girlies want to page me on SAL, I would love to keep in touch.

Love you girls & please know that I am praying for your babies soon :)

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Re: In response to the PG ladies post below...

  • gallerygirlgallerygirl member
    I've been gone all day and haven't read what's been going on. I do know that it did bother me to see a ton of posts from pg ladies once their pregnancy was confirmed to be "going okay." I always wanted to see that betas were growing, but the ultrasound pics on bad days were very upsetting.  The truth is, there is something that changes instantly once you get that bfp for the ladies here still coping with loss and trying to get pregnant. I'm going to do my best to not lose sight of that when I do stop by and say hello...
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  • mmcrockermmcrocker

    I replied below, but I'll reply here as well...

    For the pg girls, it's called being thoughtful.  There are ladies here that have been trying for more than six months after their m/c and some it's been around a year since their m/c.  Kekis was not trying to be rude at all.  There are good days and  bad days, but it does hurt when you've been trying for several months and you see new people come and go quickly and you still remain.  It hurts...plain and simple.

    Yes, SAL girls are welcome back, but be selective when posting or replying.

    I think it took courage to say how she and so many others feel on this board.  I wanted to say the same thing so many times.

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  • MelissaAB5579MelissaAB5579 member
    imagemmcrocker:

    I replied below, but I'll reply here as well...

    For the pg girls, it's called being thoughtful.  There are ladies here that have been trying for more than six months after their m/c and some it's been around a year since their m/c.  Kekis was not trying to be rude at all.  There are good days and  bad days, but it does hurt when you've been trying for several months and you see new people come and go quickly and you still remain.  It hurts...plain and simple.

    Yes, SAL girls are welcome back, but be selective when posting or replying.

    I think it took courage to say how she and so many others feel on this board.  I wanted to say the same thing so many times.

    I agree with you 100%. I just wanted to make sure I wasn't hurting anyone. 

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  • BeckyS1211BeckyS1211

    I definitely like to know how my previous TTCAL buddies are doing. 

    However, I'm not really comfy just peeking on on SAL and checking up randomly.  If you have updates and no longer feel comfy posting here, maybe you could just post that you have an update over on SAL for those who wish to know like myself? 

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  • MelissaAB5579MelissaAB5579 member
    imageBeckyS1211:

    I definitely like to know how my previous TTCAL buddies are doing. 

    However, I'm not really comfy just peeking on on SAL and checking up randomly.  If you have updates and no longer feel comfy posting here, maybe you could just post that you have an update over on SAL for those who wish to know like myself? 

    I will do this Bec, or message you on FB. 

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  • BeckyS1211BeckyS1211
    Thanks Melis!
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  • qsuziezqsuziez
    imageBeckyS1211:

    I definitely like to know how my previous TTCAL buddies are doing. 

    However, I'm not really comfy just peeking on on SAL and checking up randomly.  If you have updates and no longer feel comfy posting here, maybe you could just post that you have an update over on SAL for those who wish to know like myself? 

    I must admit I agree with Becky (I too was shy to visit SAL when TTC for so long)

    I was very cautious about posting anything over here after I got my BFP because I, too, knew firsthand how bad it could hurt to see pg ladies with great news all the time.  But after not posting over here for a while I recieved inquiries from TTCAL ladies who wondered why I was so distant. 

    I am very selective with the things I post over here but like alot of you, I have very strong relationships with the girls over here because I was struggling with TTC also, after my loss.  Many of the girls over here have made it clear that they don't lurk on SAL but love updates because it gives hope.

    I agree that some posts can hurt more than others and I do agree that ladies need to be respectful and thoughtful when posting but I can't really say that I agree with only PMing and emailing after a TTCALer gets a BFP.

    We're all in this together and no one wants to see those BFP's more than your friends on here. 

    I love you girls from the bottom of my heart - truly.

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  • Tonya_GTonya_G member
    imagemmcrocker:

    There are ladies here that have been trying for more than six months after their m/c and some it's been around a year since their m/c.  Kekis was not trying to be rude at all.  There are good days and  bad days, but it does hurt when you've been trying for several months and you see new people come and go quickly and you still remain.  It hurts...plain and simple.

    And there are some of us who also tried for more than six months and finally had success! It's been a year and a half for me of trying, a year this month since my last BFP. I felt as though that post was not merely directed at the "new" people who come and go quickly, but anyone who got a BFP, which, is a little dissapointing, IMO.

     

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  • httnhttn
    I admit it's tough for me, I'm not sure where I fit in. I have been on the pl since 07/and the SAL board as well. I am always so happy to see ladies get their sticky bfp and do like to know how they are doing. I also really appreciate their wisdom and willingness to share.
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  • SweetPea517SweetPea517

    With everything that has been said over the past few days... I can agree with both sides.  But for me the reason that I chose this message board rather the the pl board was that I want, and need, some hope right now.  I want to share in the success of good news and hope that my day will come soon.  And I hope that I continue to see familiar names/faces post their good news.

     

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