Um, 3 dead babies in the family is NOT because of co-sleeping

iris427 · March 2009

Obviously there is something else going on there.

I have been safely co-sleeping for 6 months, every night. I know many other moms who co-sleep. Co-sleeping is a traditional practice in many parts of the world. Most co-sleeping accidents are preventable if you are SAFE--no co-sleeping on the couch or if you've had too much to drink, for example.

And until you've had a screaming newborn who won't sleep anywhere but ON you, or wakes up and cries every time you try to transfer her to her crib, don't judge moms who co-sleep.

orleyl · March 2009

While I agree that co-sleeping COULD lead to smothering, I do not think 3 in one family is an accident. if u lost 1 baby, u would think u would never do that again.

AMYfromKY · March 2009

I have no intentions to co-sleep, but I agree with iris. 3 babies in one family is not because of co-sleeping. That's just absurd.

iris427 · March 2009

LOL who rated this 1 star? The chick who was all judgey about co-sleeping?

5dogs · March 2009

THANK YOU! While we're not directly co-sleeping (we're using an Arm's Reach co-sleeper next to bed), I can't imagine where people are making such wild assumptions without the slighest ounce of research.

AMYfromKY · March 2009

iris427:
LOL who rated this 1 star? The chick who was all judgey about co-sleeping?

most likely

besszilla · March 2009

Even advocates of co-sleeping warn against sleeping on the couch with an infant.

iris427 · March 2009

cmeon_the_water:

I don't see how anyone with half a brain could read that article and come away with, "Co-sleeping killed that baby!"

I often wonder this about some nesties.

Mrs.DeliaMarieP · March 2009

While this is the first time I have seen a story of 3 children dying from co-sleeping accidents in one family, I have had my share of experience with it enough to avoid co-sleeping at all costs.

My father was a detective. He was only called to the scene of an accident if someone had died. Also, he often had to witness autopsies.

One day, there had been two "SIDS" deaths of children under the age of 1. The medical examiner decided to do both autopsies simultaneously, so he had to witness both children's autopsies at once. Both cases turned out to be due to accidental suffocation from co-sleeping.

The images of these children still haunt my dad in his nightmares, and it has been years since this occurred.

I will never, ever co-sleep no matter how much my child screams and cries. The closest I would come to this is the "Arm's Reach Co-sleeper" since it is actually only attached to the bed but is its own area.

smurfetteinred · March 2009

I agree. This was not a case of co-sleeping killing a baby but of a drunken irresponsible parent putting her children in danger. That child was smashed face down into the corner of the sofa. That's not co-sleeping that's blatent neglect. The odds are good she passed out on top of that poor baby.

There are studies that show that sids rates are actually lower in cosleeping situations than in non cosleeping babies. Here's what Dr. Sears has to say on the subject: https://askdrsears.com/html/10/t102200.asp. Many cases of co-sleeping deaths are caused by completely unsafe sleeping practices by parents who aren't educated properly on sleeping safety. If you put your baby down in their crib with a pillow a bunch of stuffed animals and a blanket there's a good chance they're going to smother too. It's all about safety here.

I don't co-sleep but I've done my research.

bostonfingerlakes07 · March 2009

iris427:
Obviously there is something else going on there.
I have been safely co-sleeping for 6 months, every night. I know many other moms who co-sleep. Co-sleeping is a traditional practice in many parts of the world. Most co-sleeping accidents are preventable if you are SAFE--no co-sleeping on the couch or if you've had too much to drink, for example.
And until you've had a screaming newborn who won't sleep anywhere but ON you, or wakes up and cries every time you try to transfer her to her crib, don't judge moms who co-sleep.

Yes to all of this.

ladysingstheblues · March 2009

I will never get over the shock of seeing "dead babies" in a post title on the bump.

Mama-Bear · March 2009

When I was pg with DS, there was no way in hell I was going to co-sleep. The day after we came home from the hospital my mom and I went to BRU to buy a co-sleeper. He was in there for a few months, then moved into our bed until he was 8m. I loved that time so much, it was our special bonding time. I hope to be able to do it with our future children at least as long.

emcgrath · March 2009

iris427:

Obviously there is something else going on there.

I have been safely co-sleeping for 6 months, every night. I know many other moms who co-sleep. Co-sleeping is a traditional practice in many parts of the world. Most co-sleeping accidents are preventable if you are SAFE--no co-sleeping on the couch or if you've had too much to drink, for example.

And until you've had a screaming newborn who won't sleep anywhere but ON you, or wakes up and cries every time you try to transfer her to her crib, don't judge moms who co-sleep.

High needs baby?? LOL. I can relate

ju.vanderw · March 2009

You seem to be pretty familiar with co-sleeping - do you have any recommended sites with detailed information? I'd love to read it.

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